Parents are terrible people. And the parents of athletes are still worse. Stop, it was a joke!
Recently, Alina persuaded me to take her to figure skating. And it gave me a lot of new reflection. Lots of. As usual, more about yourself than Alina. We go to the novice group twice a week. For myself, there is no sporting attitude. I learned to skate already adult and I did not like completely. Therefore, I am glad that Alina will learn earlier, behind it led her.
There are many children in class, the coach is good, parents are sitting on the podium - are present. And with my younger daughter Ulyana are also present. And that's what we think (about Ulyana, of course, it is impossible to say, but for some reason I am sure that she will hold me):
Parents are terrible people. And the parents of athletes are still worse. Stop, it was a joke! Although, as in any joke, there is some joke in it.
For some reason, it is simply sad to look sad for my parents who have huge Baulas for children (this is a stone in the vegetable garden of hockey players), on parents who lead children to classes 5 times a week, sitting on them and experienced, more than a child. Giving advice taking three-year-old children for inattention, continuously photographing them, and discussing, as their children do not work. It's sad to watch it all.
Because it is difficult. It's hard to live your life when 24/7 serve other people's lives. And I want to make these other people's lives. Live the life of a child. It is easier, less responsibility, you can always be in a more advantageous position of the observer and do not try new and terrible.
You can know everything in theory and explain to everyone, like that, at the same time do not skate yourself. You can stand and worry about your child and advise, and scold him, even if he does not hear. Why, by the way? The rink is big, the children on the other side of the stands - why advise all the time and win the child?
I look at it all I understand - if you drive a baby's roller five times a week, putting on the skates, all the ammunition (this is again about hockey, I really impressed me the size of my bags) then remove everything, then go home, then it's true It takes all my life. And you want / do not want you begin to turn on more child. Because you make any more so that it is all. Add to this another payment of these classes and it turns out that all life is put on it.
And it is difficult to resist. Since another huge factor comes, the success of the child.
If your child gets something, it is so ... heats. And inspires, and pleases, and fills forces. And you are ready to roll the mountains to feel this pride again. This is my child, and he is cool! And I'm cool, because I have such a child.
Recently, when I see a talented child, I always watch him behind my back - who is behind him? Who does it do with him, who helps, leads? And when I tell me - what kind of child are well done, everything turns out, - I say, - No, wait, then Mom Well done. And maybe even, first of all, well done, since he led him, helped him, inspired, set up, made his homework with him ... Here it is well done. First she and then a child.
And apparently, I did not grow up yet, but I's offensive for these moms. For the fact that their work is not visible, for the fact that they choose a child instead of themselves, or for the fact that they have time and the child will drive everywhere, and live with their own interests. And no one puts the monument in life for this.
I want every mother to have the opportunity to give time to myself. Enchanting by society, law, family, relatives - by all. The birth of a child and changes the whole life so much, and often to keep part of their hobbies and interests, you need help or even the lack of condemnation or interference. Not in words, but in deed. It may be, and you will not have to invest everything in a child.