Actual topic on the eve of holidays (and generally)
Children and gadgets are forever patient for modern parents theme. Someone is ready to purchase a five-year plan. Personal tablet, and someone believes that the child must go to the tongue to the adulthood - and no independent Internet access.
Despite the fact that there are general recommendations from pediatricians and children's psychologists as often as long as children of different ages can stick to gadgets, each family receives a decision on the acquisition of a personal phone child or tablet independently - in any case, now it is already completely inevitable step.
The writer and teacher of English Amelia Kibby wrote a column for Mom.com website, in which he told about the relationship with his little daughter with gadgets and agreed on the topic of how it can be understood that the child was "doser" to possession of his own telephone. Translated it with small abbreviations.
When I fasten my daughter in a car seat, I know what awaits me. Question. The question she constantly asks. Question for me. The very question.
"Mommy?, She charmingly slams long eyelashes. - Can I have your phone? ". "Baby, we ride five minutes. You do not need a phone, "I say. "You are welcome? You are welcome! I will make more things home! "
I do not answer anything and start moving towards her kindergarten. I'm so tired of explaining something to her. And although I'm angry with her, twice as much I'm angry with myself. Because I am an adult, and I made it. I did it myself.
I know that she is not the only child, obsessed with the phone, and yes, all applications that are there for her - educational. But I worry. Sometimes, when she plays, and I call her by name, she does not answer, because it is so immersed in the game. I watched such behavior in children of various ages: from kindergartens to college students.
So why do we continue to give our children phones?And why am I already starting to think about buying my daughter's own gadget? Damn, I can't believe that I am writing about it, but I feel that the appearance of my own phone my daughter ... completely inevitable. So the question is not whether it will happen if the question is when it happens.
According to the research center, I drink the middle age when children get their first phone, is 12-13 years old. However, all children are different, and it is necessary to take into account many factors before you give the phone to the child. That's what I think.
Why is my daughter need a phone?Why do people actually need phones in the age of endless applications and social networks? For all this it is easy not to notice the real benefits of phones. When a child becomes older, he has more classes and obligations, but at the same time he cannot drive himself. With the help of the phone, the daughter will be able to call me when she ends the training when it needs to be riddled, and so on. This will help us get rid of problems with communication and situations when someone is waiting for someone.
In addition, the phone may be needed to learn homework on the teacher's page, check the weather, use GPS, follow the physical activity or even learn a foreign language.
How can I understand that she "matured" for his own phone?This is another aspect that for each child should be evaluated individually. I believe that my daughter will shoot your own phone, when learning how to understand how much he stands and how to care for him. I plan very clearly and clearly explain to her how much the phone is standing, and that if it breaks, the new one will get very and very soon.
Another aspect of maturity is manifested in understanding the risks associated with the use of the phone: for example, my daughter should understand what is dangerous to correspond and go through the way at the same time or leave personal data online.
How do I plan to follow the use of the phone?There is a border between to be aware of what your child uses his phone and Internet access, and to turn into a spy or big brother. All parents who think to hand their children's phones should represent what level of involvement from them will need, and whether they are ready to support it.
Idea Install the application on the phone that will allow to see everything that your child does with the phone seems to be tempting, but this is already interference in a personal life. How much do you trust your child? Will you worry if he starts thinking that you betrayed his trust? I personally do not like this thought.
What else to take into account?It seems to me that before handing my daughter's phone, I will explain to her clear rules and the boundaries of its use and tell about the consequences, directly related to their violation - before she contradicts the phone. At the same time, I want to give her a chance to prove that she will be able to responsibly use the gadget, and not automatically assume the opposite.