Sanibonani bangani!
Sasicabanga futhi sanquma ukuthi manje umbhalo wokusatshalaliswa, ababhalisile (Bhalisa kungaba lapha - lokhu kungenxa yamahhala) Thola ama-Fridays, kuzokwazi ukuyokwazi ukubona ngamaSonto - Kuzoya kuncwadi yomhleli weviki ifomethi kuwebhusayithi ye-NAN.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi manje akunangqondo ukufunda incwadi yezindaba, kusho ukuthi uzokwazi ukukubona kakhulu abafundi. Futhi sihlala sijabule lapho izinto zethu zifunda ngenkuthalo!
Ngakho-ke, kumagazini wokuqala wefomethi entsha ye-Episristolar, sizokhuluma ngezothando. Ngoba uSuku lweValentine, yebo. Futhi yize abazali abaningi abasebasha kungabonakala sengathi kunguhlobo oluthile lokungathathi hlangothi okubabayo, ngifuna ukukuqinisekisa ukuthi akunjalo. Futhi indawo yothando kufanele ibe ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu abakhulisa izingane ndawonye. Ngithi kuwe njengomuntu oneminyaka eyisikhombisa othanda umyeni wakhe.
Ngale ndlela, akahlali njalo akhuthaze iziphetho zefilosofi, kepha uma ethathwa lokho, uthola okuthile okufana nokuthi: "Sizojabula njengabazali, uma sijabule njengendoda nomkayo."
Futhi uyazi, ngijwayele ukuvumelana nalokhu. Ngoba ubudlelwano obubi phakathi kwabalingani badla lo mthombo, thatha amandla futhi ubonise ingane, njengoba kubuhlungu kakhulu, kubonakala sengathi kungaba ndawonye ukuthanda nokujabula.
Ngiyaqonda ukuthi njalo umbhangqwana unesifiso kanye nethuba lokugcina ubuhlobo obuthile bothando, kodwa namuhla ake sixoxe ngokuthi singakwenza kanjani uma uqonda ukuthi kukhona uthando, kepha awekho amandla.
Okokuqala, ngiphuthuma ukuncobisa izibalo nemibono yochwepheshe.
UPhilip Cowen, Ph.D., uprofesa wezengqondo kanye nomqondisi we-Human Development Institute of the University of California eBerkeley, kanye nonkosikazi wakhe uCaroline Pep Cowan, bahlanganyela Ethonyeni lokuvela kwezingane ukuze uphile umbhangqwana kusukela ngo-1975. Bethule iphrojekthi enkulu eba iphrojekthi yomndeni, ngaphakathi kohlaka lwayo iminyaka eminingana babuka khona imindeni kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ngaphambi kokuba izingane zabo ziye enkulisa.
Futhi njengengxenye yocwaningo lwaKhe, bathola ukuthi amaphesenti angama-92 abazali amemezela ukwanda kwemvamisa kanye nokuqina kwezingxabano kusukela lapho avela khona.
Lokhu kuqinisekiswa yizibalo zaseRussia: Iningi lemishado liyahlakazeka ngonyaka wethu wokuqala emva kokuzalwa kwengane. Ngezindlela eziningi, ngoba nje emphakathini, umqondo obanzi awukaze uthathe ingxoxo ezungeze umzali - abaningi babelethe, abazi lutho ngalokho okulindelwe khona phesheya ngemuva kokubukeka kwengane. Kwakha igebe elikhulu phakathi kokulinda neqiniso.
Ngakho-ke iseluleko sami sokuqala kulabo abafuna hhayi nje ukuba babe ngabazali, kodwa futhi bahlala umbhangqwana: Funda umdlalo. Funda izincwadi nezindatshana zokubola ocwaningweni, bhalisela izifundo, cela abangane, uthintane nodokotela wengqondo futhi wenze isithombe sengqondo salokho okuzokwenzeka ngemuva kokushaqeka ukuthi umzimba womuntu ungenza omunye umzimba womuntu.
Kungcono kakhulu uma ulindele uhlobo oluthile lwe-tin, futhi empeleni konke kuzokwethusa kakhulu - isisetshenziswa esikhishwe singasetshenziselwa usizo lwezothando.
Futhi kumaRomantics ngokuvamile, okungenani kanye ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, kwaphuma, mpompa uzwela futhi uqhubeke nokufunda umdlalo. Ikakhulukazi uma uyindoda. Ungahle ungazi, kepha akubona bonke abesifazane abakwaziyo ukubuyela kokubi (noma okungenani okuncane) ucansi ezinsukwini ezingama-60 ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane.
Ukunciphisa i-libido ukusabela okujwayelekile kwesitho sabesifazane ngenxa yezinguquko ezenzekile: Inqubo yokuvikela yemvelo eyenzekile ekukhulelweni okusha, izokwenza inselelo inhlala-kahle kasanda kuzalwa, izokwenza konke okungenzeka ukuthi umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo awenzeke ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo ukuze umanyolo awenzeki.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi kuyadingeka ukukhipha ngokuphelele ubumnene nothando empilweni yakho.
Akukho lutho olwengeziwe ngokobulili, ukuqonda nokusekelwa. Yebo, wamukelekile empilweni yabantu abadala, lapho akwanele ukuba nezandla ezinhle ngohlaka lwemikhono esheshayo yehembe elihloliwe kanye ne-Preskin ephaketheni lakhe. Ukwahlukaniswa Kwemfanelo Kwengane, Ukubambisana Kwezinqumo, Ukuzibophezela Ukubambisana Kwempilo, Ikhaya Nezemfundo - Futhi Amafutha Ahle Kahle Wobudlelwano Othembekile, lapho kukhona okuzolile kanye nezinsuku zepuleti kwama-chip ngaphansi kwe-plaid.
Ngokuvamile, ukuvuleleka ekuhleleni (lokhu kuyaqondakala!) Kanye nokubuyekezwa kwefomethi yobudlelwano bezothando kuwusizo olukhulu ekugcinweni kobudlelwano bothando phakathi kwabazali. Izinsuku kufanele zibe yingxenye yenqubo yomzali - ukushiya kwenye indawo ngaphandle kwengane ebalulekile kubantu abadala ababili ababambisene.
Ama-Sitters, Abangane, amaNannies, izihlobo - noma iyiphi inketho oyibona eyamukelekile ngokwakho yisisombululo esihle kakhulu kusihlwa ofuna ukusichitha ndawonye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingane uqobo ilusizo ukushintsha umbuthano wokuxhumana, yandise futhi yajwayelane namanye amafomethi wokuxhumana nabantu abadala. Uma ungacabangi ukuhlukaniswa nengane njengokulimala nokukhashelwa, ngeke kube njalo.
Ngizwa intukuthelo yabanye bakho. Futhi yebo, njengomuntu ongahlukani nengane ngisho naseholidini, ngiyakuqonda kahle kahle. Futhi uma okokuqala ungafuni ukuhlala ngaphandle kwengane (ngokwesibonelo, ungahle ungakhululeki ngokomzimba ngenxa yezinkomba zobisi), ungakwenzi!
Vele uzame ukonga izikhala zezikhathi zothando ku-adventinantacter all: Amagama amahle, amanothi, imilayezo, izinto ezincane ezingeke zibuze umkhiqizo omkhulu kakhulu phakathi kwabazali abangaphatheki) kuzoba endaweni. Futhi angikhulumi noma yikuphi mayelana nokuthi yiziphi izingubo ezi-sexy kanye nokufunwa okuxakile lapho, ngoba angilona umgibeli omkhulu ocwebezelayo, kodwa umuntu ophilayo onesipiliyoni sobuzali esineminyaka eyisithupha - ngiyazi ukuthi ukungezwani ngokobulili phakathi kwabazali abakhathele kuvame ukulondolozwa ku-x ** Ngezinye izikhathi afuna ukuthumelana.
Ngithi ukuxhumana okuvulekile nokweqiniso kumele kube yisihluthulelo sokonga kwezothando, nakubo bonke abangakuluma izeluleko ze-Oskovin ukugqoka ama-panties e-lace kanye nezandla zoboya.
Njengoba besho, ucansi, kunjalo, kunjalo, kepha ingabe uzame ukukhuluma ngamazwi ngomlomo wakho?
Futhi njengoba ukhuluma futhi uyavuma, ungazama ukusebenzisa ukuhlela empilweni yakho. Yebo, kungazwakala ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka futhi kuyamangaza: Yini ongahlela ingane ezandleni zakho nokuthi izosisiza kanjani? Uyazi, kungokuqala nje okubonakala kuyisidina, kepha empeleni ukulinda usuku, ubulili noma ibhulakufesi kuphela kuphela (Cabanga nje ukuthi ekuseni ngeSonto, ngoFebhuwari 14, akekho ozokuvusa, wonke umuntu uzokuphinda, wonke umuntu uzokuphindela masinyane, Uzobutha uhambo futhi ahlanze igumbi, futhi uzovuka futhi ungavuka ungaba nebhulakufesi futhi ubuke uchungechunge lochungechunge lwakho lwe-TV olithandayo, lungasebenza?) Ungasebenza njenge-catalyst ngemizwelo emihle futhi unikeze isikhala ngobuhlakani nokuzinakekela.
I-Pragmatism akuyona ukwenqatshwa kwezothando, lokhu kungukubukeka okuvamile ukuthi impilo yakho ikuphi.
Njengoba u-Andrew Sofin, uMongameli weNhlangano Yemishado yaseCanada kanye nokwelashwa komndeni, iningi lamakhasimende alo - abantu abanezingane abangaphansi kwemihlanu, ukuze le nkathi yempilo ingabhekwa kakhulu ukusesha ukulinganisela phakathi komzali nezothando ebudlelwaneni.
Futhi kulesi simo kuyasiza ukudlala nxazonke: Ubheka isiphithiphithi esenzeka empilweni yakho asikho kwiphethini esungulwe kahle (manje izohlala kunjalo), kepha njengesiteji (ngolunye usuku izophela), okukuvumelayo Ukubushelela izikhathi ezicindezelayo kakhulu. Abayeki ukuba khona futhi banganyamalali noma kuphi, kepha ithemba lishintsha kancane futhi lenza impilo ibe ncamashi kakhudlwana, futhi ngenxa yalokho, okunikeza ithuba lokuqhubeka nabazali kuphela, kodwa futhi nabalingani (kanye nokuphambana kwe-Versa). Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi ekugcineni kuzoba lula, ungabhekana futhi usho amazwi amathathu aqanjiwe: "Siyaphumelela."