Always in our environment there will be people with whom, as it seems, we are fine in Ladim. But in the end, we understand that everything is not as good as it seemed before.
Such cases do not have their own "age". They can be in completely different periods of life, and often neither life experience nor good attitude to protect against such. There will always be people who will try to break us or say nasty behind their backs.
Why people say nasty
Where does the desire to talk unpleasant things come from? Some people are needed to humiliate others when they feel a threat. And this threat is not real. They do not like their position, so they either reduce our self-esteem to leave on their level, or they speak unpleasant things about us to overshadow our personality in the eyes of others. But almost always this is a protective reaction, moving the desire to feel better, blaming, insulting or giving another person.What is their goal
Their goal is to have a negative impact on us and overestimate their own significance. And almost always this conscious act. It is at this time that we begin to regret many words that once shared. After all, now their knowledge is playing against us.
How to be in cases where people say nasty behind their backs
It is important to remember one rule. Those words that a person speaks of others is more characterized by him, and not about whom he says. In such cases, it can be done in different ways, it all depends on your own feeling.
- You can openly blame the attackers in unpleasant actions and go to confrontation with him. If the influence of his words was high and influenced the authority, then most likely it will need to be done.
- If the situation is non-critical or the opinion of others do not play the role, it is better to "make a break from the shoulder" and go further. Such people represent us in the wrong light to those who listen to them. And if the listening people wish to take information, they will take it. You can do nothing with it.
People who darken the life of another person with bad actions, understand that they cannot control it. Therefore, they seek to control how this person see this person. Of course, it is dishonest. But this happens. It is possible to react to it or react, or release them with the problems far-thined and go to your expensive, without turning on the obstacle left behind.