Ngakho-ke, amanxiwa angu-2020 asala ngemuva. Kodwa-ke, kubantu abaningi, kubonakala sengathi, kuncane sekushintshile, ngaphandle konyaka ekhalendeni. Uma unesifiso sokulungiswa ngokomzwelo kwezinyanga ezizayo zeGroundhog - futhi, mhlawumbe, ngisho nenjabulo - nazi ezinye izeluleko.
Hlela injabulo encaneUma uzizwa ngohlobo lwabantu abajwayele ngoJanuwari ukwenza uhlelo oluningi lonyaka ozayo, kancane. "Manje ungahlela izinto ezincane ezibheke phambili kuzo," kusho uSolwazi Psychology e-University of Virginia Bethany Tichman. Kusukela amasu ajwayelekile womndeni wakhe - njengabanye abantu abaningi - bathuthumela, beza nendlela yokuguqula isikhathi sabo. Ilungu ngalinye lomndeni laqhamuka nomsebenzi othokozisayo. Isibonelo, ngesicelo sendodakazi enda kunazo zonke, abalandeli bombukiso "umbhikisho ongcono kakhulu waseBritain", umndeni wanquma ukuthi "ushayele ithani lezithako zokubhaka futhi wenze okuthile okuyinkimbinkimbi ngempela." Hlela "konke okukulethela injabulo yenjabulo," ngangokunokwenzeka ezinyangeni ezizayo, uTichman weluleka.
Nquma ukuthi yini ebalulekileKusenezinyanga zemingcele ezayo, futhi ubhubhane lungabonakala lujeziswa elingapheli. Yize ngihleli ekhaya futhi nginqande ukuhamba - ngathi yijele langempela, kunento eyodwa engafundwa ezitsheni ezivame ukuvumelanisa nemisho emide: zinquma (noma ngaphezulu) okubalulekile, okusho ukuthi imishini ye-mitch, i-mitch Isazi sezengqondo sokunakekelwa kwempilo emajele amaNew Jersey.
Udokotela Abrams uvame ukumisa iziguli zawo imibuzo, ngokwesibonelo, yini futhi okubalulekile kuwe? Ungathanda ukubona kanjani ifa lakho? Futhi ukulungele ukwenzani ukwenza impilo yakho ngangokunokwenzeka ezimweni ezikhona ezikhona? Futhi enye into eyodwa: "Siyizidalwa zenhlalo. Izimo kwesinye isikhathi zikwenza kube nzima ukwakha, ukuqinisa nokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano. Ungabuhlakulela kanjani ubudlelwano nawe lapho wenza okufanayo nobudlelwano nabanye abantu? "
UDkt Abrams uthi iminyaka engu-21 yesipiliyoni emajele emajele yamfundisa ezintweni ezimbili. Okokuqala, abantu bayazinza ngendlela emangalisayo futhi bayakwazi ukuzivumelanisa, okwesibili, injabulo ivela ngaphakathi. Uthi: "Lapho niyabonga kakhulu lokho onakho, okungcono uzizwa. - Angiqondile kuphela izinto ezibonakalayo. Kungaba ukulingana kwakho okuqotho, kungaba yimpilo yakho. "
Hlala umzuzuI-psychology yemidlalo yokukhuthazela isitshela ukuthi umzimba uyakwazi okukhulu kakhulu kunengqondo ecabanga ngayo. (Uma othile ekutshele ngoMashi, ingabe ubhubhane luzogcina isikhathi esingakanani, ungacabanga ukuthi ungabhekana nalokhu?) Ngakho-ke gxila kulomzuzu wamanje, hhayi esithombeni sonke.
Ukukhathazeka kuvela ngenxa yokuthi ukuhlehliselwa ikusasa, kepha "Uma ugcina amandla ngesikhathi samanje futhi ungacabangi ukuthi i-University yase-Bata Joe Daniels, Umbhali wesifundo esidala ukukhathazeka nokudangala ngaphansi kwezimo zokufakelwa.
Ungahlala kanjani okwamanje? Kukhona zonke izinhlobo zokuzivocavoca zokuqwashisa, enye yazo ukubhala izinto ezinhlanu obonga ngazo, noma ngabe zincane kangakanani - yebo, inkomishi yekhofi eshisayo ibalulekile. Lapho uzizwa ucindezelekile, cabanga kuphela ngokudlula ngehora elilandelayo noma ngosuku olulandelayo, hhayi ngesonto elizayo noma ngenyanga ezayo.
Ucwaningo lukaDkt Daniels lukhombisile ukuthi amasu amabi okusinda anjengokudla okuphindaphindwayo nokusetshenziswa ngokweqile kotshwala - kuthinta izinga lokukhathazeka kanye nokucindezela kwabantu ngaphezu kwezindlela ezinhle kakhulu, njengokusekela ukwesekwa. Uthi: "Zama ukwenza okuthile okuhle, kepha nakanjani angenzi okubi. Akekho onikeza ukwenqaba i-cocktail ekugcineni kwekhekhe lemini noma ntambama. Ngokubona kwakhe, kuvela izinkinga uma uhlala usebenzisa lezi zinto ukuze ushintshe imizwa yakho, bese uzizwa unecala ngakho.
Thola ongakwazi ukulawulaUma uzizwa ubungathwa kobhubhane, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi lunesici esisodwa esijwayelekile ekudingisweni kwangempela. Lokhu kungukungaqiniseki okuyisisekelo, kubheka owayenguphoyisa ngaphambili kanye nodokotela wezengqondo wezempi kusuka eSouth Wales Emma Kavana, owafundisa i-psychology yokuxoxisana ngokuxoxisana. Abantu abathi, abathumbi bazizwa bengcono ngokwengqondo, bavame ukuzama ukubuyisela ukulawula imvelo. Bathi: "Namuhla ngizokwenza izinyathelo eziyi-100 kwikhamera" noma "Ngizokwenza ama-pushups angama-50."
"Ezinye zezixazululo zakho zisiza ukubuyisa umuzwa wokulawula," amanothi ka-Kavan. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba okuhle, ngoba bakhulisa izinga lama-endorphin, kepha akudingeki ukuthi ubulawe kuze kube umjuluko wesikhombisa. Kungaba yikho konke okwenza uzizwe ulawula isipiliyoni sakho sansuku zonke, noma ngabe kuyindlela ethile yenqubo noma isiko elincane lansuku zonke.
Ukujabulela ukuguquguquka nokubekezelelanaOchungechungeni lwezifundo ezishicilelwe ngo-Okthoba emngceleni wamaphephabhuku ngengqondo, kwathathwa njengokungazethembi ukuthi kungacabangi kanjani ukubhekana nokuxabana. Kokunye ukuhlola, ingxenye ababambiqhaza bathi ukukhuluma inkulumo (zona ngokwazo kufanele iyashaqisa), ingxenye yesibili - ukuthi izobheka izinkulumo, futhi eyesithathu - lokho kuhlulekile, futhi uyofunda kamuva ukuthi kufanele kwenziwe. Lapho-ke wonke amaqembu axazululwa ama-anagraphs ayinkimbinkimbi, kanye neqembu elalingazi ukuthi yimuphi umsebenzi abenzile enze inani elincane kakhulu lemizamo yokuxazulula amaphazili. (Okulandelayo enanini yilabo ababecabanga ukuthi kudingeka bakhulume ngenkulumo.)
Omunye wemibono uchaza ukuthi lapho kunokungaqiniseki, "abantu bagcina wonke amandla abo ekubonakaleni kwalokho abangakwazi," uprofesa wezengqondo weTexas University of Technology kanye nombhali oholayo ocwaningweni lukaJessica Alquist.
NgokukaTichman, ophinde wafunda ukungaqiniseki, okuncane okuvezwe ekuvikelweni nasekubhekaneni kahle kakhulu nokungaqiniseki kwabantu abaguquguqukayo. Uma uzimisele, zibuze, noma ngabe uyabhema neziphetho noma uhlose okubi kakhulu. Ingabe ikhona enye indlela yokubheka lesi simo? Ungahle ucabange ngomuntu ovuma, futhi acabange ukuthi lo muntu ubhekana kanjani nengcindezi, noma ngabe wasabela kanjani kulesi simo. Abantu ingilazi bangenxenye engenalutho, ungakhathazeki: akusho ukuthi kufanele uhlale ucabanga ukuthi izinto zizohamba kahle. "Akunakuphela kwendlela eyiyo yokucabanga ngezimo, ngoba umongo nezidingo zivame ukuguquka," kusho uTichman.
Ukubekezelela Ukungaqiniseki nakho kungathuthukiswa - ngisho nasezimweni zokufakelwa. Zama okuthile okusha, ongakwenzi ngaphambili, kuyinto efiselekayo ukuthi ukwethusa kancane. UDkt Tichman wazama ukugxuma ngeparachute nakwi-thzanque ukuze azinikele, kepha awudingi ukuya kude. Ungamane ubhale umyalezo kumuntu osanda kuhlangana naye futhi ungathanda ukwenza abangane. Umugqa ophansi ukwenza okuthile ongakuqondi kahle okuphelile yikho konke, ngoba kukwenza ubekezelele ukungaqiniseki.
"Ungakwenza," kusho uTichman. "Akunangqondo, kepha akunangozi." (Yebo, uma ungakhethi imidlalo yeparachute.)