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Umthombo: Umzali wanamuhla, umlobi uKatherine Flemming
"Ngikhathele kakhulu," Ngake ngasho umyeni wami ngokwenza itafula lasekhishini futhi ngihlala phansi ngokucophelela. Kwangihlaba kabi ngemuva kwezingxenye zabantu baseCesarean, ingane elambile yamemeza njalo, futhi nganginomuzwa we-hangover engapheli.
"Ngikhathele futhi," kuphendula umyeni.
Lawa magama angikhipha manjalo kuzo.
Ngaba nomuzwa wokuthi ngiphonswa kanjani emlilweni, futhi wahlala eduze kwami etafuleni nangesidlo sakusihlwa esizolile (kufanele ngithi kusihlwa wazilungiselela). Ngavuka, angikwazi ngisho nokuphendula (imihlathi yami yayavela kumandla kagesi).
Ngabe ukhathele? Ngandlela-thile angibonanga ukuthi isifuba sakhe sasivuvukala futhi saqandisiwe. Angimbonanga ukuthi aguqule i-bandage ngemuva kwesigaba sezimo eziphuthumayo seCesarean esekhefini phakathi kokugcinwa kwezindlu. Futhi konke lokhu - ngasikhathi sinye ukunakekela ukuthi osanda kuzalwa uyaphila futhi uphilile. Angazizwa kanjani ekhathele? Mina, ngathola imali ekhokhelwa ngumuntu okhathele kakhulu endlini !!!
Ngagcina le ntukuthelo, ngamqonda, ngathi, ngenxa yezikhali, ngangizisebenzisa ngendlela esetshenziswa ngayo ngesikhathi sengxabano. Ngavele ngamhlwitha ngendlela yokuhlasela, futhi kufanele ngikwenzeni ekhaya, ngifakazele ukuthi sengikhathazekile, ngoba ngisebenze kakhulu.
Kusukela manje kuqhubeke, kungazelelwe ngaqala ukucasulwa ngumyeni wami.
Ubusisiwe: "Hawu, kid, kuzoba kuhle kakhulu!" UMonduba washintshwa waba yindawo yonke ngobusuku lapho ngikwazi ukulala amahora amabili ngilandelana, futhi kwaba ukwethuka kwangempela ngezinhlelo zethu zezinzwa. Sasingabazali abasebasha abangenakulinganisela abangenakulinganisela ababenomuzwa wokuthi kwesinye isikhathi bazonikeza i-Bluff, futhi ngeke bakwazi ukubekezelela bonke. Futhi ngesizathu esithile esingenangqondo, nganginomuzwa wokuthi kufanele ngiqale ukugcina i-akhawunti - ozothola amaphuzu amaningi. Ngaso sonke isikhathi ngiqhathanise ngokulanda kwethu - ukugeza, ukugeza izitsha, ukondla, ukuguqulwa kwama-diapers, ukuhlaziya udokotela, ukuhambisa udokotela, ukuhlelwa kabusha kwe-Vitamin D, ukuhlelwa kabusha kokuqala usizo kit. Benginomuzwa wokuthi ngangibandakanyekile cishe kuyo yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya futhi nginendaba nengane, yize angazi ukuthi kungani kwangimangaza. Lokhu kwavinjelwa ngokuphelele bonke abangane.
Isikhathi esincane sadlula, kwakuvame kakhulu ukuthi ngilale futhi saqala ukuxhumana ngokujwayelekile futhi sizivumelanisa nezindima ezintsha njengelungu lendodana yethu (i) umpheki wendodana yethu, isivunguvu esincane esiseduze.
Ngakho-ke kwaba kwaze kwavela ingane yesibili, futhi kungazelelwe kube khona ama-diaper, ukuphazamiseka kanye nemilomo ephindwe kabili kunalokho okudingayo. Futhi ngobunye ubusuku ngafika endaweni ebilayo. Lokhu kwenzeka ebusika bokugcina, ngaphambi kokuntwela kokusa, lapho indodakazi inesifo sohudo. Ngazama ngandlela thile ngibhekane nami, ngishaye, ngikhukhumeze futhi ngilenga, ngasikhathi sinye ngithumela amasiginali we-telepathic egumbini elilandelayo, lapho umyeni wami elala khona kamnandi. Bengidinga i-rag, ibhakede kanye nozwela oluningi oluningi.
Kepha ukudonsa ngokuthula embhedeni wakhe.
Lapho ngitshelwa ekuseni ngokwenzeka, ukucasuka kubuza ukuthi kungani angezanga ukuzongisiza, waphendula: "Awuzange ucele."
URage ethule wangigcwalisa.
Lapho ngifona uLindi Lazaru, umndeni kanye nodokotela wezokwelapha wezingane, wangiqinisekisa ukuthi ngicasulwa omunye ngomunye lapho unengane (noma amabili) - "lokhu kuyizinguquko ezinkulu kakhulu kubazali. Izingane zidinga amandla amaningi Futhi ukunakwa, futhi unesikhathi esincane sokulala, ucansi nomunye. "
Lapho ngimtshela ngecala ngesifo sohudo, waphendula wathi kungokwejwayelekile ukuthi ngangicasukile, yize ngangazi ngempela ukuthi umyeni wami akakwazanga ukufunda imicabango yami. "Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda okulindelwe kwakho ukuze ungazizwa ucasukile," kusho yena.
Ukuvimbela. Ngincamela ukwenza konke kusengaphambili ukugwema izinkinga: ngokwesibonelo, ngamaSonto, ngamaSonto ngipheka i-movie ukuze kungabikho ama-carbohydrate ehhovisi kungakapheli isonto. Ngizindla ngaleyo ngcindezi anamandla kunami. Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngokutshela umyeni wakhe ngomuntu olindelwe futhi bagweme ukuxabana, ngincamela ukuthula. Nginomuzwa wokuthi ngemuva kweminyaka engu-18 yokuhlala ndawonye, kufanele wazi kahle engikufunayo nokumlindile. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi bekuyikwazile ngempela.
Futhi, ngangizibuza ukuthi ngabe kunendlela yokukhuluma naye ngosizo lwami ukuze kungabukeki sengathi ngizonikeza imiyalo yelungu leqembu elincane kunazo zonke? Kwavela ukuthi le ndlela - kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngezidingo zakho, futhi ungagxeki. Esikhundleni sebinzana elithi "Awungisizi," Kungcono ukusho ukuthi "Nginezinto eziningi kakhulu, ungamnika ingane ibhodlela?"
Futhi ngokweqiniso, ngangazi ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ngicela usizo nje, wakujabulela ukusiza futhi akasoze enqaba ukukwenza. Futhi uyangincoma njalo. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi ngizizwa ngigcwele kakhulu kangangokuba ubuchopho bami bakhuphuke kabi kuphela futhi ngivele ngikhohlwe ngawo wonke amagama anomusa.
Ngifuna sibe nokuqonda mutual nomyeni wethu ukuhambisa le modeli yakho yokuziphatha ezinganeni zakho (futhi empeleni ukuqinisa umshado wethu). U-Therapist weluleke ukuthi ngisebenzise ukuqeqeshwa okungokomzwelo - inqubo yabazali esisiza izingane ukuba zikhombe imizwa yazo. Kuyahlekisa ukuthi kaningi sibhekene nozwela nozwela maqondana nezingane, kepha bakhohlwa ngokuphelele ngemizwa yabalingani bethu. Ukuzijwayeza kuqukethe izinyathelo ezintathu: Ukubonakaliswa okusheshayo kokunakwa umuntu obhekene nalomzwelo noma umuzwa, ukubizwa kwalo muzwa nokunquma lokho akuholele ekubukekeni kwakhe.
Manje, lapho ngizwa ukuthi umyeni ukhathele (akesabi futhi ukuthi asho ngokuzwakalayo), ngiphoqe ukuthi ngivume ukuthi angakhathala ngempela. Ngisebenzela ukukhombisa uzwela lapho ekhuluma ngezinto ezingakhathala: isikhathi esigcwele emilenzeni, izinhlungu ezinamadolo angapheli, futhi, futhi, zibona usizo olukhulu nezingane.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi le minyaka emfushane ifana nokwehluleka okwesikhashana kwesikhashana ezinhlelweni ezinkulu zezinto. Futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi, lapho kufanele sanelise izidingo zabantu bethu abancane, abahle, lapho sesinesikhathi esincane kangaka nokubekezela komunye nomunye, sizoqinisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwethu kanye nekhono lethu lokuzwela.
Izingane zethu zizokhula ngokushesha kunokuba sizonikeza umbiko wethu. Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngizobheka le minyaka, ngigcwele ubusuku bokungalali nama-diapers angcolile, ngezibuko ze-rose. Futhi ngubani, ngithemba, uzoqhubeka nokuhlala eduze kwami etafuleni lasekhishini, ehlukaniswe kuphela ngeminyaka yasendle yokuba ngumzali?
Umyeni wami othandekayo. Futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngesikhathi ekhathala kakhulu ...