Nowadays, to families in which there are many children, but at the same time are below the poverty line relate to the negative. Most often, such families hear "why appeal", "poverty" and other unpleasant statements. But few people know the real cause of what happened, so do not rush to judge. With this question we turned to several old mothers to find out how happy they are, what they think about this and why still continue to give birth.
Alla: "Loss of a man, here is the birth price of one of the children"
Alla was happy, but after she had a firstborn, her husband threw his family. And this is after 17 years of living together. Cause - Girls from birth was a serious form of cerebral palsy.
Having coped with the first shock from the diagnosis, the woman had to overcome and heart pain from the departure of her husband. But before you go away, the relationship was smashed so much that my husband began to raise his hand until she beat her so that the woman had landed into the hospital. Men gave 3 years conditionally. He asked later back, but Alla did not forgive.
Families in which one of the partners cannot withstand the difficulties, the phenomenon is not rare, but most often the men leave. The sick child requires a lot of strength, attention and energy, and Alla's husband was in nature an egoist, which missed this attention.
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But the woman remains a woman and Alla, became acquainted with another man who worked very beautifully and, as a result, she again became pregnant. This news found Uhager by surprise, and he suddenly disappeared without a trace. Support was not on the part of parents or from the familiar. Many said to make an abortion, because you only 22 and you have a daughter with disabilities. But the young mother left the child.
So the family appeared arseny. In the breaks between the feeding of soap floors in the post office for a penny, but in the end, the boss noted her and helped to pass the operator's courses. So, Alla began another life with a stable salary and new hopes. Soon he met a man who, after the accident, remained sacrobed to the wheelchair.
The man, despite the disability, was engaged in Paralympic sports. Soon the couple got married, and after 10 years, divorced. Alla taught this marriage, and a disabled man helped in raising children.
The new dad appeared during the passage of rehabilitation in a sanatorium, where Alla was with her daughter. I got acquainted with a man who was with her city. They exchanged phones and soon began to meet. Alla was 39 years old and it was about getting pregnant, did not go. But it so happened that she again got pregnant and completely pulled when her new man suddenly said that he did not want a child and forced her to go to the abortion. But Alla, withstood the onslaught and the fact that the man was gone. Leaving a child. So the third child was born, the girl Alice.
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Now Alla has three children, one of which is in a wheelchair. As a woman explained, it is very difficult for her, but God gives the opportunity to "raise" the children, even if it seems that the situation is hopeless. As for loneliness, she always wanted a family, just not lucky with men.
History of Elena: "I wanted to do not want to men weak, it's better to live
Elena Ryabova, a large mother living in the Ivanovo region. The woman has five children and she never lowered his hands. It copes easily, and in the absence of men it says "it's better than Abuba with whom." Always claimed that she gives birth to himself, children love and no one concerns as I dress or feed them.
According to Elena, many rich, having one child blow out of him dust and dress up in the most expensive things. And the child as a result can become a drug addict due to the fact that he was just spoiled.Everything in the world relative to, as well as an understanding of how better. Someone says that I patch poverty. Well, let them say. I love my children, and if the Lord God send me more children, I will accept everyone with gratitude.
With a personal life, Elena does not develop. Literally lives, a year or two and diverges. But the children remain and it is forever.
So do not hurry to condemn and say, they say "why gives birth." It gives birth not to you, but for myself. The main thing is that women feel harmonious in their lives, although they do not hide that there is much lacking.