Ama-stereotypes amaningi mayelana nabesilisa nabesifazane awasizi empilweni futhi ababi nakubi, i-blogger kanye nesayensi yezenkolo u-Ella Rossman iyaqiniseka. Kepha unyaka unyaka nonyaka, ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane, abazali kanye nesikole bafundisa la mantombazane. Ku-Mel.fm, umbhali uchaze amakhono amahlanu, ngaphandle kwawo, ngombono wakhe, abesifazane bebengeke nje baphile, kodwa futhi bazophila kangcono futhi bajabule kakhulu.
Ama-stereotypes amaningi mayelana nabesilisa nabesifazane awasizi empilweni futhi ayingozi, i-blogger iyaqiniseka. Kepha unyaka unyaka nonyaka, ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane, abazali kanye nesikole bafundisa la mantombazane. Kwikholamu yeMel.fm, umbhali uchaze amakhono amahlanu, ngaphandle kwawo, ngombono wakhe, abesifazane bebengeke nje baphile, kodwa futhi babe ngcono kakhulu futhi bajabule, babhala uRebenok.by.
Ube yinto ecocekile futhi ekhuthele
"Kungani amathoyizi echotshozwa, uyintombazane!", "Kungani encwadini yokubhalela kungcola, uyintombazane!", "Kungani izincwadi zingekho, uyintombazane!" - Ngubani ongazange alizwe okungenani kanye empilweni? Ngokugxila ku- "Uyintombazane", kunjalo. Amantombazane afundiswa ukuthi abonakale ikakhulukazi, acocekile futhi anake imininingwane, kwesinye isikhathi ezingeni elibi kakhulu lokuphelela.
Masibe ngokungenacala: ukunemba, amandla okubola "ngokusho kukababa" nokunaka imininingwane akunalutho oluphathelene nobulili. Mhlawumbe zizoba wusizo kuwe empilweni yobungcweti, kepha kungani kufanele ufundise la makhono njalo nangeminyaka emincane?
Kodwa-ke, akuyona into eyenzekile ukuthi bayaqeqeshwa. Kusuka kwabesifazane, basalindele ukuthi bazosebenza, futhi indlu enezingane izogcina, futhi mhlawumbe nomyeni ezindabeni zakhe. Lokho kungekudala, bazobe bezoba yikhaya ngabahlanzana mahhala kanye nabalule banobhala ngokuhlanganiswa.
KweSociology, isimo sezinto, lapho abesifazane besebenzela amahora ayisishiyagalombili, bese befika ekhaya bemukele ukunqwabelana konke, ibizwa nge "shift kabili", "umthwalo kabili"). Ngabe uthembekile lapho abanye besebenza ekushintsheni okukodwa, kanti abanye babili, futhi nakwamahhala kwelesibili? Cha, ukungathembeki, futhi namanje kunzima kakhulu futhi kuyakhathaza. Masikenzeli amantombazane ukupheka impilo yonke enjalo.
Isimo sokubukwa sabo bonke ubulili akuyona into engathathi hlangothi emlandweni osondelene naye osondelene naye. Ngokuvamile, kusekuhle nathi kusaqeqeshwa zonke izingane, kungakhathalekile ukuthi ucansi, futhi, ngombono wami, zinaka ukunakwa okuningi ezikoleni. Ukusuka emantombazaneni kaningi, ngokusho konke okufanayo okungaziwa, adinga ukunemba okukhethekile emikhondweni nasezincwadini zokubhalela. Ngenxa yalokhu, amantombazane nabesifazane bavame ukubhala ngesandla okuhle, abanye babo ngisho ne-calligraphic, kepha akukho phuzu kuyo, ngaphandle kokuthi, empeleni, i-calligrapher.
Zilalele
Kimina, ukuncoma okusabalele yinkolo yezigqila. Sizungezwe umhlaba oncintisana kakhulu futhi onzima kakhulu, lapho abantu abaningi nezinsizakusebenza ezingaphansi. Kuyadingeka ukuthi kuqalwe uhlelo, ukuze ulwele umbono wakho kanye nami, ngenjabulo yakho nakwibhizinisi lami. Futhi emhlabeni, akubona bonke abahleleke ngokweqiniso. Manje kungani sifundisa izingane ukuba zilandele imithetho yakhe esikhundleni sokushintsha okungokoqobo?
Uma ungaze usize ekutholeni indawo yakhe ngaphansi kwelanga futhi uzuze okwakhe, okubalulekile, okulungile, okuthokozisayo, okunye. Kepha kuzokwenza intombazane ibe ntofoke kuwo wonke umuntu osondelene: abazali, othisha, umyeni nonina. Ingabe lokhu "kube lula" kuletha intombazane enjabulweni nasekuguqukeni? Nginokungabaza okukhulu ngalokhu. Amantombazane alalelayo aphumela kukho konke kungumfanekiso wezinganekwane ezindala, njengeCinderella neNdlovukazi yeqhwa (esifunda ngayo ebuntwaneni, ngendlela). Empilweni yangempela, le ndaba ngokulalela kungenzeka ukuthi ijabulele futhi ivumele abanye ukuba banelise izifiso zabo. Akekho oqinisekisa ukuthi uzokhokha isiphepho sesenzo esinjalo sokuthakazelelwa.
Kubaba ofanayo ngokulalela, amandla "okunikela", "ikhono lokulalela" kanye "nekhono lokungabonakali" (ngizwe ngekhono elinjalo lentombi yakudala). Kepha mina, kungcono kakhulu ukufundisa ingane (noma yimuphi ucansi) ukuzilalela, ukuxabana, ukuxabana, ukuvikela imibono yakho, ukufeza izinhloso zakho nokukhombisa amathalente. Futhi-ke, cabanga ngekhanda lakho esikhundleni sokuvumelana nawo wonke umuntu ngaphandle kwenhlekelele.
Hhayi ukugijima
Imibono mayelana nobuthakathaka bemvelo wabesifazane ihaba ngendlela efanayo nemibono mayelana nobuthakathaka bemicabango noma izimfanelo zobuholi. Yilesi sikhundla ukuthi umbhali wencwadi ethi "Inganekwane Yobuthakathaka" evikelwe - udokotela wezengqondo waseMelika oqoshwe kabili. Ihlanganisa imininingwane yezifundo zemvelo, eziphilayo kanye nezokugcina futhi zifakazela ukuthi amantombazane nabesifazane ngamandla angenakukwazi abakwazanga ukunika abafana nabesilisa.Okokuqala kuphela kusuka eminyakeni yesikole sifunda ukusebenzisa umzimba wakho: kuvame ukuya kwezemidlalo, imidlalo esebenzayo iyakhuthazwa. Kancane kancane, abesifazane balahlekelwa yifomu labo lomzimba, ngoba uma ungaqeqeshi ebuntwaneni (futhi njalo), akunakwenzeka ukugcina wonke amathuba emzimbeni. Ngokuvamile, uma sisusa izici zenhlalo, umehluko phakathi kwamandla abantu nabesifazane akubalulekile, ubhala ahlanyisa, futhi yithi kuphela esikwenzayo ngokwethu.
Incwadi yadedelwa ngo-2001, akazange adluliselwe eRussia okwamanje. Yize lokho kuvumelana kubonakala sengathi kungama-latiture ethu! Umqondo oyinhloko wamahora alula kakhulu futhi amaningi abahumushi nabahleli akudingi: Noma nini lapho ungamniki intombazane futhi ukuze ugijime noma ukhuphuke esihlahleni, wenza ukuba buthaka emzimbeni nangokomzimba futhi mhlawumbe ube nempilo emzimbeni nangokomzimba nangokwempilo. Vele ukhumbule lokhu.
Ungalwi
Akumnandi ukusho lokho, kepha leli iqiniso: udlame lwezocansi nolosekhaya - Ibhishi lomphakathi wethu. Ama-aggnoriso amaningi azizwa ukungavikeleki ngokuphelele nokwenza ngemindeni yawo yonke into iyajabula.
Akekho umuntu ovikelekile ebudloveni, ngisho nowesifazane oqondakalayo kunazo zonke emhlabeni. Udlame olwenziwe ekhaya - munye kuphela lokubukeka kwakhe. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ukwazi ukuzivikela - Ikhono elifanele elingasindisa impilo nempilo. Njalo lapho ufuna ukuthi indodakazi yami noma udadewethu omncane "ungathinti, uyintombazane," khumbula, lapho kufanele uphile khona, futhi ungasho lutho. Kepha kungcono ukutshela amantombazane ukuthi isimo sengqondo esivumelekile sisebhangqa futhi komunye ubuhlobo, kanye nentsha - indlela yentsha - okufanele yenziwe uma behlangabezana nobudlova ekhaya, nangokuzivikela okuvumayo , kunjalo.
Ukuba muhle
Amadoda kwabesifazane asabona ubuhle ngokuyinhloko, kwathi konke okunye, - ama-Sociologilogists anengqondo athola iziphetho ezinjalo. Kusukela eneminyaka emisha, uBeauty kubaluleke kakhulu, kungahle kube nokubaluleka kukho konke impilo yethu yakamuva, futhi zonke ezinye izimfanelo nezici sezivele zalandelwa.
Ngasikhathi sinye, izidingo zokuvela kwabesifazane zivame ukuba mbambana ngokwedlulele: kufanele zikhombise ukugoba komzimba, kepha akubonakali kakhulu ukuthi kungabikho kusolwa. Penda, kepha hhayi kukhanye kakhulu, ngoba kuzobukeka kuhlekisa. Akunakuba ngokuphelele ngaphandle kwezimonyo, ngakho-ke kuphela amasheya aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ahamba. Uhlu lungaqhubeka lube infinity. Kwesinye isikhathi umugqa phakathi kwabathembekile nabangalungile awunakuqhathaniswa kangangokuba akunakwenzeka ukuwela kokunye kokuwohloka.