Kunezimo ezahlukahlukene empilweni ezicindezela
Bhala ukwenqatshwa kwengane yakho. Abanye bebengafuni ingane yasekuqaleni, kodwa sekwephuze kakhulu ukuphazamisa ukukhulelwa. Othile wavezwa kabi
Futhi umama noPapa banquma ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukubhekana nomthwalo onjalo. Kodwa yini kamuva njengabazali? Ungaphila kanjani ngesizotha, usazi ukuthi endaweni ethile ukhiye wakho, olahlekelwa ukunakwa kukamama nokunakwa ngubaba?
Umlando, owashiya indodakazi yakhe ekhaya lezintandane, wabe esefuna ukumkhetha
Owesifazane masimbize ngokuthi u-Ana, wayehlala nomyeni wakhe edolobhaneni elincane. U-Ana wasebenza njengothisha, umyeni wakhe ungunjiniyela. Lo mbhangqwana wanquma ukuthi kungaba yisikhathi sokuthola ingane, kwaqhamuka ezinyangeni eziyi-9. Eminyakeni embalwa kamuva, u-Ana nomyeni wakhe bacabanga futhi bafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi indodakazi idinga umzalwane noma udadewethu. Ukukhulelwa kwesibili kwaqhubeka kunzima ukwedlula owokuqala. Kepha u-Ana wayengakhathazeki, ngoba akuyona yonke into ehlala ibushelelezi. Isikhathi eside sihlushwe i-acticosis, lalela kaningana ekulondolozeni esibhedlela. Lapho owesifazane eqala ukukhulisa isisu sakhe, umyeni wakhe nendodakazi yakhe endala wayethanda ukubeka izandla phezu kwakhe alinde indodakazi encane ukuba ikhahle. Kwakuthinta inhliziyo, futhi intombazane endala ngalezi zikhathi yaqala ukumemeza kakhulu.
Usuku lokulethwa lusondela. U-Ana wabutha izinto ezidingekayo, umama wakhe weza ezobuka umzukulu odala. Ukuzalwa kwadlula ngokushesha futhi kalula, kodwa ngesizathu esithile, u-Ana akazange abonise ingane esanda kuzalwa. Lapho owesifazane ethungathwe ewadini, abahlengikazi bathatha amehlo, ingane ayizange ilethe konke. U-Anna Unovalo, akazange aqonde lokho. Bese kuthi-ke inhloko yoMnyango yeza kuye yathi le ntombazane yazalwa ine-Down syndrome.
U-Anna wahlala esidakweni. Amagama ekhanda afinyelela kancane kancane ekuqapheleni kwakhe, kwathi lapho eqonda lokho okwenzekayo, udonga luntanta, nowesifazane waphela amandla. Lapho-ke kwakukhona izinyembezi, zikhanyisa, ukudangala okubi kakhulu. Ikhanda libizwa ngokuthi u-Ana ehhovisi lakhe, lahlala ngokucophelela embhedeni:
Kungcono ulahle ingane, ngoba usuvele unendodakazi. Cabanga ukuthi kuzombonani ukuthi wonke amandla owachitha entombazaneni egulayo. Mncane, kungani kudingeka uphathe umthwalo onjalo impilo yami yonke? Ngeke usize ingane yami egulayo, ngakho-ke cabanga ngomndeni wakho, ngawe, ekugcineni. Uzozishisa uphila uma uyithatha.U-Ana wayengaqondi ukuthi benzeni. Wazama ukukucabanga ukuthi yiphi impilo ebizoba nengane egulayo, futhi amehlo agcwaliswa izinyembezi. Kwakuyethusa ukushiya ingane, kodwa futhi kuyesabeka ukuza ekhaya nentombazane enjalo. U-Ana waphuma eKhabhinethi, ancike odongeni, wezwa imilenze iba ukotini futhi yenqaba ukumlalela. Wafika egumbini lakhe ngokuyisimangaliso walibiza umyeni wakhe.
"Kungaba ngcono uma efa, kungaba ngcono uma ezalwa efile." Kungani sinayo?
Umyeni wami wathi:
- Endlini yethu, ingane enjalo ngeke iphile.
Impilo Ngemuva
Isinqumo sakhe sasekelwa yikho konke: Ogogo nomkhulu, abangane abaseduze. Umyeni wayesephuze u-Anna kusihlwa, futhi empeleni baphunyula esibhedlela somama, bashiya ingane encane, engavikeleki. U-Ana usazokhumbula ukuthi babalekela kanjani emotweni, bese umyeni ecindezela igesi, kube sengathi ufuna ukushiya ngokushesha lesi sehlakalo sobugebengu. Indodakazi endala ka-Ana yathi lo dade washona ezalwa.
Emasontweni okuqala u-Ana nomyeni wakhe bakhulume ngokusobala ngendodakazi encane, ababeyiphonsa esibhedlela somama. Babesaba ukuthi indodakazi endala iyakuzwa, yathi bekuyindlela kuphela yokuphuma.
Noma kunjalo, ezindlini zezintandane nasezikoleni zokugibela ziyazi ukuthi zingazinakekela kanjani izingane. Kukhona ochwepheshe, amakilasi, odokotela. Futhi yini ekhaya? Singahlanya lapha,- Ngizamile ukuthola izimpikiswano umyeni.
Ngaleso sikhathi, umama wakhe weza ku-Ana. Wazama ukusekela, wathi isinqumo esifanele senziwa. Futhi ngokwakhe wabheka phansi, futhi ngokuvamile, wazama ukungabheki u-Ana noshade naye. Kwabonakala sengathi bonke babesebenza emidlalweni yabo eyenzele ubugebengu obubi, kepha abakabanjwa ngamaphoyisa.
Endlini babusa ukuthula okucindezelayo. Indoda yaqala ukuhlala ihlala emsebenzini, ogogo babencane futhi bavakashela ukuvakasha. Abekho ukudla komndeni, ukuhamba ngezinyawo ekhefini, kuhambo lokuya emvelweni.
"Angikwazanga ukulala ngaphandle kwamaphilisi okulala izinyanga ezimbalwa. Umyeni walala ngokwehlukana, sayeka ukukhulumisana. Ngaba nokudangala okubi kakhulu, bengingafuni ukuhlala. Mhlawumbe, ngabe ngenze okuthile nami uma bekungengenxa yendodakazi endala, "- Utshela u-Anna.
Ukusuka ekuphelelweni yithemba, lona wesifazane waqala ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi kwi-Intanethi. Uma nje sengithola ingxoxo, lapho abazali abafanayo bahlanganyela izindaba zabo. Funda kwakunzima kakhulu. Imibhangqwana kwakubonakala sengathi ifuna izaba zokwenza kwabo isenzo sazo, kepha yayingenjalo.
Kungenzeka yini ukuthi uzithethelele?
Uma ufunda lokho abazali abakubhalayo, abashiya izingane zabo, baqala ukuqonda ukuthi yisiphi isihogo emhlabeni. Lababantu bahlala ngqo lapho, esihogweni sabo. Bacabanga ngesenzo sabo, mayelana nengane eyayiphonsa, umzuzwana ngamunye. Yebo, kunzima kakhulu ukukhulisa ingane ngokugula okungathi sína. Kepha kunzima kakhulu ukuhlala nobulukhuni enhliziyweni ngemuva kokuthi ushiye ingane engenakuzivikela ngesihe sekusasa. Bazali bazama ukuthola isizathu: Esikoleni esikhethekile sokogi, ingane ekhubazekile izoba ngcono kunasekhaya, asinaso isikhathi, amabutho, ithuba lezezimali lokukhulisa umntwana onjalo. Kepha zonke lezi zizathu ezingalethi impumuzo.
Abazali abashiya izingane, cela nsuku zonke: "Ngike ngangithethelela ngalokho engikwenzile?". Kepha impendulo isobala. Vele, akukho ukuxolelwa kwesenzo esinjalo.
Vakashela esikoleni se-boarding
Lapho kungabekezeleleki ukuhlala esimweni esinjalo, u-Ana wanquma ukubona ukuthi indodakazi yakhe yesibili ihlala kuphi. Ekuqaleni wavele wasondela emnyango, wabe esehlangana nabasebenzi, waqala ukubuza ukuthi ingane yakhe yayikhona kanjani. Futhi ngesinye isikhathi ngabona ukuthi sengikulungele ukubona umuntu omncane azenzile ekukhanyeni futhi waphonsa.
"Lapho ngimbona, inhliziyo yami yangena inqwaba. Wayefana kakhulu nami,. Bengicabanga ukuthi ngizobona ingane yomunye umuntu, kodwa kwakuyindodakazi yami, "- Ukhumbula ngezinyembezi emehlweni ka-Ana.
Ngaleso sikhathi owesifazane waphunyuka, akazange aze entombazane. Kepha emicabangweni yakhe bekungenakwenzeka ukubalekela. Wajikisa yonke iminithi ngememori njengezidumbu ezivela kwifilimu ehamba kancane, umhlangano wokuqala ngemuva kokundiza okuyihlazo nendodakazi encane. U-Anna wahudula emuva e-boarding esikoleni.
U-Ana wema ebangeni wabuka indodakazi yakhe. Lapha kunesifiso sokubheka endaweni ethile, bese kuthi kungathi kungena emikhakheni yami. Kwafika isikole sokugibela sowesifazane kowesifazane. "Ingane iyakuqonda ukuthi angidingi muntu," kusho lo msebenzi, no-Ana waphelelwa yisikhathi, ebambe ama-sobs.
Izindlu zika-Ana zalinda ukuba umyeni wakhe azikhulume ngokungathi sína. Wavuma ngokweqiniso ukuthi ubesesikoleni esiseduze futhi wabona indodakazi yabo. U-Anna, no-Anna, no-Ana kusho yena, nomyeni wakhe namyeni wakhe ngiyavuma. Ngokokuqala ngqa, u-Ana wathola impumuzo. Benza isinqumo, futhi kuphela kwakuwukuphela kweqiniso.
Ithemba lokuphahlazeka nezinhlelo ezintsha
U-Ana kanye nosomasha baxoxe ngalokho indodakazi endala izokusho. Bakhethe izingwegwe, izingubo, amathoyizi endodakazi encane. Abazali baqoqa amadokhumenti, beza esikoleni sokugibela. Futhi-ke ucingo lwakhala, olunqamula wonke amathemba omndeni. Babika ukuthi le ntombazane yafa ngenxa yokutheleleka.
- RidDAl Anna.
Umyeni wazama ukududuza, wawuseduze, kepha u-Ana kwakunzima kakhulu ukuzwa ukushona kwendodakazi encane, eyayishiya impilo yakhe kumuntu ongaziwa, lapho kungekho khona abantu bomdabu abaseduze. Futhi ngolunye usuku wangashade naye wathi: "Masenze le ntombazane. Ngabona ukuthi ukwenqaba okungakanani esikoleni se-boarding? ".
Abazali bendoda yakhe no-Ana bafika. Kuze kube sekuseni, babonisa ukuthi kufanele bafundise futhi bakhulise ingane ngokugula okungathi sína. Wonke umuntu wawubunye, wonke umuntu wayazi ukuthi bazokwazi ukubekezelela.
Manje emndenini uphila intombazane ene-Down syndrome. Yena, njengelanga, ukhanyisa ikhaya labo njalo ekuseni. U-Ana nomyeni wakhe babenencazelo yempilo, futhi indodakazi endala yomphefumlo ayingeni kudade osemncane.