Indoda yakho inguhlobo oluthule olungakutsheli ukuthi ucabangani noma azizwayo? Lapho umbuza imibuzo bese uzama ukumphoqa ukuthi aveze, awucabangi yini ukuthi uhlukaniswa kuwe? Udida lokho okufunayo kuye?
Ukukhuluma namadoda kungaba nzima uma ungaqondi ukuthi basabela kanjani. Noma umuntu wakho ekhuluma, usakwazi ukuhlanganyela imicabango yakhe, imizwa noma imizwa enencazelo ethile ejulile. Ufuna ukwazi izimfihlo ezinhlanu ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani nendoda?
Awukwazi ukukhuluma nabesilisa njengabesifazane
Abesifazane bacishe babe sebekulungele ukuxhumana. Uma uvusele intombi yakho ngehora lesithathu ekuseni ukutshela imininingwane yokuxabana kwakho nendoda, uzokwazi ukuvumelanisa lokho okushoyo ngemizuzwana emihlanu. Futhi kunalokho, uma uvusa isoka lakho ukumtshela noma yini ebalulekile, kuzolingana nokuluma kwenyosi. Kuzothuswa, kudidekile futhi kuthukuthele kancane. Uzodinga imizuzu engamashumi amabili ukuthi ahlangane futhi azwe okushoyo.Ungazihlanganisi nengxoxo namadoda lapho engekho esimweni semizwa. Banikeze ithuba nesikhathi sokukulalela. Bafuna ukuba seduze kwakho futhi bakunikeze okudingayo, kepha kufanele uqonde ukuthi badinga isikhathi sokugxila engxoxweni, nokuqonda okucacile nokucacile kwalokho okufunayo kubo.
Amadoda emakhulwini eminyaka ahlelelwe ukunakekela umndeni
Lapho uxhumana naye nganoma yisiphi isikhalazo, noma ngabe ukhale ngoba izinwele zakho zipendiwe ziluhlaza, futhi zingacabangi, ngokungazi zicabanga ukuthi yiphutha lakhe. Uma owesilisa ezwa ukuthi uyakukhathalela (futhi izikhalazo ziphenduka umbono wokuthi mubi kuwe), khona-ke ubhekene nokungaphatheki kahle kwengqondo. Ubona inkinga yakho njengokuhlulwa.
Awudingi ukungaqondi kahle umuntu othule noma ungabukeli phansi lokho okusho kuye. Usengozini enkulu kuwe.
Ngokungafani nabesifazane, amadoda awasindi amanxeba aqotho
Ngubani okhathalela ngokwengeziwe ngomuntu othandekayo wakhe, noma owesilisa noma wesifazane? Uma uphendula ukuthi le yindoda, uzolunga. Lapho owesilisa ezwa ukuthula ebudlelwaneni, ucabanga ukuthi konke kuhleliwe. Uma owesifazane engakhulumi, kungenzeka ahlele ukushiya. Ingxenye yamadoda kuphela ebudlelwaneni obuncishwe amathuba azi ukuthi kunenkinga. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi bebengalindele ikhefu.Unika injongo yempilo kumuntu wakho. Ubaluleke kakhulu kuye kunanoma ngubani kini oqondayo. Qaphela amagama akho.
Abesilisa bangcono kulabo abenza uhlobo oluthile lokusebenzelana nabo.
Abesifazane bathola imali eqinile ekuxhumaneni. Abesilisa abasoze babona injabulo enjalo uma bekhuluma nothile. Ngokuvamile banomuzwa wokuthi amagama ahlangabezana nokuzwa umzuzu. Amadoda anomuzwa wokuthi imizwa emihle lapho enza okuthile noma ukwenza umzimba. Baphinde bathande ukuhlanganyela amakilasi abo nowesifazane othandekayo.
Thola okungenani isifundo esisodwa osithandayo kubo bobabili, futhi sikwenze ndawonye. Kuzoqinisa ubuhlobo bakho futhi kumnikeze umuzwa wokuphumelela.
Amadoda athanda ukuhleleka
Indoda ithanda i-oda. Ukushintsha uhlelo, amapulani, noma isimo esisendlini sikukhathaza. Ufuna isikhathi sakhe sokukhululeka esiyaluyalu, ukuze akwazi ukugxila futhi agxile emsebenzini, futhi, ekugcineni, emndenini.
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