Eminyakeni yamuva nje, kwaqhamuka ama-blogger amaningi kwi-Intanethi, ethembisa ababhalisile ukubafundisa ukuba babe "besifazane bangempela." Ukuze uthole imali engokomfanekiso "i-Guru ebudlelwaneni" ilungele ukutshela ukuthi ungakusho kanjani, ukuthi uthini nokuthi ungagqoka kanjani futhi uvikele ikusasa elijabulisayo. Kodwa-ke, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ziyaqiniseka: Ukuzivocavoca okuyisikhombisi ku- "Amandla Owesifazane," kunalokho, kubhubhisa ubuntu kuphela futhi kuvikele i-toxic stereotypes emphakathini.
Sise-Adme.Ru sinqume ukuthola ukuthi akunjalo nge-postulates "yemvelo yangempela" nokuthi kungani kwesinye isikhathi ukuqeqeshwa kwabesifazane kwesinye isikhathi kuphatha kabi kakhulu kunokuhle.
"Ngiyintombazane, angifuni ukunquma noma yini"
"Kungani kufanele nginqume okuthile uma kunendoda yalokhu?" - Amakhulu ama- "Girls angempela" athukuthele, aqiniseka ukuthi umsebenzi wokwamukela izinqumo ze-PARTI zilele kubameleli bobulili obunamandla. Konke okwenziwa umuntu wesifazane esithombeni esinjalo somhlaba ukumane ahlobise umhlaba ngobukhona bayo. Ukufakwa okunjalo, ngokusho kochwepheshe bezengqondo, kwenza ukulimala okukhulu kwempilo yengqondo. Eqinisweni, lona wesifazane uyazibona eyisiphukuphuku futhi enika wonke amandla ezandleni zomuntu. Kepha empeleni azikho izizathu zezinhloso ezingenza owesifazane akwazi ukwamukela izinqumo ezinomthwalo wemfanelo. ISlogung "Ngiyintombazane. Angifuni ukunquma noma yini. Ngifuna ukuphatha futhi ngigqoke "imisindo ehlekisayo sengathi yayifana nowesilisa:" Ngingumuntu. Angifuni ukunquma noma yini. Ngifuna ukuya egalaji nokudoba. "
- Uma ususemsebenzini, kwashiwo ukuthi umyeni uvila ukusiza endlini. Uzakwabo olawulayo weluleke ukuba "avule i-blonde": "Into esemqoka, yethemba ngokwengeziwe futhi yenze sengathi bayazi lutho." Kusihlwa, umyeni, ebelele embhedeni wakhe nokungakwazi kwami ukungasizi ngalutho, wageza ngesicelo sezitsha kanti no-Otkaya wathi: "Uma okudingayo, uthi. Akunama-lebesi kuphela amakhulu kangako, bese nginomuzwa wokuthi ngashada nengane yami. "
"Owesifazane kufanele abe yimfihlakalo"
Abalandeli 'bama-nkulunkulu weqiniso' bayazethemba: amantombazane aqondile futhi angenacala awathandi muntu. Lona wesifazane kufanele abe yimfihlakalo. Ukuze ukwazi kahle leli khono, ngeke likwazi ukuqalwa futhi, ungakhulumi ngemicabango, imizwa nezidingo zabo. Kahle ajezise ukuthula kwakho kwe-satellite nokuphuza ukubanda. Umlingani kufanele athonywe kuphela ngosizo lwamacebo nokukhohlisa, yebo anjalo ukuthi wonke ama-whims kanye nokudla kwengxenye yesibili indoda eyamukele izifiso zayo. Kukufanele yini ukusho ukuthi ukucindezelwa kwemizwa nokukhohlisa akulethi abantu, kodwa, kunalokho, basuse kuphela komunye nomunye. Kepha, impela "ubufazi besifazane abahlanza ubuntu", indoda enowesifazane onjalo ayinakudina nowesifazane onjalo.
- Uzakwabo wakhalaza ukuthi yaqina nomyeni wakhe. Uhlala kusihlwa emidlalweni, kuse-Intanethi, akukho lutho oluzokhuluma ngalo. Futhi-ke ngandlela thile utshela ukuthi lowo oshade naye bebedlala ezemidlalo futhi kungekudala unemincintiswano. Sasithokozela ngaye, sithi: "Yana egula yakho, uzoba muhle!" Uyaphendula: "Cha, ngeke ngihambe. Ngiya ekuqeqesheni "Ukuwusindisa kanjani umndeni". © sunnygloryya / pikabu
"Owesifazane kufanele agqugquzele owesilisa okolweni"
Lokhu mhlawumbe yinkomba eyinhloko ye- "Feminity eyisibonelo", lapho, ngokusho koqeqeshi, kudingeka zisebenze kanzima. Njengokuthi, uma okuthile kungabiziswa ebudlelwaneni, khona-ke iwayini lingokokuqala kowesifazane, ngoba yena, njengebhethri, kufanele likhokhise indoda ngempumelelo. Futhi uma elele phambi kwe-TV, edlala amathangi, ihola ngaphansi kwamadola ayinkulungwane ngenyanga, okusho ukuthi iphefumulelwe ngokwanele, yagqugquzelwa futhi iphefumulelwe. Ukuze umlingani azizwa njenge-Getter, owesifazane kufanele alahle izifiso zakhe kanye nobusuku bokuthululelwa ekuzuzeni komuntu njalo lapho evele aqhamuka kusofa. Ngaphansi kwethonya lokuqeqeshwa okunjalo, owesifazane uqala ukucabanga ukuthi akulungile ngokwanele, futhi uyayeka ukubheka kahle isimo. Ukholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi, enza sengathi abuthakathaka, angenza umuntu abe namandla. Eqinisweni, izinguquko ziwumsebenzi ongathi sína, kuphela onqume ngokuqinile ukuze azikhule zingenza, hhayi umuntu ohlangothini, noma ngabe useduze.
- Intombazane, ifunda ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi kwama-blogger akhanyiselwe, yanquma ukukhuthaza umyeni wakhe ukuthola imali etholwayo. Ukuphonsa ibhulukwe, kufundwe 'ukuphefumula isibeletho' futhi "ukudala indawo yomlingani we-feat", yeka umsebenzi. Lapho imali iqala ukubamba imali ebanjiswayo, umyeni, uthisha wesikole, waya entela. Ukulala amahora ama-4 ngosuku, isilonda sakhula, sibukeka kabi. Futhi intombi iyajabula, ithi lokhu kwenza kube ngumuntu ongokoqobo 'wangempela.
"Owesifazane kufanele abe muhle."
Ukuthengisa ukuqeqeshwa mayelana "nokuheha injabulo yabesifazane", abaqeqeshi bavame ukukhohlisa umuzwa wokuba phansi. Abesifazane abaningi futhi ngakho-ke banengcindezi ngenxa yokuthi ngeke bakwazi ukufeza amazinga obuhle obuhle obubekwe umphakathi. Futhi nangu "umqeqeshi", omemezela ukuthi zonke izinkinga zobudlelwano nabesilisa yingoba abesifazane bezithukile: amabhulukwe asebekhuphile, awenzi ama-manicure, hhayi ePeignurear ye-Lace Lace. Othile uncoma ukuthi ugqoke isiketi emzimbeni onqunu, ukuze ungaphazamisi amandla omhlaba ukondla ubuntu besifazane. Konke lokhu, empeleni, kuqinisa ukungavikeleki kowesifazane uqobo, kumenza anciphise uhlaka oluncane lwemiqondo ngobuhle nokuheha, ukulahlekelwa ubuntu bakhe.
Kungani "Owesifazane Wangempela" akuwona umqondo omuhle kakhulu
UCuchi, othembisa ukuthi "ukuvusa unkulunkulukazi eklayenti", ngokuvamile awunayo imfundo yengqondo futhi alungise kuphela ama-stereotypes anobuthi ekuqapheleni ngobuningi. Owesifazane ohambela lezi zifundo empeleni ufunda ukuthi ungaba kanjani umuntu ongavuthiwe, oncikile. Sidinga nje kuphela ukunikeza umuntu iqhaza lomnikazi wempilo yomunye umuntu futhi angena esithenjisweni esivunyelwe ngumphakathi wezinzalamizi. Ukukhohlisa, kube sengathi ngosizo lokulalela okubi, okukhohlisayo kanye namasu omlingo, ungathola injabulo nothando, ukubhubhisa. Ngeshwa, abesifazane, hhayi esimweni sokuziphatha esimelana kakhulu nokuziphatha siwela ogibeni. Ukusekela ubudlelwane obungelona ubungcwele, owasinda egebe elisindayo noma ofisa ukuthola injabulo yomuntu siqu, bakulungele noma iyiphi imali yokuthenga "ithebhulethi yomlingo", okuzobakhulula ezinkingeni. Kepha alikho iphilisi enjalo.
Yiziphi izimfanelo ezidingekayo ze- "Mfanisi yangempela" ikucasule, futhi yini efanelekile? Ngabe uzizwa kanjani ngezifundo zokupompa amandla abesifazane?