Speaking a compliment to another person, we sincerely want to make it nice, note his outstanding abilities, presentable appearance or light character. In practice, some "kind words", said it seems to be of the best motives, sometimes they sound so that they don't understand at all: you just praised or decided to insult?
Adme.ru was a list of compliments, having heard that any woman would rather get a couple of new complexes than confidence in herself.
1. "Now looks good today. What did you give up? "
What a woman hears: "Usually you are still Goblin, but today a miracle happened." The compliment appearance is good, but the clarification "today" somehow spoils everything. It immediately makes the impression that in everyday life you look if it's not entirely bad, then at least inconspicuous.
2. "You are so funny. For the girl it is rare "
What a woman hears: "Compared to a man, of course, your sense of humor is so-so. But to laugh at someone, it will be good. " So it happened in our society that most professional comedians are men. However, this does not mean that girls cannot have wit and excellent sense of humor. In recent years, the situation in recent years is changing and more and more female standards and different comedy women's shows appear. Therefore, it is not worth putting men and women to different bowls of scales and wait, whose "fun" will translate.
3. "She grows so beautifully"
What a woman hears: "Nightmare, what old you are!" Here just combo: you not only said that you are a lady aged, but also focused on what you are fading. It is better not to make compliments on this topic. Believe me, not a single woman wants to hear that she agitates (even beautiful).
4. "In my life I would not say that you have children"
What a woman hears: "You are not suitable for the role of the mother." Usually this phrase say women who look young, well-maintained and sports. However, the compliment is not read here at all. The girl who heard it in his address immediately comes to mind 1,000 and 1 reason why something is wrong with her: "I look bad? Lead a rampant lifestyle? Non-serious? Irresponsible? Nervous? What? " Although in fact another person is more likely to envy what you have children, but at the same time you do not match the clispanted image of a horse, like "good mothers."
5. "Wow! I would never have decided to wear it in your place. "
What a woman hears: "You look at all this just funny!" The prefix "in your place" seems to mean that you have some kind of flaw. Hearing such a compliment in your address, unwitting you begin to search for some shortcomings. It is better to honestly say that a girl is not very coming by one or another outfit, but only if she was interested in your opinion.
6. "With you so easy and simple! You like a kid in skirt "
What a woman hears: "Yes, with you cool, but no one perceives you as a woman." It is easy and comfortable to feel in the company of the opposite sex, therefore, therefore, such a compliment is aimed at praiseing a person with himself. Nevertheless, the status of "his dude" will please far from every woman.
7. "You have a non-standard smile"
What a woman hears: "Go to orthodontist and correct the bite." Even if it seems to you that the teeth of the interlocutor are ideal, with such compliments you need to be very careful. Many people live with an improper bite, and many are complex on this. In this case, the wording "non-standard smile" may sound quite ambiguous, better tell me "Beautiful / sincere / pleasant."
8. "Cool that you are not looped on thin"
What a woman hears: "You are too big and fat!" And let a person sincerely wanted to make a compliment to your appetizing forms, perceive such words as a subtle hint that you would not hurt a little (or even normal, kilograms for 10-15) to lose weight.
9. "Finally, you started to wear dresses and look like a real girl!"
What a woman hears: "You used to look awful." Great when a person in our environment is solved on new experiments with clothes. And, naturally, if we are not used to seeing it, it always surprises and causes emotions. But it is still better to make a compliment more tactful. Note, for example, that the girl has very beautiful legs, a thin waist, etc., but do not say this is a terrible "look like a real girl." And before the false was, what?
10. "You have such an unusual voice"
What a woman hears: "You sound like a nail around the glass." Unusual - What is it? Too loud or too quiet? Squeaky or rough? Can I go voiced cartoons? Let's be more accurate, formulating compliments. And the word "unusual" is better to replace, for example, "pleasant."
11. "For humanitaries you have great with logic!"
What a woman hears: "Before the intellectually developed person, you still do not reach anymore." Yes, the world is conditionally divided into techies and humanities: it is easier for someone to memorize text information, and someone working with numbers. But it does not make any of us worse or better. So let's not insult and understand the mental abilities of each other.
12. "I like that you do not bother over the appearance"
What a woman hears: "Well, you have a kind, of course. Put on the first thing that fell out of the closet? " Most likely, a person wanted to praise your personal style and make an emphasis on the fact that you do not follow blindly trend trends, but choose what you are comfortable. In practice, after these words, you feel a cindering in rags on the fairy ball.
We are confident that you can supplement this list of your examples. What are the ambiguous compliments from the opposite sex you heard in your address?