Isikhathi eside, ukuba khona kwesintu okuthathwe kumakhono wabazali kwakudingeka ukuze kusindelwe yisizukulwane esilandelayo. Ukufunda ukuzingela, ukuhlakulela umhlaba, ukwakha indawo yokuhlala - konke lokhu kwakuyisihluthulelo sokuqhubeka. Ngasikhathi sinye, ezinye izinto zadluliselwa: Izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zama-rites, izinkolelo kanye nezindlela zokuziphatha ngandlela thile.
Namuhla, isidingo sokwamukela amakhono okusinda ngokomzimba, kodwa emndenini ngamunye kunokufakwa okuhlukahlukene namaphethini okudluliselwa ngokuqhubekayo ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane. Lolu hlelo lwamanani lubizwa nge-psychology ngesimo somndeni.
Ngokuphindaphindeke akukho lutho olungahambi kahle ngabo - kuze kube yilapho lezi zimo ziqala ukuphikisana nohlelo lwamagugu womuntu uqobo noma umqondo ojwayelekile.
"Anginazo izimo!" - Abaningi bangasho, kepha kufanelekile ukucubungula izimpilo zabo eduze kakhulu, futhi ngokuqinisekile kunezinhlobo umuntu azenzayo, ngoba abazali bakwenze lokho, ngakho-ke bebelokhu benza emndenini (besuka emndenini kadokotela, bephela nge izingqinamba zokukhulisa izingane).
Imibhalo ingathinta impela noma iyiphi imphemva yempilo:
Ukuphathwa Kwezomnotho
Kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi silungiselele umfazi, ukugeza okuphoqelekile ngeMigqibelo, endlini kufanele njalo kube ukudla mayelana nokubhuka, umgcini wendlu uvilapha kuphela.
Ezemfundo Nomsebenzi
Ngaphandle kwemfundo ephakeme, bazonyamalala, umsebenzi udinga ukukhetha okuhlonishwayo, futhi hhayi okuthandayo, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde kahle, uma kungenjalo ngeke ufeze lutho empilweni.
Xhasa ngemali
Imali Enkulu - Izinkinga ezengeziwe, ezicebile zonke izingwegwe (noma okuphambene nalokho), thenga ngezaphulelo ihlazo.
Umcimbi Womndeni
IZwi likaBaba emndenini liwumthetho, zonke izingane ezihamba phambili, njengoba umama enquma, zizoba.
Isimo Sengqondo Ngokuphathelene Nemishado
Akunakwenzeka ukudivosa (kwabesifazane - munye nezingane uzonyamalala; amadoda - kufanele akhule izingane) noma umlando ophambeneyo: Izinkinga zaqala, uzothola umlingani ojwayelekile.
Ngenxa yezimo, abantu bathola abalingani abafana nabazali babo bazala ubudlelwane obufanayo emindenini yabo njengoba babesemkhayeni wabazali.
Kukhona nesimo esihlukile lapho umuntu, ebuntwana, ekhetha indlela ephambene - i-counterratescenarial. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akusho ukuthi kumahhala. Wakha nokuphila kwakhe ngesinkwa esihlala njalo ngephethini elibi, ezama ukungayiphindaphindi, okungukuthi, kuye, kuya ngeskripthi.
Kungqubuzana ezimweni zabalingani noma nje ukungafani kwabo (kuyisiko ukuwubiza ngokuthi ukubukwa okuhlukile empilweni) kuvame ukuba yizimbangela zezingxabano zomndeni.
Akunakwenzeka ukusho ukuthi umbhalo uhlala mubi, kukhona nalabo abaphatha ngempela amanani eqiniso. Kepha uma ukopisha isimilo esikuvimbela ekwakheni impilo ejabulisayo noma umane nje uphelelwe yiqiniso futhi asilingani ngaphansi kwamaqiniso esimanje, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi unake isimilo sokutholwa.
Ingxenye yokuqala futhi ebaluleke kakhulu yomsebenzi ngezimo - zibone bese uyabona. Ngokuvamile akukho lula ukukwenza ngokwakho, kuzodingeka ukusiza uchwepheshe. Kuyadingeka ukuhlaziya isimilo sayo futhi ubone ukuthi yiziphi izimo ezingasahambi imiphumela, kepha ziphinda njalo. Kuyasiza ukutadisha umndeni wakho ezizukulwaneni eziseduzane.
Isibonelo, indlela enhle yalolu cwaningo, yenza i-geneogram (isithombe esingumfanekiso somndeni okungenani ezizukulwaneni ezi-3). Umgomo ukuthola lawo malungu omndeni aphatha ngendlela efanayo, futhi uma kungenzeka, ahlaziye ukuthi kungani lokhu kuziphatha bekungalungile kubo.
Isibonelo, ubonile ukuthi kunzima kuwe ukwakha ubudlelwano namadoda. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, leso sikhathi sifika lapho ucabanga: "Kungani ngidinga lobu budlelwano bebonke, mina uqobo bengingazi kahle nawo wonke umuntu."
Impilo kaMama iyahlaziya futhi yaqonda ukuthi futhi wabhekana nakho nayo yonke yena uqobo, futhi engcono kakhulu, wayehlala enobaba "nobaba kabi kakhulu - amadoda awazange abambezele empilweni yakhe.
Imvamisa kakhulu kule ndaba, ikusasa elinzima logogo omkhulu, okwakuhlala empini enezingane ezingenabantu. Akukho okusasele, ukuthi ungaqoqa kanjani kuzobe kubhayisiki futhi ubhekane nakho konke. Ayikho enye indlela yokuphuma. Futhi lesi simo sidluliselwa "abesifazane abahamba ngamahhashi ekuqubukeni okuvuthayo" ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane.
Impilo kuphela eshintshiwe, izimo zashintsha, futhi kulesi simo asisenasidingo, futhi bambalwa abantu abacabanga ukuthi kuveza umlando wokhokho.
Futhi kunezisindo zezibonelo ezinjalo: inzalo yale nhlangano ayazi ukuthi ingakuhlehlisa kanjani imali, inzalo yabasebenzi iphila ngokuqiniseka ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthola kuphela umsebenzi onzima, labo abasesimweni sowesifazane baye bahlupheka Ukusuka ekuphelelweni yithemba kwabaphikisi bayo, bukhoma nge-DECUSS, ngaphandle kokubona ithuba lokushiya ubuhlobo.
Uma ukwazile ukubona isimo esiphindaphindayo, cabanga ukuthi wenze iningi lomsebenzi. Okulandelayo, kuyadingeka ukuhlukanisa ngokwakho kule ndaba. Ukuze ubone ukuthi kulesi simo kusalokhu kusadingeka, lapho uvikela khona ngakho noma yiziphi izinkinga ezisiza ukuxazulula.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi ukuhambisana kwendlela ephindaphindayo kulahlekelwe futhi kukuvimbele. Xazulula ngokwakho yiphi ingxenye yombhalo ofuna ukuqhubeka nokusebenzisa empilweni yakho. Yini ongayifaka esikhundleni sephethini enobandlululo. Yikuphi ukuziphatha okufanele kufundwe noma yimaphi amakhono adinga ukuthuthukiswa.
Ukusebenza nombhalo kudinga isikhathi. Ungalindeli imiphumela esheshayo - lokhu kuziphatha kusetshenzelwe inqwaba yeminyaka noma hhayi nekhulu leminyaka. Yishintshe ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngeke zisebenze. Kepha uma uzibeka umgomo othile bese uzithuthela kuye, uzokwazi ukuhlukana nomlando ophelelwe yisikhathi bese uqala ukuphila impilo yakho.