Instructions from users of Reddit
In terrible parental stories there is no place for ghosts and zombies - they usually about how the child wakes up every half an hour, diapers ended, or even write such scary - the children heard mom and dad have sex.
Just such a terrible story with users of Rudita shared a customer with nickname MediumGlitter. She noted that her sons (10 and 12 years old) in the morning "behaved strange."
A little later it turned out that the children involuntarily witnessed parental love, or rather, heard her. "We are openly talking about sexuality in the family," explained MEDIUMGLITTER. "I told them that we love each other with dad, and sex is very personal, but they continue to ask me questions, for example, why only I have published sounds, and so on." I'm terrified, but I don't want them to think that in a healthy sexual relationship there is something shameful. What would you do in my place? "
In case, if one day you will fall into a similar situation (which we, of course, we sincerely wanted), transferred to you the most curious answers of users of REDDIT - were among them and useful, and funny, and frankly strange.
Honestly answer questions
"I would honestly answered their questions," wrote a user with Nick Tacotuesdayfiesta. - Just explain everything at the level of 10-12 years. Now, when children can gain access to anything on the Internet, I would prefer them to address the information to me, and not looking for it on their own. "
As on the American roller
"When I was a teenager, my girlfriend told me how her teacher answered the question" Why do people scream during sex? " (They had a box where it was possible to lower a note with anonymous questions), "Propiacarne's customer told. "The teacher said that for the same reason, for which people shout, riding on the American slides - because they are delighted, and all that. Then it seemed to me that it was absolutely logical, and since I still remember this, made a strong impression on me. Maybe you should try the same analogy - some people make more sounds, while others do not publish them at all. "
All people are different
The easiest and easiest answer, in our opinion, suggested a user with a nickname Ghost1667: "Different people behave differently during sex. Some louder, and some quieter. "
You swear because of God
The KnitzSox Customer shared personal experience: "When I was small, I heard my parents, and yes, I preferably heard only mom. At first I thought that she was bad, but then a light bulb was lit in my head, and I understood what was happening. Maybe your children thought the dad makes you hurt? And so they explained themselves to themselves why they did not hear the dad's voice. "
She then told the story already from his parenthood: "When my daughter was about three, she once told me:" I heard how you swore with dad this morning. " I was confused because I could not remember that we quarrel. Then she continued: "I heard you said:" Oh God, "and then Pope said:" Oh God. "You swore because of God." And I said yes, it is. Next time we will behave quieter. "
Nice and exciting
Another personal story from Mona-Chworktap: "I remember that when I was small, I asked my mother why women behave so loudly during sex. I am sure that she was horrified, but she just answered me that it was nice and exciting, and such an explanation with our sister was enough. "
"How about breakfast flakes"
Good advice from Not-You-Again-Mate: "Now you need to talk about it as calmly as cereal for breakfast. Try to make this conversation as ordinary as any other. So you can be sure that your children will turn to you in the future for any difficult issues - no questions are unacceptable. "
Nothing wrong
"Sorry, I have no advice. However, I and my sister often heard our parents have sex. We never had the courage to talk to them about it, but we always tried to publish some kind of sound so that they knew that we were not sleeping. Now I am 24, and it seems to me that this did not affect my perception of sex. It just happened, and although then I was damn unpleasant, now I'm even happy for them. And I am glad that there is still a connection between them, "Haleymichal wrote.
Redeit's parents agreed in one: it is better to talk to children directly and honestly, it is noted that sex is a normal part of healthy relationships, as well as various behavior in it, and the moans and screams of partners are explained by the fact that they are enjoyable, and not suffering.
And it is also be happy if you managed to build such trusting relationships with children that in 10 and 12 years old, with questions about sex come to you, and not to classmates or Google.
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