Ngokuzalwa kwengane, umbhangqwana, njengomthetho, ulungiselela umthwalo ophelele. Kwindoda, ubuyise buyisinyathelo esibucayi avame ukuthatha iminyaka eqondayo lapho kutholakala okuningi futhi kulungele ukunika ingane konke okudingayo. Kodwa-ke, izimo zenzeka lapho abantu abasha beqala impilo yezocansi, kepha bayakhohlwa ngokuvikelwa. Eminyakeni eyishumi edlule, umphakathi wezwe wahlaselwa umlando wombhangqwana waseBrithani, oseminyakeni emincane waba ngabazali.
U-Alfi Patten wayeneminyaka engu-13 ubudala, intombi yakhe uTaxol Snidman - iminyaka eyi-15. Intsha yaqala ukuhlangana, kwathi lapho befunda ngokukhulelwa, kwase sekwephuze kakhulu ukuqeda ingane. Indaba yentsha yaduma emhlabeni wonke, kepha yahlebuya ukuthi bathola ukuthandwa okunjalo, ngenxa yabazali babo. Omkhulu nogogo nogogo nomkhulu banquma ukuthi ukubukeka kwengane kwakuyindlela enhle yokwenza okuhle. Izintatheli zikhokhe amanani amakhulu okudutshulwa ngakunye kombhangqwana osemusha noma ukuxoxisana nabo.
Ngokwemvelo, ingcindezi esemhlabeni futhi le ntombazane yayinomthelela omubi esimweni se-psyche yabo. Noma kunjalo, ukuze babe ngabazali ngeminyaka enjalo emnene nzima ngokuphelele. Lapho ontanga begibela ibhola ensimini yebhola, funda, baphile ngokuphila okujwayelekile kwabasebasha, u-Alfa noTaitol kwadingeka bashintshe ama-diapers, bavuke ebusuku, bahambe ngenqola futhi banakekele imvuthuluka futhi banakekele imvuthuluka. Ubanda kanjani ubaba osemusha, oseneminyaka engama-23 manje?
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Ngo-2009, izindaba zomfana aneminyaka engu-13 ubudala, ezizosheshe zibe ngubaba, futhi intombazane eneminyaka engu-15 ubudala, umama wesikhathi esizayo, waduma emhlabeni wonke. Ngezembozo zamamagazini nezikrini ze-TV, abafana abancane abangabona ukuthi abalindele esikhathini esizayo.
Lapho kuzalwa intombazane enhle, izithombe zobaba omncane, ozibheka ngobumnene, wathinta inhliziyo yomphakathi. Uhlaselwe, ikakhulukazi kubazali bentsha. Ngokusho kweqembu elilahlayo, abazali babephethe konke okwenzekile. Bekumele basindise, bachaze, bakhanyisele, kepha abakwenzanga.
Abazali bentombazane baphikile ukuba necala labo. Batshele izintatheli ukuthi bathola ngokukhulelwa, lapho indodakazi yayine-tummy ebonakalayo. Kuze kube manje, i-chatho chat yafihla isikhundla sayo kunina. Ayikho indlela yokuphuma, kwase kudale kakhulu ukuphazamisa ukukhulelwa, futhi abazali bavuse ukuthi maduze nje babezoba umkhulu omncane.
U-Alfa ukhumbula ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukuhlinzeka ngokobuchwepheshe kanye nemidiya emphakathini. Izintatheli zaxosha uBaba osemusha, zabuza imibuzo enobuqili, zazama ukudala umuzwa wecala.
U-Alfa kwakunzima ukuthola izimpendulo ezifanele, ngoba wayeneminyaka engu-13 kuphela ubudala. Umfana ngaphandle kwezemfundo kanye nesipiliyoni sempilo bekufanele kususwe, kuveze imininingwane yempilo yakhe, athethelele, futhi ngokungangabazeki lokhu kwasithinta isimo sakhe sengqondo.
Kepha kube nesikhathi esihle sokunakwa okusondelene kwezintatheli kubazali abasebancane. U-Alfi waqala ukutadisha izincwadi, ukuthi angayikhulisa kanjani ingane, eyi-nuances engalindela umama nobaba, okufanele akwenze ubaba akhule indodakazi ejabule.
Lapho ingane izalwa, umfana akazange asuke kuye. Wayihlonipha le ntombazane, angancoma osanda kuzalwa, aqhubeke nezibambo, ukujikisa nokukhuluma. U-Alfi waze wanquma ukuya emsebenzini ukuze indodakazi yakhe ibingadingi lutho, kodwa abazali babencipha futhi bathembisa ukuthi bazosekelwa ngokwezezimali ngumndeni.
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Kubukeka sengathi umfana osemusha wezwa injabulo yobaba wabe esewujabulela kuphela lo muzwa omuhle. Kepha owokugcina wendaba awukho kulo lonke longo lowengo, njengoba ungacabanga. Umama u-Alfi waqala ukuhlukumeza ungabaza ukuthi indodana yakhe ngempela uyimbamba lemvuthuko. Lapho kwenziwa ukuhlolwa kwe-DNA, kwavela ukuthi inhliziyo kamama yayingethuki ngeze ukusho. Ubaba wentombazane wayeyisoka elisencane uMama Tyler Biker. Waba ngumqambi wokulahla yonke imfanelo yentsha engcuphe.
Lapho ubaba osemusha ethola ukuthi le ntombazane akuyona indodakazi yakhe, wawela ekucindezelekeni. U-Ali wayengafuni ukuphuma endlini, ngoba wayengumlingiswa owaziwayo, futhi manje emgwaqweni kuye oboniswa ngeminwe yakhe. Kepha ababezindaba belahlekelwa ngokushesha inzalo enganeni, kwathi ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa ngabe usevele wakwazi ukululama esitelekeni futhi aqale impilo egcwele.
U-Alfi manje uneminyaka engama-23 ubudala. Ngokwemvelo, ubudlelwano ne-chatol wayeka futhi usevele wakwazi ukuqala amanoveli ambalwa namanye amantombazane. Akanazo izingane okwamanje, futhi u-Alfa akahleleli ukuba ubaba maduze. Wayenolwazi olwanele lokuthi wathola eminyakeni eyi-10 eyedlule. U-Alfi utshele izintatheli ukuthi wayengakulungele ukudala umndeni ngeminyaka yazo futhi akhulise izingane.