Mayelana nezimbangela zokunakekelwa komuntu ebudlelwaneni kubhalwe abambalwa. Isethi yabo enkulu: Ukusuka ekukhanyeleni nasekukhangisweni kwemizwa ngaphambi kokuncipha kwezimfanelo zowesifazane womlingani kanye nezinhloso zokuqala eziphisheke yinyunyana. Kepha akupheleli lokho. Kuyavela ukuthi kunezisusa ezifihliwe zobudlelwano obuphula umthetho. Funda namuhla kumagazini
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Yini ongayicindezela esinyathelweni sokuphelelwa yithemba?
1. Ingcindezelo yeChronicle
Abesifazane bavame ukuthathwa ukuthuthuka, balungiselele ubuhlobo nendoda, bakhohlwa ukuthi uyazizwa. Futhi uhlala ezwa indlela ayedinga ngayo ukubheka, nokuthi ozokwazi ukuxhumana nobani, nokuthi cha, futhi malini nokuthi ungaziphatha kanjani, imizwa ayikho, imizwa ayiveli, imizwa ayiveli kahle. Abesilisa abathandi ukuzizwa bengelutho, ababekezeleli lapho begxekwa, babika noma bahlekisa. Ingcindezi enjalo engxenyeni yowesifazane iholela eqinisweni lokuthi umlingani wayo uyavalwa ngokwawo futhi ucabanga ngokuqoqa amasudi aphumayo.
2. Ukuncintisana okwengeziwe
Ukuncintisana ngamadoda egazini. Kepha into eyodwa lapho bencintisana nabanye abamele ubulili obuqinile ukufakazela ukuphakama kwabo kwezemidlalo noma emsebenzini, kanti omunye lapho kufanele ancintisane nowesifazane othandekayo. Isibonelo, ukucaciswa komphakathi kobudlelwano obufana nomuntu kulungile, futhi ubani okufanele asolwe, lokhu kuwumzamo wokusungula ukuphakama kubhangqa. Ukuqhathanisa unomphela Ngubani nokuthi bangaki abathola emndenini futhi umzabalazo wesundu lobungqwele.
Konke kwandisa uma owesifazane eqala ukuthola okuningi kwendoda yakhe. Uvame ukuwuxosha futhi amdumise, oqinisekisa ngokwakhe futhi akakudingi. Izingxabano ezingapheli ngalesi sisekelo sihlanganise nesifiso sokushiya igama lokugcina lazo futhi alithinti ubudlelwano. Ngakho-ke, owesifazane udinga ukunquma ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu kuye: umncintiswano ongenamkhawulo noma umoya ozolile wendlu. Ukuqhubeka nokuncintisana nendoda, nakanjani ngeke ibe nokuwina.
3. Ukuhlekisa nokungahloniphi
Owesifazane ongakhombisi inhlonipho ngendoda yakhe ngeke aze ambeze ebudlelwaneni isikhathi eside. Kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi abe ngasohlangothini lwaKhe, ahlinzeke ngokusekelwa futhi athathe ubuthakathaka obuncane bengxenye yabo yesibili. Akekho umuntu omnandi kunoma ngubani futhi asuse abalingani kuphela ubudlelwano.
Uma ubona ukuthi wenza okuthile kokungenhla, sekuyisikhathi sokuma bese uqala ukuguquka. Musa ukubeka kakhulu ukubethembela endodeni, ukuncintisana naye ukuze ubuhohi futhi ungahloniphi. Khombisa ukuthamba komlingiswa, uzungeze ngemfudumalo, umphathe ngokuqonda bese uzokuphendula ngokubuyiselwa esikhundleni sokucabanga ngekhefu lobudlelwano.
I-athikili ibilusizo? Yabelana nabangane ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, futhi usatshela kumazwana, ucabangani ngalokhu? Vuma? Yiziphi izizathu zamadoda ngombono wakho? Futhi ungakugwema kanjani?