Kuvame ukuhlangana nokuthi unyaka wokuqala wokuphila nengane ungumbhangqwana onzima kunabo bonke empilweni. Lokhu ngokuvamile akumangazi: impilo enosanda kuzalwa igcwele izinkinga, izinselelo kanye nemisebenzi imibhangqwana okufanele ixazulule ndawonye ngokubheka ubudlelwano babo ngamandla.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngonyaka wokuqala nengane, imibhangqwana eminingi emindenini izofunda izinto eziningi ngomunye nomunye (futhi hhayi okuhle njalo). Umbhali wanamuhla umzali kaCatherine Flemming wakhuluma ngesipiliyoni sakhe: ngokuthi, ngokuzumayo kwakhe, wakwazi neyakhe umyeni wakhe, nokuthi wakwazi kanjani ukuxazulula le nkinga. Ihumusha umbhalo wayo ngezinkontileka ezincane.
Ngathi: "Ngikhathele kakhulu," ngitshele umyeni wami, ungaqiniseki i-gait esondela etafuleni lasekhishini futhi amukele kahle. Ubuhlungu obuvela engxenyeni yezimo eziphuthumayo beCesarean ingxenye, eyenziwe ngesonto eledlule, kwakusekuhle kakhulu, kanye nezicelo zosana olunobuhlakani obukhulu kungenze ngazizwa sengathi ngine-hangover yaphakade.
"Yebo, ngikhathele futhi," kusho yena. Futhi la mazwi angiholele kumarabi.
Ngaba nomuzwa wokuthi intukuthelo ikhuphuka kanjani imilenze yami ngenkathi ngihlezi ngaphesheya kwakhe ngadla isidlo sakusihlwa (kufanele ngiphawule - isidlo sakusihlwa asilungiselela). Ngagxuma - ngithukuthele futhi ngahluleka ukukhipha igama - amazinyo ami aphenduka ama-magnets, futhi angikwazanga ukuphula umhlathi.
Ingabe "ukhathele"? Kukhona engingakuboni isifuba sakhe sokuvuvukala kanye nobisi lwe-Mester ngokucindezela, okungenzeka ukuthi kungaba yi-hydrant efanele. Futhi angimbonanga ukuthi aguqule i-bandage ngemuva kweKhayareya ephuthumayo ngesikhathi sokugcina izindlu. Futhi konke lokhu - ngokuhambisana nokuzama ukungabulali amazibulo ethu. Yebo, okungukuthi, wayengakhathala kanjani?
Lokhu bengikufanele umklomelo womuntu okhathele kakhulu endlini.
Ngagcina le ntukuthelo, ngamsindisa njengegugu, wabe esewasusa njengesikhali, wayithatha ngesikhathi sezingxabano ngejubane, ama-baseball Pychers angamona. Ngiyikhiphe ngezikhathi ezingahleliwe ngesikhathi se-quorry ngoba kuthi ngubani ukwazi ukuthi empeleni bengikhathele bonke, futhi ngisebenza kakhulu!
Ngakho umyeni wami waqala ukungazisa.
Kusuka cishe "wow" okumnandi, kupholile kakhulu: sizoba nengane! " Size ukuzondla yonke indawo ukuze sisinikeze okungenani amahora amabili okulala okuqhubekayo, futhi lokhu kusicwilisa kakhulu. Sasingabazali abasebancane, ama-hormone ethu avela ngaphansi kokulawulwa, futhi sazizwa singaqinisekile - kwesinye isikhathi kwakubonakala ngathi ngeke sikwazi ukubhekana nathi lapho sasizokwazi ukubhekana nathi lapho besingakwazi ukubhekana nathi lapho besingeke sikwazi ukubhekana nathi lapho sasizokwazi ukubhekana nathi lapho sasingakwazi ukubhekana nathi lapho sasingakwazi ukubhekana nathi sokuthi ngeke sibhekane nathi ukuthi ngeke sikwazi ukubhekana nathi lapho sasingakwazi ukubhekana nakho.
Futhi ngesizathu esithile se-razovoy, sasibonakala ngathi ukuthi lesi isikhathi esifanele sokuqala i-akhawunti. Ngihlala ngiqhathanisa umthwalo wethu ngokomqondo: ukugeza, ukugeza izitsha, ukondla, ukuguqula ama-diampion, ukugcinwa kwezingubo ezincane, ukulandelela uvithamini D, ukuthengwa kwezidakamizwa, ukulandelela izigaba zokuthuthuka kwezidakamizwa. Kwabonakala kimi ukuthi ngenza iningi lomsebenzi wami wesikole nengane, yize bekungacacile ukuthi lokhu kumangalisa kakhulu.
Kwakukule ngalokhu ukuthi wonke umngane wake waxwayiswa.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngenxa yephupho nokuxhumana okusungulwe ngokwengeziwe ngezidingo zethu, sikwazile ukuthola ibhalansi futhi sijwayele izindima zethu ezintsha: iqembu lokugcina i-oda (lena yimi) nendoda ) Manje osephenduke waba yi-Corcher Toddler Tornado.
Kuthathe ngaphambi kwalowo mzuzu kuze kube yilapho sinengane yesibili, futhi kungazelelwe kwadingeka ukuthi sishintshe ama-diapers amaningi, sasiwukungcola okuphindwe kabili, sasiwukudla kabili imilomo.
Ngifinyelele iphuzu elibilayo ebusika bokugcina lapho ngehla ngakusasa ekuseni ngohudo lwendodakazi yami, njengaseqhweni. Ngiyaphatheka, ama-nozzles futhi ngithumele imiyalezo ye-telepathic emyeni wakho (okwathi ngaleso sikhathi ngilale kahle egumbini elilandelayo), ngilindele ukuthi uzokusiza ukungisiza nge-mop, okokuhlanza nokusekela amabhakethi ezandleni zawo.
Kepha konke Anganginikeza ukunginikeza ukufuya egumbini elilandelayo.
Lapho ngingowa ngakusasa ekuseni, ngamtshela ngokwenzeka, futhi ukuthi ngazalwa kanjani futhi ngadideka kanjani ngeqiniso lokuthi akazange aze ukutakula, waphendula: "Awuzange ucele." (Ngaleso sikhashana, ngathunjwa ukufutheka okuthule).
Lapho ngifona uLindi Lazarus, isazi sezingane nezomndeni kanye nomndeni wezengqondo esuka eToronto, wangiqinisekisa ukuthi kwakujwayelekile kakhulu ukubona ukungathandi umlingani wakhe ngemuva kokuba ingane ivele (noma amabili). "Kubazali, lokhu kuyinguquko enkulu yobunikazi," kusho yena ngenkathi ngizwa izinga lami le-cortisol liyancipha. - Unezicelo eziningi ezivela ezinganeni, nesikhathi sokulala, ubulili kanye nezindaba zomuntu siqu ukwehla. "
Lapho ngibalwa "ngomdanso wokudansa" wami, wazwelana nokucasuka kwami: "Ungathanda ukuba nomyeni ngakho konke, futhi lo ngumuzwa obanzi ngokuphelele, yize akazi ukuthi angafunda kanjani imicabango yakho." Ngazizwa ngiqonda kahle futhi ngingcwatshwe. "Kepha," wanezela. - Kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume ngokucacile mayelana nokulindelwe kwakho, kuzosiza ukuvikela ukuvela kobutha. " Ukumamatheka kwanyamalala ebusweni bami.
Vimbela Nginenkinga yokuvimbela izinhlekelele ezahlukahlukene: ngamaSonto ngilungiselela i-movie kusengaphambili ukuvikela i-carbohydrate zhor emsebenzini ekuqaleni kwesonto, ngizindla, ukuze ngingavumeli ingcindezi ithonya isimo sami, kepha uma ngicabanga ngakho Nika izwi lokho engikulindele futhi ngivikele ukungqubuzana ngokuzayo, angikwazi ukuvula umlomo wami. Ngicabanga ukuthi iqiniso lokuthi iminyaka engu-18 yokuhlala ndawonye, umyeni wami kufanele wazi ngokuphelele engikufunayo, kuzo zonke izimo. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi wayecabanga ngezidingo zami ngaphambi kokuba ngibe nezwi.
Kepha nakhu okungikhathazayo: Ingabe ikhona indlela yokudlulisa okulindele kimi ukuze kubonakale kimi ukuthi ngidlulisela imisebenzi yelungu elincane leqembu lami?ULazaru uthi ukhona. Gxila kulokho okufunayo, esikhundleni sokugxeka. "Esikhundleni sokukhuluma:" Anisoze ungisize, "Ake ungisize:" Nginezinto eziningi manje. Ungakwazi ukunika ingane ibhodlela esikhundleni sami? ""
Ekujuleni komphefumulo, ngiyazi ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ngicela usizo, ngisebenzisa amagama aqondakalayo nokugwema ukweqisa nokulahlwa, uyangisiza, angikaze ngikhumbule, angikaze ngikhumbule. Futhi uhlala edumisa ngakho konke engikwenzayo - kodwa kwesinye isikhathi, lapho izinto ziqala kakhulu, ubuchopho bami buqala ukukhumbula zonke izikhathi ezimbi ezisibekela noma yimaphi amazwana amabi.
Kodwa ngilungiselelwe ngokuqinile ukuthi ngifunde ukuthi ungadlulisela kanjani kangcono komunye nomunye, imizwa yethu - ukukhombisa ukuziphatha okunjalo kwezingane zethu (futhi, ukukhombisa ukuziphatha kwethu komshado (futhi, ngakho-ke uLazaru waphakamisa ukuthi ngizame "ukuqeqeshwa ngokomzwelo" - kwabazali Inqubo, esiza izingane ukuthola imizwa yazo.
"Kuyahlekisa ukuthi sinozwela oluningi kakhulu futhi sinozwela lwezingane, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye sikhohlwa ukuthi imizwa yozakwethu futhi idinga ukuqinisekiswa."Inqubo yokuqeqeshwa okungokomzwelo iqukethe izinyathelo ezintathu. Ekuqaleni, kuyadingeka ukunaka ngokushesha umuntu obhekene nomuzwa oqinile, anikeze igama, bese enquma ukuthi yini eholele ekubonisweni kwalo muzwa.
Ngakho-ke, lapho umyeni wami ethi Ukhathele (ekugcineni wabona ukuthi angaphinde akhulume ngakho), ngiphoqa ukuthi ngivume ukuthi ngokuvamile kungakhathala! Ngisebenzela ukukhombisa uzwela, ngikhuluma ngezinto ezingakhathala: Sebenza ngomsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele, achitha usuku lonke emilenzeni, abuhlungu onamadolo, futhi, kunjalo, Lapho-ke ungisiza kakhulu nezingane ezigidini zemibuzo.
ULazaru wangikhumbuza ukuthi le minyaka eminingana ingukwehluleka kwesikhashana ohlelweni.
Futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi le nkathi yilapho sesala kakhulu ukwanelisa izidingo zamadoda amancane, amahle, futhi lapho siba nesikhathi esincane nokubekezela ukuze sanelise izidingo zomunye nomunye, siqinise ukuxhumana phakathi kwethu nokuqinisa amandla ethu okuzwelana nathi .
Futhi ngaphambili, kunokuba nginesikhathi sokufika ezinkundeni zami, izingane zethu zizokhula, futhi ngizobheka le minyaka ngaphandle kokulala futhi nginezinyembezi eziningi ngengilazi epinki. Futhi ngubani, ngithemba kanjani, ngiyohlala ngami etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa ngemuva kwayo yonke le minyaka yobuhlanya yokuba ngumzali? Umyeni wami othandekayo. Futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi lapho-ke uzokhathele ngokwengeziwe kunangaphambili.
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