Indaba kaMaryan Darmer ayijwayelekile, ngoba akubona bonke ugogo okufanele ezwe kumzukulu omkhulu wokuthi empeleni ungumzukulu. Kepha bekuyizindaba ezinembile ukuthi kufanele ngilalele umlingisi waseMelika. Wayesondele kakhulu kumzukulu wakhe, kepha kuwo wonke iminyaka engama-22 akazange aqaphele lutho oluxakile.
Imfundo yenzalamizi yabesifazane
UMaryan Darmer wazalelwa kuma-50s. ku-NYC. Wakhulela emkhayeni ogunyaziwe futhi wafunda esikoleni samaKatolika eBronx, lapho abafundi bachaza kahle ukuthi abantu balungile, futhi yiziphi izoni.
Ngemuva kokuthi uMarieland athuthele eTexas, abasebenzi abanemibono elondolozekile kakhulu. Iqiniso lokuthi kukhona okuthile okuhlukile abantu, iMeya ngaleso sikhathi futhi abakwazanga ukucabanga. Ngokokuqala ngqa ngobunzima bobulili nobulili, wafunda lapho engena esikoleni seshashalazini. Esimweni sokudala kwakukhona njalo abantu "hhayi njengawo wonke umuntu."
Iphupho lomzukulu
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Lapho uMaryan esevele eneminyaka engama-50, umzukulu wakhe wokuqala wavela. Owesifazane wayengukuphela kwendodakazi, ngakho wayehlala ephupha umfana. Ukuze asondele kubazukulu, wabuyela eNew York.
Indodakazi yasebenza kakhulu, ngakho ugogo wami wayeganwe emfundweni yomfana cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi. UMarieland washintsha umsebenzi wakhe, wabhalwa wakhuthaza ngentshiseko amalungelo abesifazane. Obani owayazi ukuthi maduze kufanele abhekane nalungelo lomzukulu wakhe.
Ugogo Ovamile Nomzukulu Ongajwayelekile
UMarieland wayefuna kangaka ukukhulisa umfana ukuthi akazange aqaphele amantombazane entombazane nakancane. Uyibeka emafuphini nakumahembe, athenge izimoto, amarobhothi nama-pistols. Futhi umfana wayengenandaba nakancane. UMaryan waze wabheka umzukulu wesikole, lapho afunda khona yedwa abafana. Kepha akakwazanga ukumela lapho isikhathi eside. Kwakufanele ngishintshe isikhungo semfundo ngesikole esivamile. UMaryan wabe esenika lokhu ukubaluleka, ukunquma ukuthi utshani bamane nje babengenabo ubuhlobo eqenjini.
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Okulandelayo kwakuyikolishi neyunivesithi. Ngaso sonke lesi sikhathi, uMaryan akakaze abone okungathandeki enganeni yakhe. Wacabanga kakhulu ngomakoti womzukulu. Lo mfanyana wakhulela, kwangqongqozwa 22, futhi kwakungekho ntombazane eduzane. UMaryan waphupha ngabakhulu.
Ukuvuma izono ngokungananazi
Lapho uMarieland eqala ukusikisela umfana eqinisweni lokuthi kwakuyisikhathi sokuthola intombi, wamdumaza ngokubona ngokungasho lutho. Kwavela ukuthi yonke le minyaka engama-22 umfana wazizwa njengowesifazane. Wavuma kugogo wakhe, ongathanda ukuguqula phansi.
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UMaryan wamangala. Wayengaqondi ukuthi wayengakwazi kanjani ukubona ukuthi ushintsho olukhulu kangaka emzukuluni. Yize kunjalo, babesondelene kakhulu, umfana wahlanganyela nogogo wakhe nazo zonke izimfihlo, wamethemba ngokuphelele. Ngakho-ke uMaryan wacabanga ngaso sonke lesi sikhathi. Kepha akuphumelelanga kanjalo. Ugogo wayazi ngomzukulu bonke.
Ukuthatha iqiniso kwakungelula
Ngenkathi umfana elungiselela umsebenzi wokushintshwa kobulili, uMaryan uzoba ugogo futhi - manje umzukulu. Owesifazane uyavuma ukuthi ekuqaleni wayengumuntu ukuba athathe semthethweni, ngoba wephule zonke izisekelo zakhe zokuphila. Wakhuliswa ngendlela ehlukile. Futhi yize esendaweni yabalingisi, wabheka kakhulu, kodwa wawungalindele ukuthi i-transgender nayo emndenini wakhe.
Ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ukushaqeka, uthando lomzukulu lwanqoba. UMaryan wabhalela umfana wakhe, okusekela ama-100% futhi akulungele ukuvela umzukulu. Waqala ukufunda izincwadi wabheka ama-movie mayelana nokuthi kwaphasiswe kanjani phansi, indlela abantu abazizwa ngayo komunye umzimba bazizwa kanjani. Kwasizwa kakhulu ngama-Khiting-Auting of Anctors adumile, ngenxa yokuthi inkinga ye-transgenderness yayeka ukuba yinto eyenqatshelwe.
Manje uMaryan ubhekana nalokho okwakucasulwa yinto umzukulu wakhe ngokuthile. Isibonelo, wubiza igama elifanayo noma umtshele "yena". Iqiniso lokuthi kubantu abaningi libonakala lithinteka, i-transgender ibonwa buhlungu kakhulu.
Ukuzisola kukaMaryan kuphela ukuthi kunezinkumbulo eziningi kakhulu nezithombe ezinomzukulu. Kepha uma umuntu engakhululeki emzimbeni wakhe, udinga usizo losizo, hhayi ukufulathela. Indaba kaMaryan umzukulu wakhe wafundisa ukwazisa impilo yangempela.