Uthando lokuqala ngumcimbi ozokhunjulwa impilo yami yonke, futhi kwabanye kungaba yinto enqumayo ekulweni kwayo okuzayo nama-groughto. Ngeshwa, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho akuhlali kukuhle njalo - cishe ingxenye yesithathu yezingane nentsha uthando lokuqala alungafanelekile noma lungajabuli. Bazali, uma befunda ngalesi simo esinjalo, kudingeka usize ukubhekana nemizwa yokuvikela eziphukuphuka noma ngisho nezinyathelo ezibulalayo.
Izimpawu zothando olungenangqondo
Ukuthi ngengane kukhona okungahambi kahle, bazokwazi ukukwazi ngokushesha labo bazali abangenandaba nabo. Osemusha uvalwa, ekhathele kusukela emakilasini ajwayelekile, uyayeka ukuba nentshisekelo yokufunda. Iningi liyanyamalala, kepha lingaba isethi - ingane "iqasha" okuhlangenwe nakho kwayo. Ekuqondisweni kwabazali nabantu abadala abanesifiso sezizathu zoshintsho, ukungalingani kahle kuqala, kuvulwa izingxabano nokungalaleli. Kepha iningi lobuhlobo nomunye wabangane (izintombi) zisondelana kakhulu, imfihlo. Kepha uhhafu wentsha ubhekene nosizi lothando ngokwawo, wesaba ukuvula umuntu ukuba angabi yisihloko sokuhlekwa usulu, okokuqala.
Manje abazali bakulula kakhulu. Izingane zanamuhla zivame ukuthwebula isithombe ngasinye futhi zibhala ngemizwa enolwazi ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi. Bese ubeka izithombe nokuthunyelwe kaningana ngosuku. Usuvele uvulekele lonke ulwazi ungahlola isimo sengane. Ngakho-ke bheka kaningi emakhasini ezingane zakho, kodwa ngokungafanele.
Njengomthetho, uthando, intsha iqala ukuchitha isikhathi esithe xaxa ngaphandle kwendlu, chitha isikhathi esiningi ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, ezingxoxweni ngocingo. Ubuza imali ethe xaxa futhi uqala ukunaka kakhulu ukubukeka kwakhe, okungajabuli kakhulu.
Enye i-stencil yokuziphatha: Ukunakekelwa okugcwele kusuka ngokoqobo ngosizo lwemidlalo yamakhompiyutha, utshwala, ukuxhumana nabangane noma izinto zokuzilibazisa ngezemidlalo ezedlulele.
Kunamathebhu amakhulu amaningana abantu abadala, abaphula ochwepheshe bezengqondo abanganconywa kakhulu:
- Musa ukufunga izinto zezingane - amaphakethe wezinto, izikhwama, amabhokisi etafula. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuzosusa ingane futhi kuqinise ukungalingani.
- Akunasidingo sokulawula ifoni ephathekayo kanye nekhompyutha esencane.
- Akunakwenzeka ukwenqabela ingane ukuba ihambe endaweni ethile - usazobaleka, kakhulu ukunika ingane inkululeko encane kakhulu kunokujwayelekile.
- Akudingekile ukugxeka isifiso sokushintsha okuthile okubonakala, kepha bambalwa abazali abangazibukela ngokuthula futhi buthule bubukele okunjalo, bangagxeki ingane. Kungcono ukumane wamukele isimo - imvamisa izifiso ezinjalo zidlula.
- Ungazisebenzisi isimo.
- Musa ukugcona ingane futhi ungahleki imizwa yakhe - ayinamqondo kangako kunabantu abadala.
Imiphumela Engabasebenzi Yokulimala Kothando
Kunoma ikuphi, okungakhiwanga kungukuhlukumezeka ngokwengqondo.
- Uma singabi nentsha, ehlushwa uthando olungafanelekile lokusekelwa okufanele, khona-ke kungavela inkinga yengqondo.
- Abaningi banezimpawu ezicindezelayo: ukuhlelwa okucindezelekile, ukulangazelela okungapheli, ukunganaki kukho konke.
- Enye yezingozi kakhulu amantombazane ukungabikho kokudla, ukwehlisa isisindo kuze kufike ku-anorexia.
- Ezimweni ezinzima kakhulu, intsha ingaba nemibono ngokungenanjongo kobukhona, imicabango mayelana nokungabaza ukuze uphile.
Yini okufanele yenze abazali
Abazali kufanele babe nobuhlakani obukhulu. Akudingekile ukuthi uqale ngokushesha ukwenza ingane enemibuzo mayelana nothando, izinkinga esikoleni. KUBALULEKILE:
- Yenqaba ukubuzwa ngemibuzo, ukuxhumana kufanele kube ngobuhlakani ngangokunokwenzeka;
- Lalela, ukusekela, ukuqonda, ngisho nozwela;
- Ungasho ngothando lwakho lokuqala, kuphela ngaphandle kokudaza;
- Ukuxhumana nomuntu osemusha ngokuzolile ngangokunokwenzeka, hhayi ukuveza ukucasuka, ungakulahli ekukhetheni okungukuthi "okungaphumeleli";
- yenqaba ukuxhumana nontanga;
- Zama ukushintshana kwamanye amaqembu empilweni ongaxhumana nabo ubudlelwano bomuntu siqu - Thumela ohambweni, ubhale phansi ezifundweni ezintsha, woza nohlobo olusha lwamakilasi;
- Ngentando, noma imvume yengane, zama ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzeka.