Cishe bonke abesifazane abanenhlanhla ngokwanele
Umama, wabelane ngemizwa yabo lapho beqala ukubona izingane zabo ezisanda kuzalwa. Basho ukuthi inhliziyo igcwele uthando, futhi sekuvele kungenakwenzeka ukucabanga impilo ngaphandle kwalesi sigaxa esincane, esingavikeleki. Eqinisweni, omama abaningi bathule ukuthi ezinsukwini zokuqala noma izinyanga azizizwa zinconywa ngohlobo lwengane. Ngokuphambene nalokho, angadala ukucasuka, lona wesifazane uzizwa ukukhathala kuphela futhi unezethu ngaphakathi, futhi wanakekela ingane ngomshini, ngoba kuyadingeka.
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Umama waseNgilandi wavuma ngokweqiniso ukuthi akazange azizwe imizwa ngengane
Umqondo ukhuthazwe ngenkuthalo emphakathini ukuthi owesifazane kufanele anciphise uthando ngengane, ngokushesha nje lapho ebona imivimbo emibili esivivinyweni. Kepha kaningi omama, babheka izingane zabo ezisanda kuzalwa, abazwa lutho ngabo. Lokhu akusona ngokwesiko ukuvuma, ngoba abanye bazoqala ukulahla futhi bathi omama ababi kuphela abathanda imvuthuluka yabo. Futhi nakhu owesifazane ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane ubheka isixha sokukhala futhi uyakuqonda ukuthi alukho uthando olungazizwa.
Ngaphakathi kokuhlushwa kuyaqala, imizwa iphakama ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngomama, ngoba kufanele kujabuliswe ngohlobo olulodwa lwengane. Owesifazane unenkinga yokuba necala kangangokuba akufani nomama bomunye umuntu. Lokhu kungadala ukucindezelwa kwangemva kokubeletha, ukugula okungathi sína okudinga ukungenelela kochwepheshe bezengqondo noma ngabesayensi bezengqondo.
UBarbara Hopkins, uthisha wesikole samaNgisi, watshelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi wabhekana kanjani nokuntuleka kwemizwa emnene kwiNdodana yakhe. Owesifazane waseNgilandi wathumela indaba eFrank kwi-Intanethi mayelana nokuthi owesifazane angakuhlupheka kanjani ngenxa yokuntuleka kothando lwengane. Uthi akunakwenzeka ukuthi uthule ngakho, akufanele ugcine imizwa engemihle kuwe, yenza imicabango yokuthi ungumama omubi.
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Funda futhi: amabinzana omama abenza amantombazane azizwe engahluki
Okubhalwa kunethiwekhi yeBarbara
Lapho ngibeletha indodana yami, angizange ngizwe uthando ngaye. Kwakumangazwa ukuthi ngakwazi kanjani ukukhuthazela futhi ngibelethe ingane. Benginesigaba saseCesarean, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngicabanga ngakho, mhlawumbe bekungukuthi ezikhathini zokuqala kwakungekho muzwa. Ngemuva kokuhlinzwa, ngangikubi kakhulu: wonke umzimba wawugula, uyagula, ikhanda lami laligcwele. Ngacabanga nje ngokuthi ngizokubona kanjani izinzwa zami, futhi angizange ngiyikhumbule nendodana yami.
Kubukeka kimi ukuthi uthando lwengane luvame ukufika kancane kancane. Umzimba kufanele ululame, udinga ukubona ukuthi ngeke kube khona impilo yakudala. Ngadlula izinguquko eziningi kakhulu ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo kusukela lapho ukhulelwa khona. Kuyingcindezi enkulu ngenxa yomzimba wesifazane, futhi, wayedinga isikhathi sokuza kuye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngesikhathi sokululama, udinga ukunakekela ingane: Okuphakelayo, ukugeza, ukuhamba. Ubuchopho buthatha impilo entsha kancane kancane, futhi awudingi ukuzwa isilo sona ngoba ungakhali ngesithunzi lapho ubheka ingane yokulala.
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Phambilini, ngangivame ukuzwa ukuthi uthando lwengane luvela ngokushesha lapho nje umbona ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane. Abanye bathi baqala ukuthanda imvuthuluka lapho ehlala esiswini sakho. Angikaze ngithole imizwa efanayo. Cha, bengingesabi, ngidabukile, ngokudabukisayo. Kepha uthando lwabesifazane, olukhulunywa ngalo futhi lubhala ngalokhu ubhale, bekungenjalo. Izinsuku zokuqala ebengicabanga ukuthi bekungalungile yini kimi. Ngazibheka njengomama omubi, ngiyaxolisa indodana yami, ngoba wazalwa evela kowesifazane ongeke akwazi ukumthanda njengabanye.
Ngiyazazisa ukuthi konke kuzohluka ekhaya. Kepha lapho sikhishwa esibhedlela somama, akukho okushintshile. Ngivele nganginakekela indodana yami, ngoba kwakuwumsebenzi wami. Kwesinye isikhathi wagoqa injabulo, ngoba ngathola imizwa efanayo kwiNdodana yami ngathi ikati lakho. Mhlawumbe, akunakwenzeka ukunikeza ukuqhathanisa okunjalo, kepha yilokhu kanye ebengikuzwa.
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Bheka futhi: Umama wenqabile indodana ngothando lwendoda: indaba yangempela evela empilweni eyayigcina kungalindelekile
Ungakubona kanjani uthando lwamama
Lapho ngiqiniseka ukuthi ngingumama omubi kakhulu emhlabeni, ngingalindele, ngangikhungathekile yimizwa yendodana yami. Omama abaningi babhala ngani uma ubheka ingane futhi inhliziyo isilungele ukugxuma esifubeni.
Izinsuku zokuqala nobusuku ngemuva kokuphuma esibhedlela iMaternity kwakuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Mina nomyeni wami sasingazi ukuthi ngenzeni ngengane. Esibhedlela iMaternity, umhlengikazi wagezwa ngokungenakuphikiswa wagqoka indodana yakhe, futhi asizange siphumelele sonke. Indodana ayikwazanga ukuthatha isifuba kahle, yamemeza ngenxa yendlala, izandla zami zehla. Ngaze ngacela abazali bami ukuba basindise, ngoba ngangiqonda ukuthi ngeke sikwazi ukubhekana nomyeni wami.
Ngake ngaya eqhweni lapho indodana ikhala. Wadonsa isibambo wangishaya kancane. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi ukuqwashisa kwafika ukuthi ngangiphethe le ndoda encane. Kuyena, ngingumkhathi wonke, ukuphela komuntu ofudumele futhi ethokomele. Sihlotshaniswa nezibopho ezingabonakali ezingasoze zaphulwa.
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Umuzwa omusha wawukhungathekiswa mina, ukusuka kwenye indawo lapho kwakukhona amandla okubekezelela ukukhala okukhulu, ukungalali ebusuku, ezinye izinkinga eziningi ezenziwa ngabazali abasha ezibhekana nazo. Ngabona ukuthi konke sekumi ngomumo indodana yami, impilo inganikeza, uma udinga. Uthando lwendodana ngokuzumayo lwagcwalisa inhliziyo yami, ngabona ukuthi nguyena manje - uMuntu obaluleke kakhulu kimi. Futhi uzosala impilo.
Ngaleso sikhathi ngangifuna ukuthatha isithombe ukuthwebula lo mzuzu lapho ngibona ukuthi ngiyayithanda indodana yami ngayo yonke umphefumulo wami. Izinyembezi azizange zime nganoma iyiphi indlela futhi zaqhubeka nokugobhoza ezihlathini.
Ngifuna ukuqinisekisa bonke omama abakhathazekile ngokuntuleka kwemizwa ye-sublime yezingane ngokushesha ngemuva kokubeletha. Uthando luzofika, ngoba umuzwa obaluleke kakhulu ongalingana nenhliziyo yabesifazane. Kwesinye isikhathi udinga ukulinda, akusona ngokushesha ukuza lo muzwa omlingo, kepha nakanjani uzoba ne-surf. Yize kunjalo, nguMama kuphela ongathanda izingane kakhulu, ngazo zonke umphefumulo, nayo yonke inhliziyo yami.