I raised a toast on the anniversary of the girlfriend and said in a joke:
- 40 years old - cool age. One girlfriend became a grandmother. Another - went to the decret!
It turned out - the boat. This grandmother by the end of the year was unscheduled with a grandmother. And I ... got pregnant.
And it seems I didn't feel old, but I already had teenage children with whom I had difficulty. And then there is also a coming baby with which sleepless nights will come, sick belly and cutting teeth. This period was very hard for the whole family.
How it all began
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- Early Climax! - My mother said authoritatively when I complained about the lack of critical days.
"But I have no other signs," I shrugged.
- This is our family, I also didn't even feel. Recovered, and in two years later returned to the form. And there has been a great life without monthly mood drops.
I just imagined this rainbow picture - finally I am not dependent on my unpleasant symptoms of PMS - and decided: early, but not bad.
A week later we met with friends. Somehow passed the conversation on health. Well, I boasted.
"Climax began," I said. - Yes, so troubled everything, beauty! Only the edema appeared. Boca here, waist, hips have become such pronounced.
One of the buddies looked at me closely.
- I do not want to spoil you the mood, but did you have a doctor? She asked.
- No, everything is no time.
- It looks more like a pregnancy, not on the early climax.
"Yes, what kind of pregnancy, we don't want more children with your husband - I would cope with older," I replied, and I thought about my personal.
- Well, you at least test.
- What for? Definitely not! - However, I was not so sure.
On the way home I drove into the pharmacy. And after half an hour with tears called her husband. He was to be his father again. In 49 years.
Fortunately, the husband did not just support me - he even pretended to be delighted.
- Come on that you! Together we can, with the older they were able!
I cried. I wanted back - in those times, when we did not sleep when I painfully fed the breast and every day was similar to the previous one. I do not like babies. I learned joy with my own children only when they went to school. But there was nowhere to go - my husband and I spoke all the options and decided that we would give birth.
As teenage children perceive their mother's pregnancy
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In a word - terrible. That's the way. We have a daughter for 14 years old and son 12. They did not expect such a substament. Bike both flourish in the hell. In the house every day conflicts and scandals. I didn't even know how to tell them. To begin with, I decided that I would go to the doctor, I finally definitely definitely, then let's talk.
Pregnancy confirmed me, the term was already 13 weeks. Therefore, the first screening was made immediately to eliminate the pathology of the fetus. From additional analyzes and checks, I refused immediately. Fortunately, ultrasound examination of difficulties has not revealed. No, I would not run to interrupt, but it would be pretty well. And then there was enough of the stress - I did not want to traumat the older children. Who did not even know that now they are older.
The news for them turned out to be very traumatic. I didn't try to prevent this softer with my husband, there was still stress.
Son for some reason perceived the coming appearance of a new child as a betrayal. Of course, it's a shame when all your life you are the youngest, and now someone will be born, who will throw off the pedestal.
We spoiled your son themselves. Grandparents also connected. Despite the difference with the sister, just two years old, she was always "senior and responsible." Its were injured significantly less.
However, for her, the baby was also not joy. I must say that the daughter took the process of his growing hard. She did not like the fact that her body is changing. She perceived relations between the floors. Well, for the word in my pocket I did not climb. Therefore, she stated:
- A shame! You will walk with the belly, and all my girlfriends will find out that you still have sex! In your age!
If the situation was different, I would ban it to be expressed. But now I needed to save my child from herself. The one in the stomach does not suffer as this girl who is afraid of what is happening with her itself and with the world around. Therefore, I strained all the power of the will and did not blame her.
"Yes," I just said. - We love each other with Pope. Therefore, we will have another child.
Relatives were shocked
I allowed my children to be angry and jealous than shocked the rest of the relatives.
- What did you think at all? - Ask me someone from loved ones. - You simply do not have time to grow it!
- Yes, there will be a burden to other children. My daughter will have to raise instead of creating his family.
- Children, talk to my mother so that she makes an abortion, one of the family members tried to influence me like this - through adolescents.
At first I spoke, explained. And then spit. Such decisions are accepted only by a woman and a man. They created life - to them and decide what to do with it.
However, I was very offended by attempts to impose responsibility for our husband's decision on older children. I saw that they were already hard. And adult relatives suddenly began to put pressure on them additionally. I realized that I would definitely do that.
- I will hate him! - Saying daughter to the infant.
"Well, this is your full right," I answered.
- I do not want you to give birth to him! - Son stated.
"I understand that you feel, but I am responsible for such things myself." It does not depend on you. But you have the right not to love a little brother or sister.
So, I never forbade my children jealous, angry and hate the future child in absentia. Instead, I generally tried once again not to talk about it and pay higher attention when they wanted. Unfortunately, it is not too often adolescent.However, we went to the cinema, organized the home watching of movies on weekends, they prepared a pizza together and walked all the four-way. My husband and I tried very hard to deprive my son and daughter.
Before childbirth it became easier
By the last months I already knew that I am waiting for a girl.
On the one hand, it was relief. I could save for my son's sense of exclusivity - let not younger, but the only boy. On the other hand, it was not quite clear how the daughter reacts.
But from now on, she became my girlfriend. The news that it will have a sister all changed. Not the last role in this was played by her friends, who immediately began to paint all the advantages of such kinship.
- You can dress it up! Move pigties! Play with her! - They shook behind the closed door of these in the essence of small girls, just recently started to grow.
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The daughter was excited. Periodically, she frowned, but when I suggested together to go buy things to the baby, I agreed. I paid for what she chose. Calms were beautiful, but impractical. I still consider it an important investment in our relationship.
How older perceived the younger
In fact, the experiences of children were not the main problem for pregnancy. I constantly spoiled the mood of relatives with negative forecasts and doctors who tried to reinforce and immediately send me to Cesarean, the testimony to which was only the age. Nerves battered very strongly. As a result, I gave birth easily, quickly and independently. By 40 years, the birth no longer seem to be very hard for a woman. It's just a job, and not such a stressful, unlike the one where I pay a salary monthly.
With relatives it was more difficult. They voiced all fears - ranging from the birth of a child with pathology and ending with the fact that I can no longer return to the profession. If you are lucky and do not die on attempts.
When a healthy girl was born with a weight of almost 5 kg, all, of course, the experiences changed to joy.
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My husband and I agreed in advance and offered the eldest children to come up with a younger name.
- What if you call somehow too fashionable? - Husband was frightened at first.
- Survive! - I replied.
The children first surprised such generosity, then they were advised and issued:
- Sofia!
We exhaled with relief. The name is beautiful. Now the chance appeared and the fact that they can eventually love sister.
Help senior is not required
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Another brick in the foundation of friendship between the elders and the youngest, I believe that we did not change them in the duty help with a baby.
Yes, like that. Could raise, talk about responsibility, about mutual assistance, to support the family, put on pity, telling about how much mom is tired. But they did not do this. Nobody forced us to give birth to a child at that age, we plan all the care. Perhaps because no one forced the elders, they became an indispensable assistants in a month.
Son is very stalling that he was the only man who smiles sides, and on whose hands she stopped crying when the belly was sick. My daughter is simply actually used to help me. She is not the first year older sister.
The baby very swallowed our family. I, however, do not urge to give birth to younger to survive the pubertal period from the elders. But it really works. Even the stubborn teenagers were placed in the center of their world, and a newborn sister.