Akunjalo kudala, ukwamukela kwethu okuku-inthanethi kwavela kumfundi, owayefuna ukufunda ukuthi angakudlulisela kanjani kumlingani wakho ngokuthola udlame mayelana nengane: ngempama, ngempama, i-poddenzniki, ama-chip ".
Lona ngumbuzo omuhle impela, ngoba ukhathazeke kakhulu futhi abaningi bangaphezu kokufanele (ngeshwa).
Ngakho-ke, phakathi koMkhandlu nezincomo, kwakukhona imidwebo eminingana ekuvikeleni "kwesokudla" komzali ekushayeni. Basho, akukho lutho kulokhu, "Omama abafanele" bandisa isilinganiso esingesihle sokuhlaselwa ekuthuthukisweni ngokomzwelo kwengqondo kwengane, futhi ngokujwayelekile - ngempama akulona udlame.
Ngokumangazayo, kodwa iqiniso: ukwenqatshwa kwegama nomzamo wokunganaki inani langempela akusebenzi njengesipelingi somlingo, ukunciphisa imiphumela yodlame.Ngamafuphi, impikiswano yokuthi kungenzeka yini ukushaya izingane (onkulunkulu, njengoba kungenzeka nakancane!), Konke sekukhule futhi ngakhula, futhi ngacabanga ukuthi kudingeka sikhulume ngakho. Hhayi ngengxoxo esembuliwe, kodwa yenzeni ngombono wobumbano ezingokomzimba emasikweni ethu nakancane ngobunjalo bokukhuthazeka ngokomzimba njengendlela ephumelelayo yokukhuliswa.
Egijima ophahleni, sanquma ukusebenza nengqikithi: okokuqala baphinda eminye imibhalo yethu mayelana nokuthi kungani kungadingeki ukushaya izingane, kumanethiwekhi okuxhumana nomphakathi weNan, bese usakaza inothi nguTamara vysotskaya, ayibhalela , ku-Twitter bese ngibhala isazi sezengqondo kanye nesisebenzi sezengqondo se-Faculty of Psychow State University vera Yakupova futhi samcela ukuba aphume nami emoyeni ukuze akhulume ngodlame olubhekiswe ezinganeni.
Ngeke ngiphikise kakhulu, "ungabukela umfudlana wethu erekhodi - kepha ngifuna ukusho ukuthi izinto eziningi ezibalulekile ezihlobene nesihloko sodlame zingivulele ohlangothini olusha.
Isibonelo, kuvela ukuthi abantu abaphikelela ukuthi "Sisishaye - futhi sisishayele - futhi singenalutho" (futhi siqhubeke sinamathela kulolu maxim futhi kubazali babo), kodwa kulimele kakhulu abanolwazi ebuntwaneni Udlame kanye nalabo iqiniso lokuthi wadala abantu ababaluleke kakhulu ezimpilweni zabo, nje abakwazi ukwamukela njengokuthile.
Lesi yisicupho sodlame: Awunakukholwa ukuthi umuntu osondelene naye angakwenza lokho nawe. Futhi uma ngikwazi, kusho ukuthi lokhu kuyinto embi ngawe - "Bengingakuqondi okuhlukile."Ngokuvamile, konke lokhu kudabukisa kakhulu - ngakolunye uhlangothi, akunakwenzeka ukubheka umoya ozolile ukuthi abantu baphika kanjani okusobala (ukuslayida akusona udlame), kepha ngakolunye - kufanele ukwazi ukuletha uzwela lwakho ukuze lugcwele Bona izingane ezincane ezilimele ezingekho lutho olufanele ukushaywa.
Ngokumangazayo ngokwehlukile ukuthi abazali bangenakusiza bazizwa kanjani lapho bezama ukuba nombono wabo wobudlova bakuhle - bathi, kahle, vele, vele bonke kunezimo lapho kungenjalo ukuba bazithumele!
Lapho udlame lubizwa ngegama laso futhi luba sobala, abazali bokwethuka bafuna ezinye izindlela zokujezisa - ngesikhathi somoya sesifikile uma ingane enqaba ukuqonda "," yini Thina, ekhanda sabo sibashaye ngokudlulisa izikhalazo "," Yebo selokhu usho njalo, awunazo izingane nje, ngakho-ke ucabanga ukuthi ungaphakamisa, ungajezisi. " Kepha yonke le nto ukuthi izijeziso - noma yini - lokhu akuyona enye indlela yokushaya, kumane nje kuyibutha.
Yini, engajezisi? Yebo, ngokuvamile, yebo, ungajezisi.Esikhundleni salokho, ukuba yindoda endala eqonda ukuthi iqiniso ngempela iqiniso, empeleni aliqondi izinto eziningi kakhulu - futhi ubudlelwane bezenkolo nabo. Yebo, kancane kancane, ikakhulukazi uma uzochaza ngokungaguquki, kuzophambukisa futhi kunqunywe ukuthi akudingekile ukwenza lokho okungaba yingozi. Okwamanje - vele uthole ukubekezela kanye nesibopho.
Futhi lapho ufuna ukushaya ingane yakho, vele ukhumbule ukuthi lesi akusona isimo lapho kungekho ukuphuma okuphumayo akusho ukuthi kuyisinqumo. Misa, yiba umuntu osekhulile onokwethenjelwa okwazi ukukubamba phezu kwalasha we-rye. Akunakwenzeka ukuguqula umthwalo wemfanelo wesinqumo sokuphakamisa isandla sakhe - akufanele asolwe ngeqiniso lokuthi usube ngumlingisi wobudlova.
Futhi ukuzisiza ukuthi wazi konke lokhu, kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, zithokozise kusukela ebuntwaneni, leyo ngane (noma ungaseyona ingane), ezazizwa ngabekwesaba nokuthobeka lapho ethola imbongolo. Khumbula, awuzange ucabange ngakho konke abakufanelekile - futhi baqonda kakhulu.
Futhi nokho: Sinezinto eziningi ezibhalwe ukusiza labo abafuna ukuqaphela ubudlova bobudlova empilweni yengane. Nazi zinjalo - futhi ngibancoma emphefumulweni."Kwesinye isikhathi kwanele ukulalela ingane": ikholomu yokuthi kungani ungakwazi ukuthula ngobudlova. Ngisho nasekuxhumaneni nomphakathi
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Zinakekele wena nezingane!
UGlavred Nan.
Lena aveyanova
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