I will reveal a big secret: children and adolescents - not idiots ...
Source: Valenciaplaza.
Posted by: Alberto Torres Blandina
Yesterday I received a message from my father of one of my students: "What should my son do to get a rating higher?" By chance of coincidence, his fifteen-year-old son at that moment was just in front of me, collected textbooks. Maybe this boy is dumb? No, I remembered that I have repeatedly had to interrupt his chatter during the lesson. Maybe it is too shy? Yes No, moreover, we have good, even trusting relationships. Is he too stupid to ask himself? No, this guy never impressed the fool.
Many parents seem to be convinced that their children are idiots. What does my daughter need to recall the exam? What book should I buy my son? Doesn't your child get involved in transgenderness?
I will reveal a big secret: children and adolescents are not idiots. It is a pity that you had to learn from me, but no, they are not stupid at all. Although ... if we try with you, it is quite possible, with time we will succeed, and we still turn them into round fools.
Socopsychologist Jonathan Hyidt argues that over the past 15 years, the number of children with allergies to peanuts increased three times. A possible reason is that parents, in order to avoid the development of this allergy from their children, began to buy foods that do not contain peanuts. Then the food industry adjusted and began to produce less products that may contain peanuts even in minimal doses. The media connected to them, which reported the risk of allergies to peanuts and the dangers, with it related.
15 years later, the number of children with this allergies increased three times. Why? When the body receives a dangerous substance in minimal quantities, he learns to defend himself from him, and if it has been removed from this contact, protection is not produced.
We live in the world of hyperteps and we provide a bear service to children who do not allow me to meet face to face with the world, as it is. They do not eat peanuts, they are afraid to ask the teacher about the book or fall into the exam and are injured, the poor fellow.
Conclusion Simple: Hyperopka is harmful. Children at all times broke the knees, because their way of knowledge of the world is to expose themselves with a small risk, throwing the world a challenge. If they play without adult supervision, then usually find ways to solve conflicts: develop rules of the game, deal with injustice, adapt to the group. And they learn to cope with such emotions as disappointment, frustration, anger.
But we almost do not give children the opportunity to encounter a real world. We tell them what and how they should do. This is our way to protect them from the gloomy world, full of dangers that are shown in the cinema and which the Internet is simply flooded.
These paranoid fears began in the late 80s and since then only grow. Do not drive on the scooter, but they hurt. Do not take treats from strangers, suddenly choose. Do not go one of the school, you can kidnap.
Undoubtedly, caution is important, there are certain boundaries that need to be installed. But protection turns into obsession. We choose to ban and isolate a child from a conflict instead of teaching it this conflict to decide.
Children grow in a bubble, they have no tools for solving problems and to manage emotions caused by these issues. So they grow, immature and dependent on parents. In schools and other educational institutions, they are also surrounded by a protective wall, and the main task of the institution is their security (which in this case is inevitable): children cannot take part in school tours without resolution signed by parents (suddenly will be lost and will wander through the streets, as Odysseus, unable to find his home), if the child feels bad, he can't go home independently (suddenly in the classroom he is blind or forgot how to move the road, and falls under the car).
Vlaper system, full of prohibitions and contradictions: "My son passed the lessons and went to the park, I will submit to the court to the teacher!", "The teacher did not tell my child, that it is necessary to recur work, now he does not have a quarter," "children We went to the performance, where we were talking about homosexuals, and we are a religious family. "
Of course, if your son does not know that the lessons can not walk - the director not heard that it was necessary to revive the work - this is the guilt of the teacher, and if he is not aware that there are homosexuals in the world - the theater is to blame! "
All these statements, the purpose of which is to remove any responsibility with children and shifting it on adults, in fact, say one thing: our children are fools. And so we not only leave them without them for the future life of the instruments, but also we instill terrible uncertainty, constantly inspiring them: you can't, because in the world is dangerous, because it will hurt.
The level of anxiety, neurosis, autogression, depressed among adolescents is growing (this is not my opinion, these are statistics). Their life is full of shame for what they consider themselves unable to solve problems. She is full of fear that they hurt them. It is convenient to consider yourself a victim, it guarantees attention and protect adults. Therefore, than you worse - the better: the teacher does not love me, I was called lazy, the tasks are very difficult.
Teachers have to work in constant pressure and auto-scenters. Any comment or joke, eliminated from the context, may be the cause of serious problems. The book, selected for reading, can be a reason for complaints. Exit - remove all potentially dangerous topics and ideas, hyperophec now already in school. The circle closes.
The goal of education is to prepare students for life, teach them to think, develop in them the ability to creativity and critical thinking. But we protect them from everything, put in sterile space so that they, God forbid, do not bother.
Why should I need education at all if it does not prepare us for life? Does not to cope with problems and manage your own emotions? Does not to think independently and respect someone else's opinion?
Will parents finally serve their children from his chest, let them go to independent swimming? Teach them to be independent and independent? Do we, teachers, with our pedagogical mission?
If we are not educating a new generation, what future are they waiting for them? The future in which adults will really turn into those in those who are not capable of weakly we are trying to make them so hard.