Sivame ukukhuluma ngokuthi abazali (futhi ikakhulukazi omama) kubalulekile ukuthi ungakhohlwa ukuzinakekela. Futhi yize kanye umbono wokuzinakekela umsindo omkhulu futhi unengqondo, umbono wanamuhla wawo ubonakala kakhulu ucwebezelayo futhi akwamukeleki.
Umlobi wephephabhuku umzali wanamuhla u-Erin Pepler wabhala ikholomu ethukuthele ukuthi umphakathi wanamuhla (futhi ikakhulukazi abathengisi) udonsela kakhulu omama, abaphoqa ukuthi babeke phambili ukunakekelwa kwabo - futhi ncamashi okubukeka kahle kwezentengiso. Nakhu okwenziwa yi-pepleche:
Angazi ukuthi ubani ozothakazelisa, kepha zinakekele azinangqondo.
Kulungile, akusikho konke okuxhumene nakho - okungenangqondo, kepha okuningi. Ikakhulu uma ungowesifazane, futhi kubi kakhulu - mama.
Umqondo wokuzinakekela, uyaqondakala, muhle kakhulu. Ngokomqondo, ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, okudala, ngokomoya - ngamunye wethu unezidingo, futhi kubalulekile ukuthi sinakekele lezi zindawo zempilo yakho.
Lapho abantu bethi "kusuka kwinkomishi engenalutho ngeke baphume" noma "bafake imaski kuqala", siyaqonda ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso. Ngeke sinakekele izingane zethu uma sizishaye amaphuzu. Kepha imvamisa ibukeka ingeyona into engenangqondo.
Umqondo wokuthi "ukuzinakekela" (ukuzinakekela) kwavela maqondana nomzabalazo wamalungelo ezomphakathi namalungelo abesifazane kuma-60-70s.
Kunokucaphuna okudumile kombhali waseMelika kanye nesishoshovu i-Audrey Lord:
"Ukuzinakekela akuyona into, kuyazivikela kanye nezenzo zezepolitiki."
Kepha manje lo mqondo usuphenduke igama lemfashini, elisetshenziswa njengethuluzi lokumaketha lokukholisa omama abashadile abanjengami ukuthi ukucindezelwa kwethu kuzoshabalala uma kutholakala i-mask yejusi.
Wahamba waya ezingeni likaHashtegov ngaphansi kokuthunyelwe kwe-selfie nokukhangisa.Waba yigama lekhodi elibonisa i-manicure kanye nezimpelasonto e-spa. I-Green Smoothie ngemuva kwe-yoga. Ingilazi yewayini ngemuva kosuku olude.
Ukuze uthembeke, eziningi zalezi zinto zinhle. Ngithanda i-manicure futhi kimi ekhaya elanele lesikhumba ukuvula isitolo sakho. Ngiyawathanda iwayini futhi ngichithe i-yoga ngezikhathi ezithile. Angisho ukuthi akufanele senze lutho kusuka kuhlu olubekiwe - damn, ngifuna ukukwenza kaningi.
Kepha le yincazelo entsha yokuzinakekela - uyamunca.Kusinikeza okuthile okwesikhashana nokungamanga, ngenkathi ukusebenza kwethu okwenziwa yi-protrated kungahambi ndawo.
Akukho ukuqeqeshwa noma i-pedicure enjalo, eyayizonga ngokuntuleka kokulala okungapheli, ingezwe imali kwi-akhawunti yakho yasebhange noma amawashi ambalwa angeziwe kosuku lwakho oluningi ngokweqile.
Kwenye indawo lapho (yebo, ngokuvamile, yonke indawo) kukhona umama, ongazange abhale eyedwa izinyanga eziningi ezodwa.
Khohlwa ngeholide lokunethezeka - ufuna ukulala isikhathi esingaphezu kwamahora amathathu ngasikhathi futhi alungele ukubulala ukuze kungabikho muntu wokuyidonsa ngenkathi eshayisana etafuleni lasekhishini elinenkomishi ekhishini wekhofi futhi ngaphandle kwezicelo ezihlala njalo ezinganeni.
Ngicabanga ukuthi akukho lutho olubi ngokuvuma ukuthi izicelo zethu zokunakekelwa ziphansi kakhulu. Umama wengane esanda kuzalwa uzosiza uma othile ethatha ingane yakhe imizuzu eyishumi (ishumi!) Ukuze adle isidlo sakhe sakusihlwa ngenkathi esepholile.
Mhlawumbe ukuthembeka kuze kube sekupheleni, sidinga nje isikhathi esincane sokuhlanzwa kwamazinyo, lapho samukelwe udokotela, enkundleni yemidlalo yaseshashalazini noma sikhulume nabangane, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa.
Angifuni ukunakekelwa ukubukeka njengomsebenzi - Masiyishintshe.Ngifuna ukunakekelwa okudala kwami uqobo: kufaka phakathi, kuyafinyeleleka futhi kube nomphakathi. Le yi-cliché yavuma ngeqiniso lokuthi ukuze akhule ingane, udinga idolobha lonke elihlanganisa abesifazane futhi lisiza imindeni ukuthi iphile.
Nikela ukuthatha ingane yomakhelwane ukuyivakashela futhi uyithathe lapho, futhi yamukele umnikelo wokukusiza ngesonto elizayo.
Siza futhi uvumele ukusiza.
Sekela isigodi sakho nganoma yiziphi izindlela ezikhona, kepha ungakhohlwa ukuthi ungahlala uthi cha, lapho ungakwazi ukukwenza. Sizalwa siqinile, kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele sithwale umthwalo wethu uze ufe. Singanciphisa ijubane tempo bese simisa isikhashana.
Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi i-Peplechae ichaze imininingwane ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi akunjalo ngomqondo wanamuhla wokuzinakekela, wanikeza isisombululo esisodwa kuphela sokuxazulula inkinga - ukunxusa umphakathi wayo wendawo kanye nokuzungeza usizo.
Futhi yize ngamazwi kuzwakala kunengqondo impela futhi nothando oluncane, empeleni (ikakhulukazi e-Russian Reality), le ndlela ayitholakali kuwo wonke umuntu.Sizame ukuthola eminye imibono yokuzinakekela okungadingi ukubhuka ngosuku nge-spa noma ukubhalisela i-yoga nama-pilates, futhi sakha iposi enkulu kuMama. Umlobi kaBrandy Jietter wabhala yonke indlela engama-21 yokubonisa uthando kuye phakathi kwenqubo yansuku zonke, futhi sakhetha lezo zindlela esizithandile.
Yilokho okwenzekile:Bhalisela udokotela wakho (bese uye ekwamukelweni).
Faka isikhathi esiqinile sepeni lezingane ukuze ube nesikhathi sokuphumula futhi uphumule.
Yiya embhedeni ngesikhathi esijwayelekile.Cela umuntu ukuthi akulungiselele okungenani kabili ngesonto. Akudingeki ukuthi ukhiphe yonke into ngokwakho (ngendlela, ngesikhathi sobhubhane kukhona izinsizakalo zokulethwa kwezidingo zokudla kwasekhaya).
Thola izinto zokuzilibazisa. Kungaba yinto ongayenza ekhaya - ngokwesibonelo, ukugoqa noma ukudweba.
Yenza ubulili obuhle. Uma manje akafani nalokho, ahlakaze, yini inkinga, futhi anqume.
Gqoka njalo ekuseni, noma ngabe awudingi ukuya noma kuphi. Ungathatha izingubo ezinhle lapho uzoba ntofontofo khona.
Uma uhlobo oluthile lwekhaya lukwenza uthole okungaphezulu kwengxenye yehora, cela usizo.
Phuza amanzi.Yidla okumnandi kuphela ngesimo sama-dessert anethezekile, amnandi.
Sekela ukuxhumana nabangane bakho.
Phonsa izingubo zakho zangaphansi zakudala. Nakekela lokho ongosayizi ngempela, kubukeka kahle futhi kuhlala kahle.
Khuluma u- "Cha" kaningi ngendlela oyifunayo.Lapho abantu bebuza ukuthi uqhuba kanjani, ubatshele yonke imininingwane, ikakhulukazi uma wenza kahle.
Zithethelele ngalokho okwenzile esikhathini esidlule.
Gijimisa isimo sengqondo kubantu eduze kwalapho uzizwa kabi.
Musa ukulinda abantu ukuthola ukuthi ufunani. Batshele.Mhlawumbe umcabango oyinhloko lapha ukuthi ukukhathalela ngokwakho akufanele kube yinto eyodwa, i-sporadic, ngokuzumayo - ngobusuku obunye, uchithe nabangane, akunakwenzeka ukuphumula unyaka wonke wesimemezelo.
Ukuzinakekela kufanele kube yindlela ejwayelekile, izinto ezincane zansuku zonke zothando ezikusiza ukuthi uzizwe ungcono nsuku zonke - futhi kulokhu hhayi ukuchitha izigidi zezimonyo noma izinqubo ezibizayo. Futhi-ke, ukuze umuntu ngamunye azikhathalela ngokwawo uqobo, into esemqoka lapha ukuthola izindlela ezinengqondo zokubuyisa kabusha izinsiza zakho futhi ubashumeze empilweni yethu evamile.