Naphezu kwemizamo eminingi yokubukeza ama-canons ngobuhle bomzimba (futhi bathathwe ekuqaleni kokusungulwa kobuntu), amanye amapharamitha ahlala engashintshiwe. Ngoba bachazwa yimpilo uqobo. Ngakho-ke kowesifazane ungcono kakhulu emgqeni omzimba othambile, oyindilinga, izinwele eziwugqinsi, izici zobuso obumnene. Futhi ngowesilisa cishe njalo - ukukhula ngenhla kwesilinganiso, isisindo semisipha yokusiza, ufuzo ngosayizi owanele.
Kepha yini umzingeli, i-landpash, umvikeli wendlebe yakhe nomndeni omningi, uma ukukhula kungamfinyeleli kumacono abekelwe isikhathi sakhe somlando? Amabutho amancane, ukuze akwazi ukuzingela isilo sasendle ekuzingeleni, usayizi wesinyathelo ufushane kunalokho kwabafowabo, ngakho-ke kunzima ukugijima, futhi uzizwe uthi "ungakhululeki.
Kusukela lapho, kushintshile okuncane. Buza noma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane umbuzo: "Imiphi imininingwane yangaphandle okufanele ikhethwe yakho?" - Futhi yizwa kwezinye izimfanelo ezifiselekayo ukukhula okuphezulu. Imvamisa, "amadoda amancane" awatholanga umlingani wesikhathi eside, athukuthele futhi aphendukela kuwo wonke amaqhinga omndeni (izithende eziphakeme, i-heelddress eno-tulley ongacabangeki, isifiso lapho ukhuluma nowesifazane ube yisinyathelo , ku-tiptoe, njll.).).
Hhayi nje ukuthi abesifazane abababoni kubo abavukuzi nalabo abavukuzi, kodwa futhi futhi bangazi ukuthi bangazi njengezingane. Futhi kukhathele ngokuphelele ukuheha ngokocansi. Yebo, futhi amantombazane anamuhla afundwe kahle ayazi kahle ukuthi emshadweni onendoda enommoya ophansi ithuba elihle lokuzala izingane ezinobunzima obufanayo.
Iningi labamele abasezingeni eliphansi lobulili obuqinile bazibheka njengabo "abantu ebangeni lesibili" ngebhentshi lesikole. Futhi ukwakheka kwawo okwengeziwe njengoba umuntu ngqo kuncike emvelweni yendawo yasekhaya, kusukela ekuphenduleni kwabazali esicini esikhona. Othile ugoqa lapho ethambekele, ebona "usizi lomzali" mayelana "nendodana-ngaphansi", bese ezwa imibono ye-caustic, amahlaya analokhu (kangaka ongokomdabu, ababi nezitha). Okunye, ukungafuni ukubeka phansi ukuthotshiswa, kungabaza i- "Napoleon Complex" (izinhlobonhlobo zenkimbinkimbi yowesilisa yokuphansi ngemuva kokukhula okuphansi). Umuntu ufuna ukufakazela wonke umuntu ukuthi, naphezu kokuphakama kwakhe nokuchitheka kwakhe, uyaphumelela kakhulu. Omunye uzithengisela ezingeni elincane (emndenini, egcekeni, idolobhana), kepha amagama omuntu amakhulu eminyaka awela kwaphakade ezindabeni.
Ngaphezu kweNapoleon (1.62 Meters), ukuphakama okuncane kwaba ne-A. S. Pushkin, M. S. Stalin, i-Marlopini, i-Martin Scorse, iPablo Picasso, abantu abaningi abashintshile Umhlaba.
Siyabancoma abadlali abanikeza abalingisi njenge-al Pacino, uDustin Hofving, uTom Cruise, noRegeli Stelov, u-Evgeny Stychkin, uGela Mesha. Ngasizathu simbe, ubabuke, ababukeli abashisekayo ababoni ukuthi izithombe zokukhula okuncane. Kwesokudla! Silinganisa ubunikazi babo bonke, ubuhle namandla ethalente, i-charm, akubolile kwezinye izinto.
Ukuthi amaminithi alahlekelwe yi- "Napoleon Complex", uma kungasekelwa amathalente, izinsiza, isifiso esimnandi sokuba ngumuntu obalulekile, ovelele, obonakalayo emhlabeni wonke?
1. Ukuzethemba ngokweqile. Ubuntu obuthe xaxa bukhombisa ukuzikhukhumeza kwalo nokuphakama kwalo, kulapho engaphakathi khona njalo. Ngalesi hlazo kufanele kube ukulwela (njengokungesaba) - ngokumbulela kuye. Kuyadingeka ukuthi uvulekele abantu, abanobungane, okulula ukuxhumana. Udonga lokuhlukaniswa, olukhishwe yindoda encane ethembeni lokucasha ngemuva kwalo kusuka ekuhlekisweni nasekunciphiseni, kuxosha abantu abahle kakhulu abavela kuye.
2. Isimo sengqondo sokubandlululwa ngabantu. Ngasikhathi sinye, ukwehluleka ngakunye kuhlotshaniswa nokukhula kwabo okuncane, ngikholelwa ukuthi abanye bavele babhekane nobuso bakhe esifundeni sakhe ababonwa ngokungathi sína. Ngakho-ke, abantu abancane bakhumula umthwalo wezenzo zabo. Vele, ngasikhathi sinye, akukho zimpumelelo ezingaba nkulumo.
3. Ulaka. Imvamisa, abathwali benkimbinkimbi banolaka impela, abanakumelana nokuhlupheka nokuhlangenwe nakho, yingakho ukucasuka kwangemuva kuhlala kuhlangabezana nakho njalo. Futhi ufuna ukukhombisa umhlaba ongebuthakathaka kangako, njengoba kubonakala ekuqaleni, ukhetha isitayela sokuziphatha lapho "isivikelo esihle kakhulu ukuhlaselwa."
4. Umona ngamadoda aphezulu, anamandla. Noma kuyinkosi encane futhi eduze - umlimi wabathengisi. Izikhathi eziningi ziqaphele ngokuthi "ama-Shoryys" ezikhundleni zobuholi zehlisa ukukhula komsebenzi wabasebenzi abaphezulu, ukuthola inqwaba yezizathu zokwenqaba ukuba zikhule.
5. Ukuziqinisekisa ngokumelene nesizinda sabantu esibuthakathaka, esibethekileko: i-kesylight emndenini, enesihluku ezinganeni nasezilwaneni, ngenxa yesisulu uma kungenzeki ukuvikela kwabesilisa ekukhuleni okuncane). Njengoba isisho sihamba, "Mal Klop, yebo wallow."
Yebo, uma indoda encane emnene ithola indlela yayo kwezepolitiki, ebhizinisini, ebuqandleni, inkonzo yezenkolo. Kepha lokhu akunikezwa wonke umuntu.
Kuthiwani uma wena noma eduze kwakho lokhu kudonswa?
- Zithathe wonke (ukuphakama kwakho, umbala wamehlo, i-invoice ye-bodily, uhlobo lwe-tender kanye nezinye izakhiwo zemvelo). Qaphela lokhu njengento enikeziwe futhi ungasabuyeli kulolu daba.
- Akunasidingo sokuzizwa 'njengendoda encane.' Le nkulumo ayimayelana nokukhula, kepha mayelana nokwaneliseka, isikali sobuntu. "Indoda encane" - umdlwane ezandleni zomashiqela obuqine. Kepha akuphathelene nawe!
- Khetha amantombazane ukuthi ukukhula akubalulekile. Bambalwa impela.
- Yekani ukukhathazeka ngalokho abakucabangayo ngawe. Uma abanye babo kwasekuqaleni - ukukhula komuntu, khona-ke lezi yizinkinga zabo.
Ukukhula okuncane kungaba yisisusa sokunqoba okukhulu. Khumbula lokhu.
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