Lapho ngiya esikoleni, imihlangano yabazali kwakuwukuphela kwendlela yeqiniso yokudlulisa imininingwane edingekayo kubazali, ngoba kwakungekho i-Intanethi, futhi ifoni ibingeyona yonke. Lapho ekhona ngezindlela zesimanje zokuxhumana, izingxoxo ezithunzini, kanye nokuvinjelwa okuyimfihlo ekushotheni izibongo ezikhethekile zabafundi, imihlangano yabazali yaphenduka inselelo yesikhathi esedlule.
Kusukela enkulisa, ngangivame ukuya emihlanganweni yabazali, ngakubheka ngemfanelo yakhe eqondile. Bese kuba khona izingxoxo nezinkundla zokuxhumana nomphakathi nemibuzo eminingi yafuna ubukhona bomuntu uqobo. Eminyakeni engu-3 eyedlule, lapho indodana isebangeni le-8, ngayeka ukuhamba phezu kwabo ngizisole ngabo bengakwenzi ngaphambili. Ngifuna ukuhlanganyela nabafundi be-Amente.ru, kungani yamukele isinqumo esinjalo nokuthi yini eye yashintsha kusukela ngaleso sikhathi. I-SPOOPER: Lutho, ngaphandle kokuthi izinzwa ziye zaba namandla futhi zivele isikhathi esithe xaxa.
"Amanye amantombazane abukeka kahle, kanti abanye babafana bahlala bedla isidlo sasemini somunye umuntu"
Kakade ku-zero, othisha abathuthukayo bagweme imibono yomuntu siqu, futhi kusukela ngo-2006, lapho umthetho "wedatha yomuntu siqu" wamukelwa, umkhuba uthathe umlingiswa omkhulu. Manje omama bakamama bangaya emihlanganweni ngokukhululeka, ngaphandle kokubamba imibono yabanye abazali. Ngasikhathi sinye, imihlangano yalahlekelwa yincazelo eyinhloko. Ngemuva kwakho konke, abazali babaluleke kakhulu kunakho konke ukuphumelela kwe-CHAD yabo, hhayi ukusebenza kwekilasi lonke. Ngakho-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi ufunde ngokuziphatha noma ukuhlolwa kwengane yakho manje emhlanganweni womuntu siqu nothisha noma uhlobo oluthile lwezinto ezingaqondile.
Lapho indodana yami isebangeni le-8, uthisha, engabizwanga amagama, athi amanye amantombazane ayemazilo akhanya kakhulu futhi adala izingubo, kanti abanye babafana bahlala bedla isidlo sasemini somunye umuntu. Leyo mizuzu engu-15 ethi Uthisha nabazali bamantombazane bathole lokho, ngokusho kwabaphathi, kukhona ukubukeka okubangela, omama kanye nabafana baba ubaba babheka izingcingo. Imizuzu engu-15 elandelayo, kanti amasela e-Ephemery of Dinner abikwa, abazali bamantombazane belahlekile.
"Izingane zakho ngeke zibhale umsebenzi wokuqinisekisa"
Amabinzana "wena kubi kakhulu" okwethusa izingane hhayi kuphela izingane emakilasini, kodwa futhi nabazali emihlanganweni. Omunye uthisha uhlala ephefumulele kithi, abazali: Izingane zakho ngeke zibhale umsebenzi wokuqinisekisa, azinikezi izivivinyo, zidelele, ngeke zidlulise, njll. Impela, babhala. Kepha lokhu kufakwa kothisha ukwethusa, futhi kuqina ngokwengeziwe - kungani kunganyamalali noma kuphi. Cabanga ukuthi ukuqhekeka kwesifanekiso obengenzeke kanjani kubazali, uma kungazelelwe, emhlanganweni, othile ovela kothisha wathi: "Yebo, ungaphumuza, unazo izingane ezinhle, zizophumelela."
"Abazali basheshe bashayisana nemibhangqwana, umuntu oyedwa uzovalela amehlo akhe futhi awe, kanti omunye uyayibamba"
Uthisha wokuqala wendodana yami wayenayo yonke intokazi ehlakaniphile enesikhundla sokuphila esisebenzayo. Uchithe umhlangano ophelele, nangaphambi kuka-9 PM, akuvamile ukuba siphambuke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uNatalia Ivanovna waphakamisa izinkinga ezibalulekile ezihamba ngezinyawo. Isibonelo, omunye umfana wamtshela ukuthi izindlu zakhe zakhungathelwa ezintathu eziphezulu. Ingxenye yale ihora neNatalia Ivanovna ifunda inkulumo yokuthi kungani kungenzeki ukwenza kanjalo, - ngezibonelo ezivela empilweni, izincomo zezazi zengqondo. Kulungile, kepha kungani mina engeke ngamthuka ingane ngeTroika, ngemuva kosuku olunzima kufanele lulalele le nkulumo, esikhundleni sokuya ekhaya nginaka le ngane nginaka le ngane futhi nginaka lo mntwana. Kwesinye isikhathi uNatalia Ivanovna wayengakhawulelwe kwinkulumo. Wake wacela bonke abazali ukuba baphume bangene emgodini bese baphahlazeka kulo mbhangqwana. Ngaphezu kwalokho omunye wabalingani kwadingeka avale amehlo bese eqala ukuwa, kanti omunye wawudinga ukuyicosha. Ngakho-ke sasebenza ngokuzethemba ngaphakathi kweqembu labazali. Kuliqiniso, enye imali yayingabanjwa. Izinto eziningi beziseneminyaka emi-4 yesikole samabanga aphansi: sapenda emhlane womunye nomunye, siphonsa izinhlobo ezithile zamaqabunga futhi zabhalela izincwadi ezizobhalela ezinganeni zezingane zethu. Mhlawumbe konke lokhu kuzothakazelisa kakhulu, kepha kwezinye izimo, nabanye abantu nangesicelo sabo.
Imihlangano ngosuku olulodwa: isikole sekhululekile, hhayi abazali
Lapho sekushade entwasahlobo ngangiphuze umhlangano. Imoto bekufanele ibeke amamitha ayi-300 esikoleni. Ngenkathi egijima ebumnyameni ekunciphiseni iqhwa, wawela ohlotsheni oluthile lwe-puddle, wangqongqoza imilenze yakhe. Futhi konke ngoba "ukuze kube lula umsebenzi wendawo yonke" isikole sanquma ukuqhuba imihlangano kuwo wonke amakilasi ngosuku olulodwa, manje izimoto zabo bonke abazali besikole zihlala emgaqweni wonke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kweminye imikhaya kunezingane ezi-2-3 zesikole, futhi umama uhamba kuphela ebandleni, ongeke akwazi ukuhlukana nezigaba ezi-3. Ngokuvamile, lesi sinqumo esihle kakhulu sokuvela kukayise emhlanganweni asikhuphuki ngqo.
"Futhi ungitshele futhi ukuthi mangaki amaseli abuyela emuva?"
Lapho ngisaqhubeka nebandla, isikhathi sabo sasivame ukwanda kwabazali bakaPetrosyan, kanye nangomama nobaba nobaba. Eminye nemibuzo efanayo kumbuthano we-101, futhi ungitshele futhi, mangaki amaseli okufanele abuyele emuva? "), Amahlaya angafanele futhi" okunikezwayo okubalulekile "kuyingxenye ebalulekile cishe kunoma yimuphi umhlangano. Futhi uma engxoxweni ungaphuthuma yonke into engathandeki futhi engabalulekile, khona-ke emhlanganweni, yiba nomusa, hlala ulalele.
"Unganjani imibala? Well, wasungula! "
Lapho indodana yami ingena esikoleni esisha, lapho iminyaka eminingi yonke imibuzo ixazululile "iTranschamber" encane yabazali abasebenzayo. Imali engakanani yokuchitha izipho zoNyaka oMusha, ukuthi ungayenza kanjani imisebenzi yangaphandle, njll. Baxazululwe, bavota emihlanganweni isinqumo esenziwe ngomumo. Lapho mina kanye, ngiphefumulelwe yisibonelo esivela kwi-Intanethi, enikelwe esikhundleni sokuthenga izimbali ngoSepthemba 1 ukuze ngichithe imali yokupha, ngahlekwa. Ngabona ukuthi ukunambitheka kwami akuvumelani nokukhethwayo kwe- "ukubusa phezulu", noma ngabe kungukukhetha kweholide eliholayo, umhlobiso weklanqika noma izingubo ekhonsathini. Ngasikhathi sinye, anginendaba konke lokhu, kubalulekile ukuhlela inguquko futhi ukugumbuqela ikomidi labazali.
"Isigaba asifuni ukufunda! Uthisha wezibalo akhononda ngezingane "
Kungani isimo lapho othisha bekhononda kubazali bengekho ezindaweni zokuhlala kanye nama-hooligans, kodwa ekilasini lonke, sekuyinto evamile eminyakeni yamuva. Yize, eza emhlanganweni futhi ethi: "Izingane zakho aziwufezi umsebenzi wazo wesikole," kupendwe ngokungakwazi ukusebenza, ngoba abanye othisha azikho izinkinga ezinjalo. Ngandlela thile emhlanganweni eGradeni yesi-6, uthisha omusha wezibalo uvula umnyango wekilasi futhi amemezele: "Abantwana bakho abafuni ukufunda nakancane, akukho muntu obhale abathathu abaphambili, kufanele wenze okuthile." Bonke abazali bakhukhumele ngenxa yokuthukuthela, kepha bathule, futhi lapha ubaba oyedwa wathutha buthule wathi: "Wenzani okufanele ukwenze ukushintsha othisha." Lo mfundisi ubonakala emuzwa, kodwa ngivumelana ngokuphelele naye. Angiqondi ukuthi kungani kimi, umzali, edinga ukugcwaliseka komsebenzi wothisha, futhi angifuni ukuchitha isikhathi sami, ngilalele ini, kuvela, kubi zonke izingane zethu.
Iminyaka eyi-11 bengizochitha izinsuku eziyi-5.5 zempilo yakho emihlanganweni yesikole
Lapho indodana isebangeni le-8, umhlangano wabazali wenzeka ekuqaleni konyaka wesikole. Kuxoxwe ngecala lesikole elizayo (ngithanda ukwengeza "okuyize"). Okupholile kwethu, ngokusho kwakho okujwayelekile, kwadonsa isigaba esifanayo. Ngonyaka ngaphambi kwalokho, ubaba oyedwa kwabangu-8 "B", ezempi, waletha cuisine yasendle kwinkundla yezemidlalo futhi wafaka i-pilaf, eyayifunwa. Thina kulo nyaka kumele silahlekelwe yi- "Bashchki" ekhaleni. Ngenkathi abazali abakhuthele bexoxa, indlela yokuhlela i-pizzeria eselula enkundleni yezemidlalo, ngazama ukubala ukuthi ngichitha isikhathi esingakanani kulezi zigameko ezinhle ngawo wonke umqondo. Kwavela cishe amahora ayi-12 kanye nomgwaqo kuzo zombili izinkomba. Okusho ukuthi, eminyakeni eyi-11 ngangichitha amahora angama-132 empilweni yami akucaci ukuthi yini. Futhi nginqume: konke kwanele.
"Futhi uma bonke abazali beyeka ukuya emihlanganweni?"
Umhlangano olandelayo, owawunikelwe emgubhweni woNyaka oMusha, nganquma ukungahambi. Ukuhlola ngiyazi kanjalo, azikho izinkinga ngendodana yami, uma udinga ukusayina okuthile - kuzothunyelwa ngengane, imininingwane ebalulekile izobhalwa engxoxweni yabazali. Ukuntuleka kwami, kubonakala sengathi, akekho owabonayo. Ngokuvamile asiyenzi ngempela - ingxenye yabazali kuphela iza njalo. Ekupheleni konyaka, uthisha wasekilasini wayengcolile: "Kungani kungenjalo kulo mhlangano? Awuguli? " Ngiyaphendula ngokuthi cha, angiboni iphuzu. Nokubola emashalofini kungani. "Futhi uma bonke abazali beyeka ukuya emihlanganweni?" - Kubuza uthisha. "Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe, uzoyeka ukuchitha," ngithe. Ngemuva kwesonto ngabizelwa kuMqondisi. Owesifazane ongacacile waseSoviet wakhula waqala ukuchaza ukuthi lo ngumsebenzi wami wobuzali futhi, uma ngenqaba ukukwenza, lesi sikole sizophoqelelwa ukuba sibike. Izinsongo zazingenalutho - awukho umthetho onjalo obopha abazali ukuba baye emihlanganweni. Ngakho-ke, akunakuba khona ucebe lokwenqaba. Ngimchaze ngenhlonipho, kungani ngingafiki ebandleni.
Kule minyaka emi-3, ngabona ukuthi umkhathi emndenini usulile kakhulu. Phambilini, ngiyakuletha ingxenye yekhaya elingesihle futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngaqala ukuKrest ndodana yami: "Futhi u-Anna Mikhailovna uthi awenzi umsebenzi wesikole, futhi uSvetlana Nikolaevna ukhononda ukuthi kukhona ezifundweni zocingo, njll." Yebo, futhi ngokuvamile, isimo ngemuva kokuba umhlangano awuzange abe nzima kakhulu: Nginaminingi angivumi, kukhona okuthe xaxa, kepha awukwazi ukuthinta noma yini, usakwazi ukuhlala ukhansele ngenxa yalomhlangano nabangane . Manje le nkinga yaphuma ezimpilweni zethu. Yonke imininingwane ebalulekile ngumholi opholile uphonsa engxoxweni yabazali. Uma ngidinga ukukhuluma noMfundisi othile othile - ngiya esikoleni. Imali ngiyihumushela ebalazweni. Ngaso sonke lesi sikhathi, angikaze ngibe nomuzwa wokuthi ngiphuthelwa okuthile okubalulekile. Ngasikhathi sinye, kufanele kuqashelwe, angenqabe ukuxhumana nabanye abazali. Mina nomyeni wami sivakashela amakhonsathi kanye "nokuzijabulisa", osemsebenzini kuma-disco esikole, siya kohambo olupholile. Imihlangano yabazali, ngiyakholelwa, ihlulwe futhi maduze nje izonyamalala nhlobo, noma iya kwifomethi ye-inthanethi.