Kunzima ukucabanga ukuthi umama kungenzeka angathandi ingane yakhe. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi kuyatholakala, futhi ukungathandi kumuntu obaluleke kakhulu ongaphanga
Empilweni ezayo. Uma ufuna indodakazi yakho ikhule umuntu ojabulayo, imthande njengoba injalo. Futhi ubuke ngokuphelele okushoyo enganeni, ngoba amagama akho athinta phambili
Ingane kusukela emizuzwini yokuqala yempilo yakhe ibona ubuso bamama, futhi kuye yindoda ebiza kakhulu futhi esondele kakhulu. Intombazane izomazi ngokwakhe, ibheka emehlweni kamama, ngizwa imfudumalo yakhe, uthando, ukusekelwa. Kubalulekile ukuthi azwe imizwa kamama ekhule, akhule, afune izinhloso. Amantombazane aboshwe ngokuqinile komama, ngoba umama uyisilinganiso sobuhle, ukuhlakanipha, ulwazi lwempilo.
Ingane engayitholi ingxenye edingekayo yothando, isifundo esinonya empilweni sihamba ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Umama angasuswa, akanakwa, adelelekile, futhi intombazane ibhekene nengcindezi nsuku zonke. Ngemuva kwakho konke, akazi ukuthi yini okufanele bayilindele endodeni yayo yomshado olandelayo. Imvamisa amantombazane azama nganoma yiziphi izindlela okufanele zifanelwe inhlonipho ngomama, zizwe kunesidingo futhi zibathanda. Futhi kudinga amandla amaningi, izinzwa, amandla abalulekile, futhi azizifezi izinhloso. Umama uhlala ebanda, unesihluku, akanikezi ukushisa okungokomzwelo, okudingeka kakhulu enganeni ngayinye.
Indodakazi engavunyelwe ebudlelwaneni nonina yenza iziphetho ngokuthi ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu abananzuzo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba unamathiselwe kumuntu, okuthile okulindele okuthile kuye. Ngaphakathi kwengane kunengxabano enkulu: intombazane ifuna uthando aludingayo, futhi ngasikhathi sinye ibeka amabhlokhi angokomzwelo kunoma ibuphi ubuhlobo.
Lapho kufika ukuqwashisa entombazaneni ukuthi umama wakhe akamthandi, njengomthetho, uyaqhubeka nokufuna uthando. Ngaphakathi kwengane kukhona ukungakhethi: Ngakolunye uhlangothi, intombazane iyaqonda ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuthola uthando oluvela kumama. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, wayedinga kakhulu umuzwa wokuthi zonke izingane zidinga. Kunzima ukucabanga okwenzekayo emphefumulweni wentombazane, umama wakhe wendabuko angakuthandi. Ngemuva kwakho konke, kungokwemvelo futhi kufakwa yimvelo - ukuthanda nokuvikela ingane yakho. Lapho yehluleka, kunzima kakhulu ukusinda. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuze akwazi ukubhekana nale cala, kuthatha iminyaka eminingana.
Amadodakazi angawalingelo angawawangeli ahlala kuyo yonke izimpilo zawo namanxeba angokomoya awathola ebuntwaneni avela kumuntu wendabuko. Njengokulindelekile, kuthinta isiphetho sabo esengeziwe. Imvamisa abesifazane abanjalo banezinkinga ebudlelwaneni babantu, abakwazi ukwakha impilo, kepha bazisole, hhayi umama abangakwazi noma abafuna ukunikeza uthando nokusekelwa okudingekayo.
Omama abangathandwanga bavame ukusebenzisa imishwana elandelayo, ekhombisa ukungabikho kokushisa okungokomzwelo nobumnene. Uma intombazane ebuntwana izwa le mishwana evela kumama, ihlupheke, okokuqala, i-psyche yezingane nokuzethemba kwengane.
Funda futhi: Imiphi imishwana umama akufanele akhulume indodakazi yakhe
Lapho sibhekene, ukuhlupheka, sinzima futhi silimele, nezinkinga zethu sigijimela kumama. Akunandaba ukuthi uneminyaka emingaki ubudala: 4, 10, 20 noma 40 noma 40. Kunoma yimuphi unyaka, ufuna ukubhebhana nomuntu wakho wendabuko futhi uzizwe usekelwa. Lapho umphefumulo ubuhlanya, izinyembezi zihlanzeka ngokuzithandela. Kepha esikhundleni samagama afudumele nokuvalwa, indodakazi engavunyelwe evela kuMama: "Yini oyinyathela? Geza izinyembezi manje, akukho okukhala.
Usuvele ukhulu futhi ungaxazulula inkinga, hhayi u-sob. " Intombazane iyaqonda ukuthi imizwa kanina ayijabulisi. Umama ukholelwa ukuthi le nkinga ayifanele ukukunaka. Yini ibinzana elifanayo elinganikezwa ingane ezwa njalo ngomama? Intombazane izoyeka ukuhlanganyela imizwa yakhe, iyogcina yonke imizwa ngaphakathi, ezothinta kabi isimo sayo sengqondo nangokomzimba. Kuzoba nezinkinga ekwakheni ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu futhi, okungenzeka, ngeke kwenzeke ukuhlela impilo yomuntu siqu.
Yini ezothi umama onothando ofuna ukusekela ingane? "Kuhle, nginawe, ngiseduze. Nakanjani sizothola indlela yokuphuma esimweni. "
Ingane isethwe izimo eziningi, futhi uyaqonda ukuthi uthando lwabazali kudingeka lutholakale. Uma umama esho ibinzana lendodakazi elifanayo, le ntombazane iphetha ngokuthi uthando akuyona umuzwa wokuthi sinikezwe ngenhla, kodwa ukufana kohlamvu lwemali olushintshanayo. Umama uzothanda kuphela lapho indodakazi isusa amathoyizi ngemuva kwakhe, izokwenza izifundo, zihambe nenja, njll.
Imisho enjalo ibitshelwa yimiphi uJesu? Intombazane impilo yami yonke izozama ukuthola uthando lukamama, ngenkathi ikhohlwa ngezifiso nezidingo zakho. Ngokunokwenzeka, nezingane zakhe, uzoziphatha ngendlela efanayo umama wakhe.
Abazali abazimele bayaqonda ukuthi uthando luwumuzwa ongenamibandela, isipho esinikezwa wonke umuntu. Yimaphi amagama akhona ingane evela kumama? "Indodakazi, ndodakazi, wenze okubi, kepha ngisakuthanda, noma ngabe yini." Umama onothando nsuku zonke aqabulana futhi eqabula ingane, umtshela ukuthi uyamthanda, noma ethanda ukugeza izitsha noma athole uphawu olubi esikoleni.
Kubi, uma umuntu ehlukanisa abanye kubantu abahle nababi. Kepha wesaba kabili uma wenza umama kanina. Imvuthuluka emakhukhi, ujusi ochithekile, isidlo sasemini esikhulu, isidlo sasemini esingabekezeleleki - noma yikuphi ukudunwa kwayo kuguqula ingane yakhe ngaso leso sikhathi "kubi". Ikakhulu uma kunentombazane "enhle" eduzane, ubani ufunda kwezinye izici, azenzi izingubo ezingcolile, zihlala zilalela abazali.
Lapho umama efaka umakhelwane noma afunda naye njengesibonelo, okokuqala, ukuzethemba kuqala ukuhlupheka yindodakazi yakhe. Akazwanga kahle ngokwanele ukuba afanele omama abathandana naye. Uma ufuna ukukhulisa umuntu omuhle, ungalokothi uqhathanise nabantu babantu. Ungaqhathanisa izenzo zengane ngezikhathi ezihlukile zesikhathi, kepha ngaso sonke isikhathi sabela izikhathi ezinhle kakhulu. "Sithandwa, uhlala ugqoke enkulisa, kungani ungafuni namuhla? Kwenzeka okuthile? " "Kungamazwi anjalo asiza ingane ukuba ithuthukise, hhayi ukuqhathanisa ne-olya," engcono kakhulu kunawe. "
Bheka futhi: "Angiyithandi ingane yami ..." - Yini okufanele uyenze uma umama noma ubaba engakaze athande ingane yendabuko
Vele, umsebenzi wabazali ukuhlinzeka ngezidingo eziyisisekelo zengane (Okuphakelayo, ukukhokha, ukulala, ukulandela ukuphepha). Kepha abanye abantu abadala bakholelwa ukuthi akukho okunye okudingekayo kubo. Abachithi isikhathi sabo samahhala sokuxhumana nokudlala nezingane, kanye nezinkinga zengane zithathwa njengezinto ezingezona ezibucayi.
"Umama, akekho ofuna ukudlala nami egcekeni" - intombazane encane ihlukaniswe yinhlekelele.
"Yebo, futhi lokho, ukudlala wedwa. Uwine ukuthi unamathoyizi amangaki, "indodakazi kamama yaxosha. Ingane inomuzwa wokuthi inkinga yakhe ayithinti othandekayo. Kamuva, lokhu kuzoholela ekubhujisweni kobudlelwano phakathi kukaMama nendodakazi, kanye nokulahlekelwa ngokuphelele ukuzethemba kumama.
Kulesi simo, umama onakekelayo nowothando uzozama kanye nentombazane ukuthola ukuthi imbangela yokungafuni ukuzimisela ndawonye. "Mhlawumbe uthatha amathoyizi kusuka kubo noma wephule inqaba eyakhiwe esihlabathini? Futhi ake sakhe inqaba enkulu yesihlabathi esikhulu ndawonye! ".
USvetlana, oneminyaka engama-38:
"Asikhulumi nonyoko iminyaka eminingi. Njengoba ngangimshiya, abukho ubuhlobo. Ngizikhumbule malini, umama wayehlala elimala. Hhayi ngokwenyama, cha, akazange ashaye, akazange ajezise. Kepha minyaka yonke ngezwa, engiyithalente, ukuthi ngeke ngiphumelele, ngizosebenza njenge-janitor namagceke. Ngasikhathi sinye, bengilokhu ngifunda kahle, ngaqeda isikole ngendondo yegolide. Manje sengiyaqonda ukuthi ngivele ngazama ukufakazela umama, okuthile okumi empilweni. Ngemuva kwalokho wangena eyunivesithi, kepha akazange ancivise. Wayengafani konke kimi: ukubukeka, umlingiswa, imikhuba. Kubukeka kimi sengathi akazange adinge ukubeletha nakancane. Umuzwa onjalo wokuthi ngawuphambanisa impilo yakhe nokuba khona kwami. Ngemuva kwalokho ngasebenzela yonke intukuthelo yezingane enodokotela wezengqondo. Angishadanga, kepha indodana yami yazala. Lokhu, ngale ndlela, nakho kukhonzwa njengento yamahlaya amabi nokumangalelwa okuvela kumama. Lapho ngisesibhedlela, wabiza, kepha hhayi ukuhalalisela, kodwa kube nezimangalo eziningi kimi. "Ungazala kanjani ngaphandle kwendoda? Uzokhula ubani? Umuntu onezinwele ozobamba isiketi sakho? " Ngaleso sikhashana ngicishiwe ucingo futhi nganquma ukuyeka ngokuphelele ukuxhumana nomama. Ngihlala ngisekela indodana yami, ngihlala ngithi ngiyakuthanda kangakanani. Sisonke sixazulula zonke izinkinga, futhi uhlala ethi uyaziqhenya kakhulu ngomama onjalo. "U-Elena, oneminyaka engama-29:
"Sinobudlelwano obunobuthi nomama. Uhlala efuna ukunakwa, yize ebuntwaneni bengingadingeki. Angikwazi ukuthethelela konke akwenzayo. Kubekhona okuningi: Ukuhlekisa ngokubukeka kwami, ukuxhashazwa, ukukhala. Lapho umama esekhaya, ngangifuna ukucasha ekhoneni futhi ngihlale lapho kuze kube yilapho kuzohamba. Ngabona omama bezintombi bayabathanda, bangasize. Anginayo lokhu. Manje ngiyindodakazi yami uqobo, futhi ngazi kahle ukuthi awukwazi kanjani ukuziphatha ngengane. Angiqondi ukuthi ungayithandi kanjani intombazane yakho. Nginokuhamba phambili, engikuthandayo, okuhle, futhi okungcono ngizokuba "ngibe nzima" kune- "kungekudala". Ukwethuka nokulimala lapho umuntu osondele kakhulu engakuthandi. Lokhu kuzofanela ukubeka impilo yami yonke, ungadinga usizo kudokotela wezengqondo. Kepha nezingane zakho, zama ukugwema lawo maphutha enziwe umama wakho. Musa ukuphinda imishwana yakhe, kunalokho, zama ukulondolozela nokusiza izingane zakho. Kufanele bazwe uthando lwakho, khona-ke izimpilo zabo zizojabula.