Abaningi, abaningi ngabhala izindatshana ezihlukile ngobuhlobo bamadoda nabesifazane kusukela kumandla okubukwa kwengqondo kwabesilisa. Futhi mayelana nokuxabana, nangezingane, nangokusondela, futhi mayelana neqiniso lokuthi akufanele ufune induduzo kwabanye besifazane, futhi mayelana nokusatshalaliswa kwemali.
Kepha ukuhamba kwemibuzo nokuphawula akukaze kwenze buthaka, amadoda amaningi angibhalela okuhlukile futhi angiphikisane nami, afakazele isikhundla sawo. Futhi kungabonakala ukuthi banokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kokuphila, umbono wabo wabesifazane. Akunandaba ukuthi uphikisana kanjani, sinesisekelo esihlukile.
Ngakho-ke, nginqume ukubhala iqiniso eliyisisekelo mayelana nabesifazane engikucindezele mathupha. Bangisiza ukuthi ngiphile lula, kube lula, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu. Noma ngabe ezinye izingxabano noma ukuxabana kuphakama, la maqiniso angisize masinyane ukuqonda ukuze wonke umuntu muhle.
Ziphansi.
1. Abesifazane babuthakathaka kunabesilisa, kubo kudingeka bakhathazeke
Ngokwenyama, abesifazane babuthakathaka ezicini eziningi - ubukhulu, ama-hormone, isivinini nokusabela, nakanjani. Ngokwengqondo - Kunezimpikiswano eziningi lapha - othile uthi abesifazane banamandla, othile uphikisana, kepha akunandaba.
Kubalulekile ukuthi uma ukungabingeli kunamandla kunawe, khona-ke i-psyche izoqhubeka nomqondo osheshayo: "Uma umkami enamandla, uzozibona azinakekele iKhabhinethi." Ukusuka lapha hhayi ukuhlukanisa isehlukaniso, ngoba indoda engenandaba nezezinkinga ayisoze yamuzwa futhi imfudumalo kumkayo.
Kimi, iqiniso lilula: Uma ngisemqoka, khona-ke umfazi ubuthakathaka. Kusho ukuthi kubalulekile ukuyinakekela, ukusiza nokugcina. Futhi nakanjani uzophendula ekubuyiselweni. Kepha qala owokuqala - indoda.
2. Ukuqothula abesifazane - umgwaqo oqondile wokuthobalala
Lapho indoda ithi: Abesifazane - du .. njll. - Lokhu kungamademoni. Ukuguqulwa kowesifazane ngedemoni le-bitch-demoni, okulimaza abanye ngokukhethekile.
Kepha kuyahlekisa. Kwenye indawo kusuka enkingeni yowesifazane, kwenye indawo injabulo. Futhi yini esinayo? Ngokufanayo, kosychim kwenye indawo, futhi kwenziwa kahle endaweni ethile. Wonke umuntu unawo.
Iqiniso Lami: Uma uzitshela wena nowesifazane ukuthi wambiza ngemhlukumeza umuntu, khona-ke ungalokothi wakhe ubuhlobo obuhle. Le ndoda izohlazeka futhi yagxekwa, yathumela. Ngeke kube khona inhlonipho nenjabulo emndenini onjalo.
3. Uma lona wesifazane uyala futhi acindezele emndenini, kusho ukuthi indoda uqobo yavumela lokho
Imvamisa, amadoda asola abesifazane ukuthi labo baqala ukuyalela emindenini, babe "amadoda anamaqanda", ababandayo nonkulunkulu. Yebo, izindaba ezimbi ukuthi abesifazane ezimweni eziningi bakhetha ukulawula hhayi nje lokho, kodwa ngoba waphonswa yindoda. Lapho ethi, "Angazi ukuthi ngenzeni", "Ziqule mina" noma "Anginendaba."
Iqiniso elilula: Uma ungayali, kusho ukuthi wena ngokwakho wakuvumela. Buyisela ukulawula, futhi lona wesifazane uzophumula.
4. Uma lona wesifazane ecasukile, kusho ukuthi kunesizathu
Imvamisa, amadoda athi: Owesifazane wami unovalo olukhulu, psychic, okuningi uthukuthele noma uyakhala. Kungani engenzi lube nokwahlulela? Uyini inkinga yakhe? Inkinga yakhe ukuthi ibathembele ekusekeleni nasekusizeni umlingani wakhe, oshade naye nabesilisa abamthembisa ukusiza nokunakekela.
Uma unengqondo futhi uthule, kungani ungami nalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kukukhipha kuye? Amandla anengqondo futhi ezolile kufanele adluliselwe kowesifazane. Ngakho-ke hlala eduze kwakhe, hlamba izinkinga zakhe emashalofini futhi eza nesixazululo ndawonye.
Iqiniso elilula: Imizwelo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho akusona isizathu. Siza owesifazane ukuba athole ukuthi noma okungenani alalele futhi athulise. Kungenxa yalaba besifazane bavame ukubonga kakhulu.
UPavel Domrachev
- Ukusiza amadoda ukuxazulula izinkinga zawo. Kubuhlungu, kuyabiza, ngesiqinisekiso
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