I-Boycott ingenye yemithelela enamandla kakhulu yengqondo yomphakathi umuntu ngamunye. Le nhloso ayinaki umuntu oyedwa yiyona ephelele, esobala ebunganeni (ebonakalayo ikakhulukazi kuma-fairs kanye nezinhloso zababambiqhaza lapho ivela khona) nokwehluleka ukuxhumana.
Kwenzeka kanjani lokhu esikoleni?
Ingane eyodwa ekilasini ivezwa ukuthula okuhlangene; Lapho kusondela, ezinye izingane zibonisa umhlane wazo, nazo ziyeka ukukhuluma, imidlalo ethokozisayo. Wonke umuntu ubonakala ethi: "Awukho, awukho."
Esikhathini sokufunda, sibhekana nokuthula njengasesimweni sokubonakaliswa kwenzondo, ukuhlukunyezwa kweqembu, ukubhujiswa komuntu oyedwa abanye.
Esakhiweni sokuqokwa kwesikole, kuhlale kukhona "umholi we-Ideological" futhi kukhona "okuthokozisayo". Utshani obuthakathaka (ngokungafani nabanye, abasanda kufika) kungomholi okwamanje ukuvunywa kwamandla akhe, ukuhlolwa kwamandla phezu kwe- "Herd" kanye nesisulu. Kodwa-ke, uyakuqonda kuphela, futhi "okufakiwe" akuboni izindima zawo eziphambeneyo, ngokunqoba ngasese nokudabuka, kuletha isisulu kwezinye izinyembezi noma ukudlula kwamakilasi noma ukudlula kwamakilasi noma ukudlula kwamakilasi.
Laba baholi abangalungile - lezi yizingane ezingezinhle, noma ezaphukile futhi zishushiswa ezindongeni ezine zendlu kababa nalabo abafisa ngosizo lokuxhashazwa ukuze banxephezele "ukucaciswa" kokuqala; noma onakalisiwe, ukunqamula abazali, ubuntu obusafufusa be-narcissistic. Zombili ziyi-minus enkulu ngokuzayo.
OFakazi balo mkhondo (kanye no-95-99% wabafundi basekilasini) bayaqonda ukuthi kungenzeka babe sendimeni yengane, futhi "uma ungafuni ukuba sendaweni yakhe" - Joyina. Ukutadisha imvelo yobuntu bokuphila.
Izingane ezimbalwa kuphela ezivela ekilasini (nokuthi - hhayi njalo) kungenzeka zingabimba iqhaza ekudleni. Bona bangahloniphi "umholi", badelela ukuhanjiswa okuhlanganyelwe, ezimele futhi baqine (laba bangu-12% obuntu obunamandla obunamandla, phambi kwazo zonke izizwe ezithambekele), noma babheke ingane ukuba yinecala, kodwa inesihluku esinjalo Ukujeziswa njengokuqothuka akwamukeleki.
Yini okufanele yenze abazali?
Uma ingane iza ekhaya izinyembezi isho: "Mama, ngabizelwa ukuthi ngiyi-boodcott," - kudingeka ubuze ukuthi ngubani oqale ngqo? Akukhulumi naye naye? Ngemuva kwaziphi izehlakalo ezenzeke? Okungukuthi, yenza isithombe esivamile sokwenzeka.
Kuyadingeka ukuthi uMholi weClass aqoqe izingane, kanti ubukhona babazali babalingisi abaphambili kubalulekile, wathi:
- Sinenkinga. Ekilasini, kwamenyezelwa ukuthi kumenyezelwe ukuqunjelwa ... Masithole. Yini izimangalo zakho kulo muntu? Uma kufanele asolwe - ngokubambisana sizothola indlela yokulungisa isimo.
Uma kunesizathu sangempela sokububula, ofunda nabo bangaveza - kwenza okuthile futhi, njll.
Uma ingane yakho iqhathama nje, ngisho nomuntu omusha kulesi sikole, endaweni (umndeni wathutha), lapho-ke udinga ukumelana nayo. Kuze kube ukwehla komholi "womholi" emehlweni omphakathi wesikole (kepha bambalwa kakhulu abazali abakwaziyo lokhu).
Kwesinye isikhathi izingane zinomqondo ongalungile wezenzo zazo (ezibekwe "ngumholi"), futhi lapho zibasiza ukuba baqonde ukuthi zibukeka kanjani ngempela - indlela abaziphatha ngayo ingashintsha ngaphandle kwengcindezi yabaphathi besikole.
Thatha ingane esikoleni, ngaphandle kokuqonda, ngaso sonke isikhathi isinqumo esingalungile. Utshani bungaphinda, futhi ngeke afunde ukwakha ubuhlobo bakhe nontanga.
Iphutha lothisha abaningi ukuthi, labangela ukubambana ngezingqinamba ngokwabo, afune "abangane" ngento yokuhlukunyezwa okujwayelekile. Lokhu kuwuphawu lobuchwepheshe bokuxazulula izinkinga zesikole; Uthisha onjalo ukhombisa ama-supercontform "Guys, ake sihlale sindawonye," ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuthi kubukeka kanjani kusuka ohlangothini.
I-Boycott iyi-psychotrauma, futhi ingakhipha ukwesaba abantu. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukuthi udokotela wezengqondo azokhuluma nomhlatshelo wengane (Yebo, hhayi isikole esingenakukwazi ukuthobeka okusobala, kodwa uchwepheshe ohlangothini).
Kubalulekile ukukhombisa ingane yakho (kuyacaca ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphakathi okunesivunguvungu akazange akwazi ukukubona lokhu) ukuthi akuzona zonke izingane zesikole ezihlanganyele eBoycott. Umhlaba ugcwele futhi muhle, abantu abahle, futhi kulesi sigaba kukhona abanye babo.
Futhi-ke, isimo se-boodcott siyisibonakaliso sokuthi emndenini wakho akulungile ... Sikhuluma kaningi nengane yakho, igxathu negxathu ukutadisha umhlaba wakhe wangaphakathi, ubuthakathaka bayo budinga ukuqiniswa.
Myeke waziboneli kangcono, uzoqala ukufuna amandla, athuthukise lezo zinsizakusebenza ezinomthelela ekusindeni.
Ukuba ngumzali kunzima kakhulu, umphumela wazo ongabonakali masinyane, futhi kaningi, lapho ingane isivele ihlukaniswe nawe, khona-ke izobonakala njengemishini yakho kanye nezimpumelelo zakho. Thenga amandla nomphefumulo kuwo - bese uzokwazi ukulungiselela umuntu olungile ukuba abulekele.
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