Ukunakekela impilo nokusekelwa komunye nomunye
Lapho indodakazi eneminyaka eyisithupha icela uShange kaBhausell ovela e-Atlanta ngalokho okwakuya esikhathini, ubuqhubi bokuqala badideka. Ngabe bekufanelekile ukuqala ngengxoxo yentombazane "ebucayi" ngalesi sihloko noma ngabe kungcono ukuhlangana nje? Ukhethe indlela yokuqala.
"Ngaleso sikhathi ngabona ukuthi asazi ukuthi sikhuluma kanjani nezingane ngomjikelezo wokuya esikhathini. Sisaya esitolo sezinto zokudla siyothenga ama-tampon nama-gaskets, futhi ibhokisi elinama-gaskets linethemba lokuthi, "kusho lona wesifazane engxoxweni nanamuhla.
Ngempela, abaningi basanamahloni okukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngokuya esikhathini, ngoba le nqubo ka-physiological ibize emakhulwini eminyaka. Emasikweni ahlukene, eminye imikhawulo yabekelwa kwabesifazane 'ezinsukwini ezibucayi' - ngokwesibonelo, bekunqatshelwe ukuya esontweni ngalesi sikhathi.
Abesifazane abaningi bathola okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kakhulu komjikelezo wokuqala wokuya esikhathini ngoba akekho noyedwa owayekhulume ngokuya esikhathini ngaphambili. Babezazi lutho ngomzimba wabo.
Ngakho-ke, wanquma ukuthatha isinyathelo kuqala ezandleni zabo futhi ahlele umcimbi waminyaka yonke obizwa nge- "Outtoinations Holiday", lapho odokotela kanye nezengqondo bekhuluma ngokuya esikhathini kanye nempilo yamantombazane. Enye yamabhulokhi, njengomthetho, kubhekiswe ngqo kumantombazane uqobo, kanti omunye abazali babo.
NgoFebhuwari 28, 2021, uBousell uzobamba "iholide lokuya esikhathini" ngefomethi eku-inthanethi ngenxa yobhubhane. Ngaphezu kohlelo lokuxoxisana, futhi lwahlela nokuthola imali okukhethekile kwamantombazane nabesifazane abangenamali emikhiqizweni ehlanzekile. Ngenxa yokuntuleka kwemali kuma-tampon, ama-gaskets kanye nezitsha zokuya esikhathini, abanye abafundi kufanele baphuthelwe isikole kulezi zinsuku. Ngesikhathi sobhubhane, lesi simo saba sibi kakhulu. Ngokokucwaninga okwenziwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, umndeni wakulowo nalowo mhlaba eMelika wesaba ukuthi ngeke abe nemali eyanele yemikhiqizo yenhlanzeko yamadodakazi.
Kulonyaka, uBousewell wathola iminikelo eminingi kunaseminyakeni emibili edlule. "Esontweni lokuqala, kuthunyelwa imali edluliselwe kithi, futhi amaphasela, ayegcwele amaphakethe namathambi," kusho yena. Ngenxa yalokhu, kwakunzima ngisho nokuthola inani elanele lezinhlangano e-Atlanta, owayezolungela ukwamukela inqwaba yenhlanzeko futhi asabalalise ngezidingo. Ngakho-ke uBouswerewell kwadingeka athumele amaphasela ezinhlanganweni ezinikela ngezinye izifundazwe - eTexas naseCalifornia.
UBousell unethemba lokuthi "iholide lokuya esikhathini" lizoba ngabazali iphuzu lokuqala lengxoxo nezingane ngokuya esikhathini mayelana nokuya esikhathini, ukuvuthwa kwezocansi, impilo, inhlanzeko. Amadodakazi akhe uCormarin manje aneminyaka engu-8 ubudala, futhi ngenkathi engakaqali nokuya esikhathini. Kepha wazi kahle ukuthi kuyini, nokuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi angakwazi ukuxoxa ngalesi sihloko nonina.
Vele, lokhu akuyona ingxoxo yesikhathi esisodwa, kungukubuyela emuva engxoxweni nengane yakho ngokuya esikhathini eminyakeni eyishumi ezayo. Amantombazane amaningi afunda ngasese ukusebenzisa ama-tampon ngomyalo omncane ngaphakathi kwebhokisi futhi anamahloni. Angifuni ukuthi indodakazi yami iqhubeke nale ndlela.
Umlando weBolisell uphinde ukhumbuze ukuthi ukuba ngumzali kuguquka kakhulu emhlabeni wanamuhla. Nokuthi ingxoxo evulekile enamadodakazi ngokuya esikhathini iyadingeka ukuze bazilungiselele ngokwanele ukuba bazishintshe, okuzofanela basinde emzimbeni wabo.
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