Alfonso is, first of all, a dexterous manipulator, often with good acting data, a charming social parasite, whose undoubted damage is not taken into account by the Criminal Code as atrocity.
The origins of "male prostitution" (Alphonse "sells itself", and not just uses its charm to seduce) need to look for in childhood. Often it is "Mamienekin Son", "a cute boy", from which they did not require anything, were fencing from all the "harm" of this gross world.
In a huge number of cases in the family, there was no father, a mother, grandmother, numerous aunt and a friend of mother circled around the spoiled boy. He grew up infantile, lazy and misintermetative. At the same time, such a boy, due to childish observation, was well noticed by the peculiarities of the behavior of women - what they like, and what they do not have, listened to their intimate conversations.
Having matured, he began to search in other women the reflection of his generous, but a unreasonable mother, always fencing him from all children's adversity, which paid all his whims. Such a lady should be rich and successful so that you can comfortably hide behind her "maternal" back and spend, without thinking, her money.
The main task of the Alfons - to find a gullible wealthy woman, seduce it and, if the case is favorable, live with her for a while, pretty devastating her wallet.
Alfons Behavior Akin to the Ubuits Dear Curtains:
- Single view, elegant outfits, fashionable haircut, dear flavor, shaved body.
- It tries to look like a sex symbol, manner, likes to make an impression, hysterious (often in connection with this, it is mistakenly accepted by other men for the representative of the alternative orientation and oszyan).
- Hollow the challier, the smile is not coming from the face. If a woman smokes, always will bring a lighter in time, zipping away from a taxi with a zipper and helpfully open the door, takes a drunk companion to the door of the ladies room with an understanding view, without demonstrating irritations or reproaches.
- Opened in communication, but never talks about herself, mentioning only that he experienced a personal drama and no longer believed to women, but he met such a beautiful and interesting for the first time.
- Interested in detail, it is interested in his acquaintance, asks her about work, financial status, her environment.
- If I understand that the lady is not rich in finances, then under the pretext that it is now that an extremely important meeting should take place, will try to accumulate. And let her pay! Immediately removes it from the phone book, blocks everywhere.
- If the "bold catch" caught, persistent, but in moderation, looks at the reaction of a woman for each gesture.
- When the novel was already twisted, there are talks immediately about what the money is needed, creditors are pressing, "Mom dies," the only housing can deprive. Looks at a woman in sad eyes: I could not lend him to him? Called a large amount. May be kneeling, kissing hands, let tear.
- Never shows his documents - under any contrived pretext of this evades.
- Does not like to be photographed, it is lying that neubotogenic, invents any magical prepositions ("Photos take away personal energy", etc.).
A woman in love, especially the status, appreciating his reputation, if deception, does not go to the police. Not every will turn out his soul in humans, telling how stupidly came across a primitive manipulation hook.
Is prevention in this case? Of course yes. You must do the following:
- Learn everything about the work of the new favorite (firm, position, salary, attitude towards him in the team).
- Refuse to pay bills. If at first acquaintance behaved generously, he paid in the restaurant, and when the relationship in a pair became close, suddenly it turned out that she had to pay a reason for a serious conversation.
- If it turned out that the Macho is unemployed - at first it is employed, and then a love relationship continues.
- Not introduces family and friends. Consistently demand that the acquaintance happens.
- Start a conversation about the child (even if you are not planning now). It is categorically against - this is a reason to alert.
How to get rid of Alfons:
- Close "Financial Crane". Hard and unequivocally.
- To say that everything around you actually does not belong to you. This property is your relatives.
- To marry his offer, tell me what you want to conclude a marriage contract. There is a good lawyer to whom you trust.
- The best and fun option - suddenly report that you have any financial difficulties, so now you will live at his expense. Come from work in the oppressed mood. Ask him to debt the amount of at least five zeros, saying that you want to solve your material problems. You will see how from him and the trail will spread.
At the same time it is necessary to get rid of gentle feelings (if they are still fresh and tormented you). In this case, the best assistant is pride. And yes, you do not need to regret. It was a good and useful life lesson.
Author - Oksana Arkadyevna Filatova
Source - Springzhizni.ru.