Uthando, inhlonipho, ukuqondana okuhambisanayo - konke lokhu futhi kuyaqondakala, ngaphandle kwawo kungenzeka ngokwesimiso sokungakhulumi ngobudlelwano. Ngeke siyeke emithethweni eyaziwayo futhi esobala. Ake sibheke ukuthi yini engeyona yonke ukwazi ukuthi yini okulula kakhulu ukuyiqaphela ngaphezulu.
Ngiveza imithetho yakho eyisisekelo emi-3 yobudlelwano obujabulisayo, obuvumelanayo nobude
1) Ubudlelwano badinga ukubandakanyeka. Uma ukholwa kahle ukuthi wonke umuntu wanele ukuhlangana nomuntu "wakhe", khona-ke zonke izimpi eziningi ebuhlotsheni obuphelele nempilo yomndeni, khona-ke kufanele ngikudumaze. Cha, akunakwenzeka. Le nto ifaka ukunakekelwa, ukunakwa, uthando nokusekelwa, inzalo kumlingani wayo kanye nokungabikho ngokuphelele kokunganaki. Ukuzihlanganisa kitten noma ukuthenga isitshalo sasekhaya, uyakuqonda ukuthi kufanele unakekele lo msebenzi ophilayo. Ufuna ukuthola umsebenzi omuhle, yenza umsebenzi - udinga ukufunda okuningi, ukuthuthukisa, ukuxhumana nokuphikisana nabantu okuhambisanayo, njll. Funa ubudlelwano obugcwele obugcwele futhi obuvumelanayo - udinga ukwakha ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho ukuze kungabikho kungamukeli, okumangazayo, ukungaboni ngaso linye.
2) Akufanele kube nodlame ebudlelwaneni obuphilile. Udlame kungenzeka lungelona kuphela ngokomzimba, okuyindlela eyingozi kakhulu. Ukulawula, fisa ukuphinda umuntu - nalokhu futhi uhlobo lobudlova. Lapho uhlangana nomuntu futhi ubone okuthile okungahambisani nawe, ngenkathi kuvumelana nokwakha ubudlelwano naye, uma nje lezi zikhathi uzojwayela kuyo, ekuqaleni iyisimo sase-Utopian. Okokuqala, akunakwenzeka ukushintsha uhlobo lomuntu. Okwesibili, uzohlala uhlala ecaleni, intukuthelo, ukudumazeka kusuka kumlingani onjalo, ngoba ukuguqula ubuntu bakhe kuwe. Futhi okwesithathu, ngaleyondlela uzokhombisa udlame kumlingani wakho ukuthi ngokusobala luphikisana nobudlelwano obunempilo.
Izinhlobo zobudlova futhi zisebenza ukugxekwa. Ukugxeka umlingani kuvunyelwe kuphela ngefomu elingelona nodlame nakwimvume yakhe. Ukukhala, ukuthukwa, ukuthathwa, ukusetshenziswa kwamagama angcolile kuya ekhelini labalingani kubhekwa njengokubonakaliswa kobudlova. Ukuhlaziswa ukuthi umlingani uhola kancane noma ukuthi usebenzisa okuningi, ukusatshiswa kusuka esigabeni "ngeke usathola imali," "Angikuvumeli ukuthi uthenge ifoni entsha", njll. Bheka udlame lwezezimali. Ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, akufanele abe yizindawo. Ezikhathini ezinjalo, sibuyela esigabeni 1 futhi sakha ukuxhumana nomlingani ngaphandle kokungabizi futhi akubizi. Kuyafaneleka ukukhombisa ngokusobala ukuthi kungani udinga imali, ungayengeza kanjani imali, njengoba ungafaka isandla eqinisweni lokuthi umlingani ehola kabanzi. Ezokuxhumana ngebhangqa - yethu konke.
Inkomba yobudlelwano lapho kunobudlova ingasebenza njengomuzwa wehlazo, umuzwa wecala, ukwesaba, isizungu komunye wobambisene.
3) Ibhalansi phakathi engikunikeza / ukuthatha inani elilinganayo kuwe namandla atholwe kumlingani wakho. Okuqondakalayo kakhulu futhi kunzima ukusebenzisa umgomo. Imvamisa kubonakala kithina sizinika wena uqobo, futhi ngembuyiselo sithola okuyinhlekelele. Kulokhu, udinga ukwazisa okweqile kwakho. Cabanga futhi unesisindo. Ngizonikeza isibonelo esilula. Ngemuva kosuku, umlingani wakho ukuthumelela imiyalezo emi-2 ngokuqukethwe akujabulise ukuchitha isikhathi nawe. Iphendule cishe ngefomethi efanayo nenombolo yemiyalezo. Musa ukucwilisa umuntu esivunguvungwini sayo yonke imizwa onayo. Noma uma ungumnikazi we-introvert, futhi umlingani wakho ngazo zonke izindlela uveza imizwa yayo, ikhombisa ukunakekelwa kwayo, ikhombisa ukunakekelwa kwayo, zama ukuziveza okuthe xaxa. Uma-ke, unentshisekelo yokuthuthukisa lobu budlelwano.
Ngosuku lwabo bonke abathandi, ngifuna ukufisela wonke umuntu onobudlelwano, emshadweni, onomndeni, ovumelanayo, ophilile nobumnandi obujabulisayo. Futhi kubo bonke abasefunwa ama-halves abo, ngokushesha ukuze bakuthole. Khumbula ukuthi singabamnyama benjabulo yethu. Yenza ubuhlobo babo, ukuzihlakulela futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi bobabili kufanele bajabulele.
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