Ukwemukelwa kwengane kuyinqubo eyinkimbinkimbi, inkathi, kugcwele amathemba futhi kushintsha indlela yokuphila ejwayelekile. Othile e-Unigteen uthola umndeni obodwa obuqinile obunamaphiko egazi, futhi othile uchitha iminyaka, ezama ukwakha ubuhlobo ngesinyathelo ngesinyathelo, kepha awatholi amaphuzu okuxhumana.
Eseku-AdMo.ru siyaqiniseka ukuthi abantu abanquma ukwamukelwa ukuze bathole kufanele babe nenhliziyo enkulu kuphela, kodwa futhi nesineke nokubekezela. Futhi-ke kukhona ithuba lokuthi ingane yomunye umuntu izoba izihlobo ngempela.
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Abazali bakwamukela umfowethu omdala. Zonke izihlobo nabantu obajwayele bezethemba ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukukhulisa indoda ejwayelekile ukuthi akukho lutho oluhle oluzodedelwa. Ngoba ufuzo. Ngenxa yalokho, umfowethu waqeda isikole ngendondo yegolide, neyunivesithi enediploma ebomvu. Lona ukuphela komuntu oyohlala engisekela futhi noma ngabe isimo sihlala sinomusa futhi siqotho. Ngiyabonga kakhulu futhi ngihlonipha umfowethu womdabu. UGenenes uyinto eyodwa, futhi uthando nemfundo kuyindaba ehluke ngokuphelele. © ngokweqile / VK
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Umeluleki wami nomngani ngasikhathi sinye banquma ukwamukela ingane. Waqoqa izinkulungwane zemibhalo. Ngangisohlwini lweMethwa ngaye, njengoba wamukele "inkinga" yomfana. Wonke umuntu wathi kuzoba nzima ngaye: bathi, ingane incane, ibuthakathaka futhi icacile izokwenziwa ekuthuthukisweni kwengqondo. Umfana uneminyaka eyi-14 manje, uhlala nonina eMontenegro, ethatha imiklomelo emiqhudelwaneni yezemidlalo, uthola ama-diplomas ocwaningweni oluhle kakhulu esikoleni. Njengoba ethi, "Ngibonile nje ukuthi untula uthando." © Timofey Hook / Facebook
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Sasiphi isikhathi ngokungananazi iminyaka engu-8 futhi sabona ukuthi sekulungile ukutholwa. Besifuna abafana ababili iminyaka emibili. Ngesizathu esithile, ngokushesha ngafika eneminyaka engu-6 ubudala, ngitshele okuncane ngesiphetho sakhe sobuhlungu. Besifuna ukudela, ngoba ngisho nalokho okuzwayo kwakukubi. Kepha lapho mina nomyeni wami sasibona isithombe, sasibuka indawo yethu. Kwakungekho muhle esithombeni - I-Bald Burrooh okuthile ngokumamatheka kwamapheshana. Kepha ngokuzumayo saze sabaluleke kakhulu kuye, noma isimo sakhe noma sangesikhathi esedlule nezezinkinga zesikhathi esizayo. Kwakunomuzwa ocacile wokuthi.
Kwaba nzima ngokwesibili. Banikeza umfana ngeminyaka eyi-1.5, cishe azikho izinkinga, emhlanganweni - muhle, kodwa hhayi owethu. O, kwenzekani lapha! "Awusondlekile esitolo!" - Lokhu kuthambile kakhulu esasizwa. Kepha sesivele sazi lo muzwa, sengivele selukhuni ngezinkinga ezindala, kodwa umuzwa ocacile wokuthi "wethu" awuzange unyamalale, kodwa waqina futhi wasisiza. Ngokungabaza, banikela omunye, kepha hhayi wethu futhi. Kwakukhona i-ultimatum: kungaba nalo noma ngubani. Besikhathazeke kakhulu, kodwa nokho senqatshiwe. Futhi waba yizitha zabantu. Ukube bekungengenxa yempumelelo nabadala, khona-ke iminyango yoqaphi izovalwa kuze kube phakade. Khona-ke isimangaliso senzekile. Ngabona isithombe eqenjini lokuzithandela, inhliziyo isivele iqandisiwe. Wakhombisa umyeni wakhe, futhi ngokushesha: "Ngakho-ke lokhu sikhona!" Sasihlahlela izinyanga eziyisithupha, kodwa saba nenhlanhla. Umzali wethu ubeneminyaka eyishumi. Ngathola lutho, kwakunezinkinga ezazikulungele ukwehlisa izandla zakho, kepha azizange zinciphise - ngoba lezi yizingane zethu. 100% yethu. © Mari.ar / Pikabu
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Umndeni wethu eminyakeni eyi-8 eyedlule wamukela umfana oneminyaka engu-4 ubudala. Abazali bachitha yonke imali ababekopisha kuyo emotweni bezokwenza izicucu, bathathe, bagqoke, bagqoke, ogwini. Umama waya ekhaya evela emsebenzini ukuze amsize azivumelanise nezilungiselelo ezintsha. Sibeka wonke amandla akho nemiphefumulo kuyo. Futhi manje asikho isifiso sokumthanda futhi sifuna ukuba ngumdabu kuye. Untshontsha ekhaya, esikoleni phakathi kwabangane, ukhohlisa ngokukhulu nokudumisa, ufunda kwabanye ababili. I-Lazy neNarcissist, futhi akakangeni eminyakeni ye-Transional. Akekho omunye wabazali bakhe futhi akholelwe ukuthi wonke umuntu ubophekile kuye. Iminyaka engu-8 imizwa yakudala nokufunga. © ngokweqile / VK
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Sinendodakazi ewile lapho eseneminyaka engu-8 ubudala, sase sinendodana eneminyaka engu-13 ubudala. Angikwazanga ukuba nezingane eziningi, kodwa ngangifuna ngempela. Kepha entatheni yezintandane, sabona le ntombazane enhle eyashona umndeni wayo engozini embi. Manje usuvele uneminyaka engu-19, kepha akazange angifonele umama. Konke kuhamba kahle, kepha kuze kube manje kunomuzwa wokuthi sisivakashele, hhayi ekhaya. Bonke ubuhlobo bakhe nathi bubukeka njengokubonga. Kepha ngifuna ukuba azizwe engowokuzalwa, wayazi ukuthi naye uyindlu yakhe. Amagama amemeze eminyakeni eyi-11 eyedlule, aphokophela ekhanda ngesikhathi senhloso yethu yokuqala esevele enabazali futhi ngeke iphinde ibe khona abanye. Kepha simthanda kakhulu. © ngokweqile / VK
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Izingane zethu ezimbili zamukelwa abafowethu. Ngizolala uma ngithe umkami futhi bengingakaze ngicabange, kwamukelwa kahle ngokuthatha izingane ezintantayo. Kepha asikaze sisindise ngakho. Ekuqaleni, abafana bekunzima ukuzivumelanisa nezimo. Kepha manje babona ukuthi empeleni bayabathanda, futhi bathulisa. Vele, izingane zokutholwa ziyohlala zizwa izinhlungu ezithile. Bangakhumbula okwedlule kwabo, ngenkathi bengakwazi ukubuyela kukho futhi bakuqede ngokuphelele. Futhi le yingxenye enzima kunazo zonke ehambisana nokutholwa. Kodwa ingabe zikhona izingane ezingenazinkinga? Vele akunjalo. Ngakho-ke angizisoli ngokutholwa. Mina, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngiyabonga kakhulu izingane zami, ukuthi angikwazi ngisho nokukuveza lokhu ngamazwi! © William Spencer / quora
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Isimo esinomzwangedwa sathatha intombazane eneminyaka engu-5 ubudala e-Newphanage Dasha. Konke bekukuhamba kahle kuze kube yilapho eneminyaka engu-14 engazange ngivule iqiniso, uthisha "oyedwa ongeyenanga". Indodakazi yaphosa ophahleni: yasola umama ongemthetho kuzo zonke izono ezifayo, yaqala ukubaleka endlini, yaxhumana nenkampani embi. Ubuye waphendukela kumbukiso owodwa wethelevishini odumile ngesicelo sokuthola umama wendabuko. Ngenxa yalokho, kwavela ukuthi abatholanga nje umama kuphela, kodwa futhi nesimo sezulu esisesincane, esamukele omunye umndeni. Umama wezemvelo, umfazi owile, emhlanganweni akazange avumele uDasha ngisho nasemkhawuleni. Udadewethu ngakho konke ukuncenga ukuphendula nomndeni waphendula ngokuqinile ukuthi wayenabazali abathile - labo abalethwe. UDasha akakaze akwazi ukuthethelela umama wakhe wendabuko owamphonsa noma umkhuhlane, iminyaka eminingi kangaka eyayifihla iqiniso lethoni kuye.
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Umakhelwane ulahlekelwe yingane yakhe kuphela engozini yemoto, lapho kuneminyaka engu-17 ubudala. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, lapho eneminyaka engama-50 ubudala, wamukela uGreta oneminyaka engu-6 kwelinye izwe. Le ntombazane yaba nezinkinga ezithile zokuziphatha ezaphenduka zaba yingqondo. Umakhelwane wamqhubela kodokotela, wazama inqwaba yezidakamizwa, kodwa ngeze. Okokuqala, uGreta waphunyuka endlini iminyaka eyi-14. Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa, ukuphunyuka kuphindaphindwa. Le ntombazane yachaza ukuthi wazama ukubuyela emndenini, ontshontshele umama wakhe wokutholwa. Lapho uGret eneminyaka engu-16, wanyamalala ngaphezulu konyaka. Futhi kwatholakala lapho umakhelwane ebizwa esivela esibhedlela e-5 Stat Cents esendlini, wathi uGreta wazala futhi washiya iwadi, eshiya ingane lapho noxhumana nabo. Ngakho-ke, eminyakeni engama-67, ingane yawela umakhelwane. UGreta wavele kanye ngonyaka futhi wacela imali evela kuMama otholayo, wayifaka emnyama ukuthatha ingane. Ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa washiya enye ingane kwesinye isibhedlela. Manje umakhelwane usevele eneminyaka engama-80, futhi uletha "abazukulu" ababili ngokwephulwa ngokomzwelo. © I-JIIMYSTY / REDDIT
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Intombi enhle kakhulu yafa kule ngozi, indodana encane yasala. Ngayithatha. Umyeni wami emadodakazini okuqala omshado - amawele, umama wabo waphucwa amalungelo abazali. Bahlala bonke kanye nomndeni onobungane, futhi angizange ngicabange ngisho nokuthi izingane "njengabafokazi" ezingabanye, ngenkathi abazali bami beqala ukukhuthazelela ubuchopho bami. "Kungani uphonsela inselelo ezinye izingane? Kungani ududuze le-orv ngokwakho? Ekugcineni ekugcineni, ingane yakhe, igazi lakhe! " Izingane emaholidini jikelele zikhale ubuwula bokuthi bayi-prodigyushi nomthwalo kimi. U-Apoghem waba: "Hhayi lokho, sakubeletha, ukuze ungaqedi ukufuzwa kwethu!" Kuvinjelwe kanzima wonke amathayi, akukwazanga ukubekezelela okwengeziwe. Abafana bavuka, bavuthiwe. Bengidinga ukufakelwa kwezinso. Zonke izingane zagijima zizophumelela izivivinyo, yize ngangingazibuzi futhi ngathula kwaze kwaba ngowokugcina, kodwa umyeni wami watshelwa. Ngenxa yalokho, enye yamadodakazi yanginika izinso zakhe. Kuphela ngemuva kwalokho abazali bami baqale babize umzukulu wakhe futhi bacela intethelelo. © ngokweqile / VK
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Udadewethu nomyeni wami akanazithelo. Sinqume ukuthatha intombazane esuka kwizintandane, kuthule futhi yathola amaphuzu. Lapho uMkhwetha-embona, wabe esememeza: "Ngiyabonga! Ekupheleni kweminyaka ngeke ngibe ngabazukulu bomdabu, nabanye abantu abahlengikazi babantu! Okwamanje akukacaci ukuthi lentathani eyayikhona emndenini yayiyini. " Bathulisa umama, babhala yonke into ngengcindezi. Kwathatha iminyaka emi-5, futhi umkhwekazi kamamezala akakwazanga ukwamukela umzukulu owamukelayo. Ngisho nezipho zamaholide zibonisa kuphela izingane zendodakazi endala, abazukulu bomdabu. Ukuze ungabizi intombazane futhi, futhi ungabeki kangako ukudumisa, ukuxoxa kukamama nomkhwekazi kamama kuye kwadingeka ukusika ngangokunokwenzeka.
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Ngigxile entombazaneni lapho eneminyaka engu-4. Manje useneminyaka engama-33, 2. Indodakazi ethandekayo! Ngake ngambuza: "Unomuzwa wokuthi omunye umuntu uyazi ukuthi uwukwamukela?" Waphendula: "Cha! Bengilokhu ngiziqhenya ngokuthi ngifanele umndeni nokuthi ungikhethile. " Kamuva, iNdodana yami yazalwa, futhi manje senginezingane ezimbili ezinhle. © ERIKA Cirole / YouTube
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Lapho indodana eyamukelayo yayingu-14, saxabana, futhi angikhumbuli ngenxa yalokho. Ngokuphazima kweso waphatheka ukuthi sasingewona umndeni kuye nokuthi kungaba ngcono uma singakaze sikuthathe. Kwalinyazwa, futhi ngabuthana noMoya, ngaphendula: "Yebo, ngiyazi." Ngokumangazayo, ngasizathu simbe kwaba lula ngami ngoba iNdodana yagcina izwile. Ngalobo busuku wahamba ekhaya walala ubusuku nabangane. Vele, futhi umyeni wami nendodana encane babekhathazeke kakhulu. Ngokushesha nje ngemuva kokubuyela ekhaya, waxolisa ngokuziphatha kwakhe nokuthi waphunyuka. Futhi-ke amehlo akhe agcwala izinyembezi futhi washo lokho empeleni wayezolimaza nje ukuthi amukelwe nokuthi ngaphezu kwakho konke angathanda ukuba ngegazi lomdabu kithi. Kwamhlaba inhliziyo yami ngaphezu kwalawo ngamazwi akhe engxabanweni. Ngamtshela ukuthi ngizizwa ngendlela efanayo. Sasihlala maqondana nomunye futhi sabukana nje. Kungekudala, noma kungenjalo ngokushesha, ubudlelwano bethu bavuswa. © RUTH Alborough / Quara
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Indodakazi yami encane yeza kithi ukuze siphile lapho eneminyaka eyi-10. Esikhundleni salokho, le yindodakazi yami ephakathi yaholela ekutheni iyodwa, okuhlala iminyaka engu-13. Eminyakeni yayo, intombazane yadlula kakhulu. Ngokubukeka kwakhe, ngabona okokuqala ukuthi kufanele ngithande umuntu ngaphandle kokulinda impendulo. Ukuthi angeke asithande ukuphendula. Ukuthi kungenzeka angaze athembeke kithi njengomndeni. Kepha yindodakazi yangemuva kuphela yangisiza ngazi ngokwangempela. Ngiyacela ungangitholi okubi, ngiyazithanda izingane zami eziphilayo ngawo wonke amafilimu omphefumulo futhi zizobanika impilo, kepha ngiyayithanda impilo yokwamukela izikwamukeli, mhlawumbe okuthe xaxa. Washintsha izimpilo zethu futhi wasifundisa ukuba sibe ovulekile kakhulu futhi othembekile. Namuhla, zonke izingane zami ezine zinobungane futhi zihlangana kahle, njengeqembu lezigelekeqe. Singumndeni wakhe, futhi usewethu. © Renee Lacoste Long / quora
ishumi nane.
Nginqume ukubhala le ndaba yomngane wami waseRoma, owaba ngubaba osetshenziselwa ukwamukela ngonyaka okukude ama-95. Umshayeli olula, umlingani uTatiana, indodana. Unkosikazi waya esibhedlela ukuzonikeza indodakazizaza indodakazi. Lapho, enye intombazane yenqabile ukwenqaba ingane. Umfana wabeletha buhlungu, shrieking, umfazi kaRom wawondla. Ingane kwakuwukulanda ingane endlini, kepha njengoba ibisanda kuzalwa, khona-ke lapho isicelo somlingani samshiya, sathi kuzothatha izinsuku ezintathu. Kwakukhona intwasahlobo, umfula waya, isikebhe sasingakaze sisungule, i-ehirt, yayingekho imigwaqo eya edolobhaneni. URoman waletha abafana ekhaya futhi akazange acabange lokho kuze kube phakade. Bengicabanga ukuthi umgwaqo uzobilisa futhi uthathe umfana omncane endlini yezingane. Lapho befika emfana, wagula wanquma ukungamthintanga. UTatyana useshilo ukuthi ngeke anganikeze muntu kunoma ngubani. Wambiza - indodana. Kuthunyelwe isicelo sokutholwa, banomndeni omuhle, futhi ngemuva kwabo. Muva nje, inoveli yathi uStasu (umfana wabizwa ngokuthi), lapho kungumakhelwane ocishe abe ngu-8, umakhelwane "olungile" omuhle, oneqiniso, watshela konke. Umfana waqala wavalwa, wabe esebuza abazali, abaphikanga, bakhulume iqiniso. Indodana yathula isikhathi eside, yabe isithi: "Yebo, manje ngiyaqonda ukuthi kungani konke kukhanya, futhi ngimnyama."
URoman noTatiana eNovosibirsk bathuthela wonke umndeni. Manje izingane sezivele zakhula, ama-endalo aye eMoscow, indodakazi yashada yaya eKrasnodar. Bazali ungakhohlwa, bhala, vakashela ukuvakasha. Kepha abazali bamaStas bahlala, baphila ngokwehlukana, kodwa emnyango ongomakhelwane. Ushadile, uyasebenza, njengenoveli, umshayeli. URoma uqobo wathi: "Ngibonga isiphetho nomkami, ukuthi nganginendodana enjalo. Njengoba ngicabanga ukuthi kuzoba naye uma uTanya akazange ambone esibhedlela somama. " Izolo ngifunde ukuthi amaStas abe nendodakazi eyazalwa, uTanya wabiza, ukuhlonipha umama. © Sibirskix / Pikabu
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