Iqiniso lokuthi uBaba kumele ahlanganyele empilweni yengane ephareleni nomama, asho ngokwengeziwe. Kuliqiniso, akubona bonke omama abakulungele ukuhlanganyela ukunakekelwa kwezingane nemithwalo yemfanelo yasendlini nabalingani babo (noma ngabe badinga usizo ngokucacile nokusekelwa). Kungani lokhu kwenzeka nokuthi ungakushintsha kanjani, u-Irina zhigilli uthi ku-Blog SelfMama.
Uqaphele ukuthi kuhlangana kanjani nomama abasebasha ingxoxo engxoxweni yothuli bokuqala nezinzuzo zokubhukuda kwengane ziye "Ngabe umyeni wakho akusize ngengane?" Kubhala uRebenok.by.
Isihloko, njengoba kuvela, isiguli: Eminye imindeni, umyeni usebenza kakhulu, umndeni uyabona kuphela ngempelasonto (bese kuba namanye amadoda, ingane ayikwazi ukwethembana ngokujwayelekile, ngoba " Konke kuzokwenza okungalungile. " Kwenye indawo indoda ingasiza kuphela ngezingane ezivele zivuthiwe: "Uzidingani lezi zingane?". Futhi uma indima kamama empilweni yengane ayixoxwe ngayo (Kukholelwa ukuthi uhlelo lwezemfundo lwezingane lubekwe kowesifazane osezingeni lofuzo), khona-ke obaba bathi akukho hlelo lwafuzo, nokufakwa kwalo emfundweni wezingane kuncike ezintweni eziningi ezibalulekile.
Kwenzeka ukuthi esikhathini sangemva kwempi, konke ukukhathazeka ngomndeni kwakufanele kuthathe abesifazane. Umphumela udabukile: Izizukulwane eziningana zezingane zavuka ngaphandle komfanekiso kaYise, azinakuqonda lokho okufanele zibe yikho, wenzani akushoyo. Ama-90s angeze uwoyela emlilweni, aphoqa bonke abantu abadala ukuthi baphile imodi ye- "Survival". Kwakungekho ngaphambi kwezingxoxo futhi kwakuhlanganisa nabazali, kwakudingeka ukuthi basebenze, bathole, bame emgqeni. Ngakho-ke, esinye isizukulwane sezingane esingazange sibabone obaba ebuntwaneni babo futhi anazi ukuthi ubambisene kanjani nomndeni.
Sisanda kwenza inhlolovo encane esiteshini se-selfmaa Telegraph futhi sabuza ababhalisile: "Umama angathinta izinga lokuhileleka kukababa emfundweni yengane?" Ama-27% ababambiqhaza aphendula ngokuthi umyeni wabo "afakwe ngokwengeziwe lapho exhasa izenzo zakhe ekukhuliseni izingane", kodwa abahlanganyeli abangama-51% baphendula: "Ngicabanga ukuthi konke kuncike endodeni - ukukhuliswa kwezingane " Kepha ukutadisha kweSara Shoppe-Sullivan futhi u-Elizabeth Cannon uyakuqinisekisa ukuthi obaba basekelwa okubalulekile. Uveze ukuthi ukuvunywa kwezenzo zobaba maqondana nengane yabo ejwayelekile kudlala indima enkulu futhi kuthinta ukubamba iqhaza kobaba ekunakekelweni kwezingane ngokuzayo.
Impendulo
Ukusekelwa kwabathandekayo kubalulekile kuwo wonke umuntu. Ikakhulu okwamanje lapho wenza okuthile okokuqala, zama, utadishe, wesaba ukwenza iphutha. Impendulo eqotho neqondile ibaluleke ngokulinganayo.Isinyathelo sokusekelwa
Ukubuya esibhedlela nengane, omama kanye nogogo, njengombuso, zukela ingane ngokunakekela nokunakwa, kudumaza ngokuphelele uYise kulokhu kukhathazeka: "Ngeke akwazi ukubhekana", njll. Noma athembele a Umbuthano olinganiselwe kakhulu wansuku zonke, izibopho ezilula: Ukuhamba nge-stroller, ngenkathi ingane ilele, ihamba esitolo, ukulungiswa kokugeza kokugeza. Ngenxa yalokho, obaba bangenalo ithuba lokuthatha isinyathelo kuqala ekukhulumeni nengane, ukwakha umugqa wabo okhulisiwe. Ngakho-ke, isinyathelo sokuqala kuleli cala akufanele sijeziswe.
Trust asebekhulile othembekile
Omama bephethe umthwalo omkhulu wokuzibophezela kokukhuliswa kwezingane, bethola umthwalo wansuku zonke obamba izinqumo eziningi ezahlukene, kwesinye isikhathi, abakulungele ukuhambisa ukukhathazeka okuthile kubalingani babo. Bakulungele ukushiya ingane enoNanny noma ugogo, kodwa hhayi noyise, ngoba nakanjani ngeke bakwazi ukubhekana nakho. "Ukuhlelwa okunjalo kwamabutho emndenini kuyajwayelekile, obaba basuka ezinganeni futhi bamukele imithetho lapho bengafakwa khona kwikhambi lezinkinga zamanje zabazali. Lapho indoda, ekugcineni, ihlala inomntwana owodwa ngakunye, ngaphandle kokuthola amakhono okunakekela izingane, engafakwanga ngaphambili, awenzi njengomama. Kuyiqiniso, omama abakwazi ukumelana nokuphawula okubi: "Ngathi ukuyondla laba ngababili!".
Kwesokudla ngephutha
Sonke singaba ngephutha. Kuyiqiniso, sekuvele izifundo eziningi zabazali manje, futhi ubaba baqoshwa ngokwengeziwe. Kepha konke kungumbono ofanayo. Ukuzijwayeza kuqala ngokuzalwa kwengane, akunakwenzeka ukukulungisa kusengaphambili. Imvamisa, omama banamuhla abadinga ubuzali obufanele, bavuselela izintaba zezincwadi, bamukele yonke imibono nezeluleko zodokotela bezengqondo, uma kukhona okungahambi kahle. Lokhu kugcina ngawo wonke amacala ahlanzekile. Kepha le yindlela engakhambi kakhulu. Vumela okungalungile!
Kubukeka sengathi yimpendulo enhle, ukusekelwa kwezinyathelo, ukuzethemba kanye nelungelo lokwenza iphutha futhi kwakha isisekelo sobudlelwano bomndeni, okuvumela omama ukuthi babelane ngesibopho sokukhulisa izingane nabalingani babo futhi bathole isikhathi sokuzibona, ukuzilibazisa, ukuthuthukiswa , futhi amadoda athola indima yawo kababa, ukwakha amakhono wabazali futhi akhe ukuxhumana okuqinile, okukhuthazayo nezingane zakho.