Hi friends. For consultations, men often come to me who cannot accept the final choice - to remain in relation to them or not, divorce your wife or try to fix something.
At the same time, of course, they themselves are not good - someone started a girlfriend, someone goes to "massage", and someone just runs into games or alcohol. The problem is not solved.
And here they have in consultation, they want to understand a quick way to determine whether the game is worth the game. Unfortunately, there is neither a single way to 100% iron to identify such things. Someone goes to psychologists, someone to the fortune tellers, someone in the comrades of the Council asks.
But I have a advice that will help you personally get more confidence, it is worth continuing or not. It is lower.
My advice consists of several parts. Read them carefully.
1. Check out the deadline
If no one can give you guarantees, then you need ... right, give them yourself. Check the deadline, how much are you still ready to try and try to change something, establish, return, etc.
3 months? 6 months? 1 year, 2 years? Put the date when you say "Well, I did everything that could, now you need to sum up."
And if by that time your goal will not be achieved (to establish relationships, return the woman, refuse to divorce), tell me what you could do everything, and it's time to go further.
2. During this period, try as much as possible.
Until the term did not come out, promise yourself to try as much as possible and work on making relationships as you want them to see. Spend or not spend money. Take care or help. Spend time. Give gifts. Do what you want and what you think important.
Again, without looking back, not doubting, without asking himself 10 times, whether you act correctly.
Delivered? All, act.
3. There are no guarantees, you will still doubt
Once again I want to emphasize that no one will give you guarantees and you will doubt, worry, nervous. This is normal.
The main thing is not to cease to work until the term has not been released. But when it comes out, then make a decision.
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What is good this method? By the fact that you yourself create your future, it does not depend on anyone. You do not need psychotherapists and throwing. You will be the guarantor yourself - said and did. Actually, a man with a capital letter is such and is, he does not need contracts and signatures.
So you can do in all areas - in a relationship, in work, in the hobby, in business. Set the timeline to the maximally inserted, and then analyze the result. And ignore doubts in the process.
Pavel Domrachev
- Helping men to solve their problems. Hurt, expensive, with a guarantee
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