Ngabe abantu basuka ngempela ku-Abesifazane "ababi"? Vele akunjalo! Izizathu zokuhlukanisa kukhona isethi enhle, kepha kaningi ngezimbangela zeqiniso zokuzibalela kwazo ubulili buthule. Yini engeyona eyesiko ukukhuluma ngamadoda ngesikhathi sokuhlukana? Yiziphi izinto ezididekile phansi eziqinile futhi kungenza ngithathe ikhefu?
Hlangana: 3 Izizathu eziyimfihlo ezithinta amadoda esigabeni sokuphelelwa yithemba.
1) ingcindezi engenhla kwento evamile
Uma owesifazane ezama njalo 'ukulungisa' ubuhlobo, abenze babe ngcono, khona-ke lapho bephisheka lokhu kuthuthuka, bakhohlwa ukuthi uzizwa ngezikhathi ezinjalo umlingani wakhe.Awekho amadoda athanda ukucindezelwa.
Lapho umlingani ezwa njalo ukuzwa ukuthi kufanele ahole kanjani, malini futhi uzuza malini, nokuthi uzokwazi ukuxhumana nobani, futhi akufanele ukwenze lokhu, akuyena imizwa emnandi kunazo zonke.
2) ngenhla, phambili, ngokuqina
Amadoda athanda ukuncintisana - asegazini labo, kepha kunezinkinga ezincane. Into eyodwa eqhudelana nabanye abantu besilisa ukufakazela ukuphakama kwakho emsebenzini noma kwezemidlalo, kodwa kuyingxoxo ehluke ngokuphelele lapho umfana eqhudelana nowesifazane othandekayo.
Kungaba nezibonelo eziningi zomncintiswano ofihliwe onjalo. Lapho abantu ababili bethola emphakathini, okulungile kubo, futhi ubani ongekho umzamo wokubonisa ukuphakama. Ukuqhathanisa njalo okuthola okuningi emndenini nakho kuyisifiso sokufakazela ubuqhawe bayo.
Futhi uma esikhathini esithile sokuphila owesifazane uqala ukuthola okuningi, khona-ke kuvame ukwamukelwa ukuheha lo muntu othandekayo, ukuziqhayisa ngokuthi imali ayitholile iphakeme. Ukuxabana okungapheli nokufisa ukuhamba engqungqutheleni igama lokugcina lazo futhi alizengezi ezothando ebudlelwaneni.
Ngakho-ke, owesifazane kufanele enze ukukhetha phakathi kokuncintisana okungapheli kanye nomoya onokuthula endlini. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuqhubeka nokuncintisana nomuntu wakho othandekayo, nakanjani ngeke uhlale.
3) ukungahloniphi kanye nokululaza
Umlingani akasoze asakhela noma alondoloze ubudlelwano nowesifazane ohlala ekhombisa ukungamhloniphi. Isigamu sesibili kufanele sihlale sisesikhundleni senduna, zama ukuyisekela, thatha ubuthakathaka bakhe obuncane.
Ukuze umuntu abe ngababili angaveza ngokuphelele amakhono akhe, kufanele abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyahlonishwa.
Uma uzibona kulawa maphutha, futhi wabona ukuthi zenza impilo yomuntu othandekayo ngokwakho, bese uqala ukuguquka.
Uthando alubekezeleli ingcindezi kumlingani, ukuncintisana noma ubudlelwane obungahloniphi. .
Ubudlelwano obujabulisayo! Ngibonga ngomusa ngokuthandwa kwakho. Ukuphawula, imibono, izingxoxo kanye nokulahlwa kwamukelekile ku-athikili yokuqala nezinye izinto eziphathelene nobudlelwano ongazithola esizeni sami.Umthombo