Abantu abesaba ukuba yibo bavame ukuza ngezinga lami lokuzimisela. Ngeke baziphathe ngokwemvelo futhi bakhululeke ezifuyweni nasezenzweni zabo. Bacindezela imizwa futhi abazi ukuthi bangazilalela kanjani. Konke lokhu kuyizimpawu zokuntuleka kobuqiniso.
Amathayi okuphila okungewona iqiniso, kubangela ukudana nokudangala futhi angaletha ukudangala nokukhathazeka. Lapho sicabanga futhi sizwa into eyodwa, kepha sikhuluma futhi singenza enye - ngokuqinisekile akuholeli ekuvumelaneni kwangaphakathi nasenjabulweni.
Abanye abantu bajwayela ukugqoka imaskhi ngokuqhubeka kwesikhathi, bonke balahlekelwa ukuxhumana nabo futhi, lapho benza izinqumo, basebenzisa izindlela zangaphandle zangaphandle:
- Imfashini? Iwusizo? Ngiyathenga, noma ngabe kungadingeki ngempela futhi ngithanda
- Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ucabangani kahle ngami? wanelisa izidingo zabo, ukushaya amagoli kwakho
- Abazali noma abangane bayavuma? Ngabe ngibukeka ngipholile emehlweni abanye? Ngenza intshiseko ephakeme, eduduzayo ukuthi konke kulungile futhi ngiyathanda
Umuntu oqinise iqiniso uthembekile kuye: Akesabi ukubheka iqiniso futhi athathe amaqiniso angathandeki ngaye.
2. Umuntu oqinisekile uyazi kahle: Uyakuqonda futhi angakha kalula izifiso zakhe, izintshisekelo zakhe, izimiso, amandla nobuthakathaka. Uzwa izwi lakhe langaphakathi futhi wenza lokho akufunayo, futhi akazami ukujabulisa abanye.
3. Umuntu oqinisiwe uthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo yakhe: Ubhekele ezenzweni zakhe nangemiphumela yazo, umelana nengcindezi evela ngaphandle futhi enza izinqumo ngokusekelwe ezinkolelweni nasezimisweni zawo. Yena uqobo nguMdali wempilo yakhe.
Ngokuvamile, ubuqiniso ubuqiniso bumnandi ngokwabo. Lapho isenzo sethu sihlangana nemicabango nemizwa yethu, umuzwa wokuvumelana nokuzola uzalwe ngaphakathi. Futhi umuzwa wenhlonipho nokubonga kimi ngeqiniso lokuthi ungazikhapheli.
Uma ubheka ucwaningo lapho uqhathanisa abantu beqiniso nabangewona iqiniso, sizobona lokho abantu abaqinisile (imithombo ekugcineni kwendatshana):
- sanenhlanhla
- phila ngokuvumelana nabanye futhi ube nobudlelwano obunamandla nabantu
- Ukuphikelela Ngokuphathelene Nezinhloso
- Kungcono ukubhekana nengcindezi
- babe nencazelo eyengeziwe empilweni
Ngokuvamile, ubuqiniso busisiza ukuba sizithathe izinqumo ezinhle kakhulu futhi sidlule endleleni yokuphila ezosenza siziqhenye ngokuziqhenya nokwaneliseka.
Ngiyithandile ifomula ethi uStephen Joseph ongumfanekiso omuhle ophakanyisiwe:
Ngifuna ukusho ngokuningiliziwe ngengxenye ngayinye yefomula emoyeni, ngoba ku-athikili eyodwa yonke imininingwane ayifaneleki kalula. Ngizoyisebenzisa ngoLwesihlanu ngoJanuwari 15 nge-Instagram yami ngo-20,00. Woza, ngihlabezele:
- Kungani siziphatha ngokungagunyaziwe
- Ukwesaba lokhu kwalawa amanga
- Ungakuba kanjani thina futhi ufunde ukulalela izwi langaphakathi
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