Usizo lwe-Mutual lubhubhisa ama-stereotypes
Kungani njalo ngenyanga kuphela "izindaba zabesifazane", futhi kungani kufanele bakhathazeke njengamantombazane? Ngenxa yokuthi ukuya esikhathini akufanele kube hlobo oluthile lobulili, okumele lufihlwe nokuthi kufanele ube namahloni futhi okudingeka ube namahloni, uqiniseka ngunina wababili abasebasha baseTara Arens.
NgoSepthemba 2019, owesimame watshelwa eqenjini elivaliwe ku-Facebook, ukuthi amadodana akhe aneminyaka engu-15 no-Eliji oneminyaka engu-16 ubudala - uhlala e-tampon kanye ne-gasket ezindlini ezingemuva - uma kwenzeka amathuluzi okuhlanzeka kungazelelwe badinga abangane babo noma ofunda nabo.
Amahora ambalwa, okuthunyelwe kushaye ukuthandwa okungaphezu kwezinkulungwane ezingama-65 futhi ukuphawula okuningi kungcono kakhulu. Le ndlela uTara akhuluma ngayo ngesipiliyoni sakhe kwikholamu ye-capEmom.
IQINISO: Ngokusho kwe-UNICEF, amaphesenti angama-26 abakhileyo emhlabeni aya esikhathini. Le yikota eyodwa yethu sonke. Futhi naphezu kwalokhu, iningi labesifazane namantombazane lizokutshela ukuthi ngisho nokukhuluma nangokwenuka ekuzweleni obala kunguTaboo. Kepha njengomama wendodakazi eneminyaka eyishumi namadodana amabili asencane, ngithemba ukuwushintsha.
Ngasekuqaleni kwale nyanga ngithumele isithombe samadodana ami eqenjini elivaliwe ku-Facebook, futhi wabuka le ndawo yaba viral. Ngenze lesi sithombe esitolo lapho siyothenga khona unyaka omusha wesikole. Ngabhala: "Abafana bami namuhla bangisiza ngokuthenga. - Ngubani ofake ama-bras okuqala kudadewabo omncane. "
Ngase ngingeze:
Womabili la madodana ami esikhwameni lisematafuleni nase-gasket, uma kwenzeka adinga umuntu abavela kubangane babo. Ngingumama nje ozama ukuqeda ubulili taboo!
Ngemuva kokushicilelwa, okuthunyelwe ngokushesha kwaba yigciwane futhi kwadala ukusabela ngokushesha kwabahlaziyi. UTara uyakhumbula: "Iposi lithola impendulo elifanele kakhulu," kukhumbula uTara. "Futhi waphefumulela abesifazane eneminyaka engamashumi amane, amashumi amashumi amahlanu iminyaka engabandakanyeka izindaba ezimbi kusukela ebusheni bakhe, lapho bebedinga ukuhlakanipha, kodwa babengekho."
Kwase kuthi: "Kusenzeka ukuthi athi:" Intombazanyana iyindlela intombazane encane, nayo eyayiyintombazane encane, futhi umngani wayo wamnika umjuluko wakhe ukuze akwazi ukumbopha okhalweni. Usakhumbula umusa wakhe.
Kodwa-ke, kwakukhona izindaba eziningi kakhulu ezihlobene nokuthotshiswa, amahloni nokungabi nalusizo. Inani elingenamkhawulo labesifazane latshelwa ngabebaba nabayeni abangakaze baye esitolo bazokwenza inhlanzeko. " Abanye abahlaziyi bathuke umzamo wami wokushintsha indlela yakudala yanyanga zonke.
Kucace ngokuphelele kimi: ukuya esikhathini kusalokhu kungubulili obukhulu be-taboo, obungakwazi ukuqeda - kodwa ngenza konke ukuzokhula amadoda akubhubhisayo.
Ukuvuza kwenzeka, "ngachaza amadodana ami. - Bayesaba kakhulu futhi bangaba buhlungu impela. Siza lapha kungaba ngomusa nokuqonda okuvela kunoma yikuphi. Yiba yile ndoda.
Eqinisweni, imizimba yethu imane yenze lokho abahloselwe emzimbeni. Manje kungani kufanele sibe namahloni?
Ngiqale ngaqala ukukhuluma nabo ngalo nyakenye ngonyaka odlule ngifunde isihloko esikhuluma ngendoda, okwathi ngesikhathi somkhankaso esikhwameni se-Appalachian yanikeza i-tampon esikhwameni sakhe esingemuva kwayo esikhwameni sakhe " Yabhalwa lapho ukuthi yasho okuthile okufana nokuthi: "Akukho lutho olubi, ngakhulela nonyoko nodadewethu ..." - Futhi kwangimangaza ekujuleni komphefumlo.
Ngake ngaholela emotweni futhi, ngibheke amadodana ami esibukweni esingemuva, ngasikisela ngokungakhathali ukuba bafake i-tampon ekhasini labo ngemuva, uma abanye babangane babo badinga usizo oluphuthumayo. Bebebonakala sengathi bacabanga ngakho, futhi abasho lutho ikakhulukazi, kahle, ngoba bayintsha.
Ukushintsha kwafika lapho "usizo oluphuthumayo" oluphuthumayo "ludinga umngani u-Eliji, futhi" walandela "esikoleni. Kusukela ngalolo suku u-Elija waqala ukugqoka i-tampon ne-gasket esikhwameni sakhe, kwathi uMike wenza okufanayo. Ngemuva kwalokho, i-T-shirt yatshela abangane bakhe abaseduze ukuthi, uma kwenzeka, e-Locker yakhe kukhona i-sweatshirt esisele, nasesikhwameni sakhe - i-tampton yakhe.
U-Elija walandisa ngakho kubo bonke abangane bakhe: bobabili abafana namantombazane, "kukhumbula uTara. Uthe, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi abanye abafana babemjabulele, iningi lathi "lipholile, dude." Ubuye waphawula nokuthi izintombi zakhe zikuthathe obala, futhi zaze zameluleka naye ukuthi ahlale ngenhlanzeko ende esela emotweni.
Impilo nabafana abasebasha isemjikelezweni ongenamkhawulo wama-STYCRICS, ukuqina kwendlala enobuntu, isigceke, ukuhleka nezikhathi ezincane, ezisheshayo - okufana nalokhu.
Konke ongakwenza ukuze ubasize baqonde ukuthi yini ebaluleke ngempela (ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi bangasiza kanjani abangane bakho ukuthi baphephe ngesikhathi sephathi, balandele okukuzungezile kwabantu abaseduze) futhi noma ngabe, ngokwesibonelo, Izikhathi, futhi yebo - ukuvuza) - kunengqondo.
Futhi njengoba uhlanganisa zonke lezi zinto, nixoxa njalo, baba ngokwejwayelekile ezinganeni zakho.
Ngiyethemba ukuthi abamele ubulili bonke, kufaka phakathi izingane ze-transgender, zizokwazi ukuthi emadodaneni ami kuphephile ukufuna inhlanzeko kusho ukuthi uzokwazi ukuhlela izindlela zokuhlanzeka uma zike zizidinge. Kepha ngisho nangaphezulu ngithemba ukuthi zonke lezi zenzo ezincane zizoshintsha indlela abafundi bezikole eziphakeme babona ngayo yonke isihloko.
Sincoma ngokweqiniso ukuzimisela kweTara Arens namadodana akhe futhithemba ukuthi kungekudala lokho noma kamuva ukubonakaliswa okupholile okunjalo kokukhathazeka mayelana nezinye kuzotholakala ezikoleni zaseRussia.
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