Sad story from the life of Mom, who moved his own child for love for a man. What mental pain survived the woman when he learned about true
Step from her child, and what decision did she have to take?
Each time I sat for a laptop, opened a Vordvsky document, but I could not decide to write my story. In one, I'm sure for sure, it will become a good lesson for other mothers who will teach many not only to hear, but also believe their child and soberly look at the situation. I had everything with an accuracy of the opposite. My love, as if shy in front of his eyes, eclipsed my mind. I was so in love with a man, which decided on a very serious act - reject the child and devote himself to a partner.
A little about yourself: I am a 27-year-old girl, gave birth to a child at 23 from your beloved man. I can not say that I was happy with him, even though the relationship with us was just perfect. But a big grief happened. When our seed was 2.5 years old, the husband fell into a terrible accident and after 2 days after that he died. As the doctor said, the reason is the multiple injuries and fractures that are incompatible with life. What I experienced after his death, only one God knows, so I don't want to remember it and describe. But I will say only one, suicidal thoughts visited me. The only thing that stopped me is my child. At one moment I got insight - I realized that I should live just for him!
Start of relationship
She passed 5 years, Semyon grown - now he is 7.5 years old, and he goes to the first class. My child is the only joy in my life. He grows a real man - in many ways it helps me, supports morally, and just pleases what I have!
However, it was such a moment when I had to push him into the background. He stopped being for me a person number 1 in the world. It happened when I met, as it seemed at first glance, a decent man. The tall, statutory, conscious and very handsome young man just immediately turned my head. Communicating no more than a year, we decided to go and live together.
Anatoly I introduced my family after 5 months of communication. I did not expect, but my beloved showed himself a caring and gentle stepfather. He regularly indulged in sweets, toys, took him on fishing, training. I will say honestly, I was so happy, because both of my most expensive people became real friends - what could be better?
We lived in my two-room, there was enough space. At the beginning, a complete idyll reigned in our family. The joint pastime of Anatoly with the child was diverse and brought Semen only joy and pleasure - joint trips, walks, ribs on nature. Tolik did expensive gifts - presented the seed tablet, which he had long dreamed of. However, this idyll is rapidly ended, literally immediately after we legituted our relationship.
My indifference
Suddenly my beloved and the most desirable man lost its work. Despite this, I drove bad thoughts away. He herself worked as an economist in a good firm. I often had to linger at work. One day when I was once again delayed at work, my child called me. He spoke with a trembling and agitated voice. He asked me: "How soon will I come back home?" What I answered, do you all at home well. The son said that everything is in order, but I had a bad premonition that something is still wrong. Thille thinking, I quickly gathered and went home.
Opening the door of the apartment, I heard strong screams - Anatoly shouted to the child, trying to make him folded his belongings. For some moment, I, on the contrary, was delighted that some household trifle was the reason for their quarrel. After all, on the way home, I already wound like this.
Therefore, the perturbations of the Tolik in relation to the child were justified and did not confuse me. Now I understand that before myself did not allow me. After all, we have all the problems with the seed quietly and peacefully. He understood me from halfstore. Going into the kitchen, I saw a broken child and smiling tolik. His smile just seduced me, and I lowered this situation. Now I understand that the worst thing I did not even go into the nursery to talk to the seed after what happened. And it was a huge mistake.
But that's not all, when everyone was met by their beds, Tolik began to staggent. They say you have such a sludge, egoist and trash. To tell me that I am a bad mother and poorly raising the child did not bother any man! And even more so, that I do not have enough brains. Do not believe, but on all his reservations, I just nodded my head and was silent. Tolik, not expecting such a reaction, immediately decided to release all his arsenal, saying that now completely upbringing seed takes over. What I agreed again.
Of course, it was convenient for me, given that I didn't have anything catastrophically and I'm terribly tired, and Tolik helped with lessons, drove to training, took from school. A peculiar nurse in a male appearance. As a result, I was completely distinguished from my son, having schooked completely on the shoulders of stepfather.
The child changed sharply - he became closed, silent, stopped meeting me with his arms when I returned from work. The worst thing I did not even notice it. I didn't notice that Semyon at the sight of me and my spouse together a bullet ran into my room. It came to the point that I even stopped interested in how he was doing at school, whether he goes to a street walking with friends and what he was doing in his free time. But before everything was completely different: he shared with me everything that happened in his day. His stories were so emotional that I did not even dare to interrupt it.
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The secret has become apparent
The day of sudden illumination came - I realized that I make a big mistake. Everything happened in the entertainment center when Semyon completely refused to play with Tolik. I have caused anger, and I decided to punish the child - I expressed him what was ungrateful and put in an a corner. Semes began hysterics, tears, I tried, but could not calm him down. Grabbed him and brought it on the street to talk.
We sat down on the nearest shop, I hugged him tightly and began to cry too. Through the tears, I asked to tell what happened. Hearing what the child says, I off the shock. I felt so gadko that I can't even pass ... Now I realized how bad my child is. Sema told how a Tolik not only shouted at him, but also beat him, and everyone that came to her arm. Moreover, he scored his son, which will give him in the orphanage, if he tells his mother.
But these were only flowers. With each convenient case, the spouse spoke to the child that I no longer love him that a different baby would appear soon, after which the seven would not need a mother in general. What did this man want to achieve, I still do not understand - whether I completely conquer my attention, whether to show my child's attention or he just unbelieving him.
Sema so strongly pressed me that I myself began to roar the voyage. After a while, when we calmed down, decided, it's time to return to the recreation area. Tolik, who saw our faces, understood everything. However, I did not tell him anything. In order not to start a scandal with a child, we took it to a couple of hours for my friend.
Having left alone with her husband, I did not even have time to say anything, as Tolik began to express me: "How could you believe this shit? He specifically configures you against me! ". I had one reaction for the word "Gadenash" - I began to beat him with fists despite the fact that he led the car.
For my question, he beat him, replied: "I slapped a couple of times."
Heavy solution
All the fact that I told my faithful to collect things and get out of my house. The most miserable thing he began to begging, to ask for forgiveness, to promise that there would be no more. But I was like an unstable wall!
For a long time after what happened and even now, I torment myself for what I did with my child - small and defenseless. He often punished him for slandering to Tolik, forced him to sit for a long time in his room. I know that I have no forgiveness and I do not deny my guilt. I can only say one thing that this situation served me a good lesson. Now no man will not take the place of her son in my heart!