Namuhla emazweni athuthukile, abazali abaningi balwela lokho okubizwa ngokuthi yi-Jeler-Ntlusing Ezemfundo Yezingane: Ubulili bengane akufanele buphazamise izinga lemfundo yalo nakwizimo zokuziphatha abantu abadala bazozama kulo. Kepha kwakungenjalo njalo.
Uma ubheka lesi sihloko ngokomongo ongokomlando, kuyabonakala ukuthi kweminye imibuzo (ngokwesibonelo, ezingutsheni zezingane) abezindaba zethu kwakungu-lyrally bethu, futhi kwabanye (ngokwesibonelo, eMfundo) Okukhanyayo okuningi. Siyaqonda kulesi sihloko.
Izingubo: amarobhothi amhlophe kubo bonkeUmfundi wendaba kaJoe Poletti encwadini ethi "Blue and Pink: Ukuthi abafana bahlukaniswe kanjani namantombazane eMelika" babhala lokho kuze kube sekupheleni kwekhulu lamashumi amabili, izingane ezincane zazikhona njengokungathi zingaphandle kwephansi - nabafana, namantombazane Esikhathini sezingane ezicashile bekuhlanganisa, izembatho ezimhlophe zazibandakanya (kufana nezingubo zokugqoka zasebusuku), kanye nokuhlukaniswa kwangempela kokugqoka ngocansi kwezingane zocansi kwaqala kamuva.
Akekho kubazali bakhe owayesesaba ukuthi indodakazi yabo esanda kuzalwa izoyinakekela indodana yakhe noma okuphambene.I-Paletti ixhumanisa isifiso sanamuhla sabazali ngosizo lwezingubo nezinye izinsimbi kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zempilo yengane ukukhombisa umhlaba, lokho okwenziwa yizocansi, okuthe xaxa. Owokuqala ukuqulwa kwemibono kaFreud ukuthi konke okwenzeka enganeni ebuntwaneni kuthinta ukwakheka kobulili bayo. Owesibili ungumhlaziyi we-homophobia.
Njengokuqinisekiswa kwalo mbono wePaolett, isibonelo esinjalo: ekuqaleni kwekhulu lamashumi amabili, lapho imibono kaFreud ingakakabi njalo, abazali abanamahlaya baphathwe ukudideka kobulili ngokumelene nezingane, bathumele izithombe zezingane zabo kumamagazini, lapho Uzishicilele ku-Ukukhetha Imibuzo: "Qagela ukuthi le ndoda le njani?"
Ngokuqondene nokwahlukaniswa kwesimanjemanje kwesimanje kwezingane zezingane ngemibala (yize ingxenye encane emakethe imele izinhlobo zama-brangeds akhulisa izingubo zemibala emibalandezeli), ngokusho kwePallti, imboni yezingubo iwine iningi labo: imindeni in Yikuphi abazelwe yizingane zobulili obuhlukile abanakukhululeka "ukudlulisa" izingubo zomfowethu osekhulile omncane, noma ngabe abantu abadala base bekulungele ukwenza kanjalo ukuze basindise.
Izindinganiso zokuqeqeshwa kanye nendabukoYimiphi imikhakha yabazali abazozama ukubeka izingane zabo, ikakhulukazi kuncike ekutheni ukungalingani ngokobulili kuvame kangakanani ezweni. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokukhuluma ngemfundo yezingane, kuzofanela senze uhambo oluncane emlandweni wezinto ezingazethembi.
Isazi sezomnotho saseDenmark u-Esther Bozap encwadini ethi "Iqhaza Labesifazane Ekuthuthukisweni Kwezomnotho" libonisa ukuthi isimo ezikhathini zasendulo sahluka kuye ngokuthi ezolimo ezisetshenziselwa ezolimo - idivaysi ekuqaleni ifuna amandla amakhulu awo omzimba asebenze : Uma kusetshenziswa igeja esifundeni, khona-ke abesifazane bebengazibandakanyi eNsimini besebenza lapho, futhi uma bengasetshenziswanga - ukuthi abesifazane basebenze emasimini kanye nabesilisa.
Esikhathini sangaphambi kwezimboni, imindeni eminingi yasebenza emkhakheni wezolimo: Amadoda abuke izinkomo ezinkulu, abesifazane abancane. Bobabili abesifazane nabesilisa babandakanyeka ekuhlwanyeleni. Yebo, izibopho eziphambili zokunakekelwa kwezingane ezabelwe abesifazane. Kepha izingane nazo zazibambiqhaza abakhuthele enqubweni yokuqashwa, kusukela eminyakeni emihlanu kuya kweyisithupha, futhi indodakazi eneminyaka eyisikhombisa ubudala ingashiya ukuzolibuka ekhaya wonke umuntu odumaza abafowethu nodadewethu abasebasha kakhulu. Omunye "wokuhlanywa kowesifazane ojwayelekile" ngaleso sikhathi wawusebenzela igquma - kukholakala ukuthi abesifazane babenesithuthuthu esincane esithuthuke kangcono futhi bavumelaniswa kakhulu kuleli cala. Intambo kamama eqondile yafundiswa kanye namadodakazi abo.
Futhi kuphela ngemuva kokuguqulwa kwezimboni, isigaba sobulili sathola uhlaka oluqinile futhi ngisho nentambo yathuthela ezandleni zabantu.Ngokuqala kwefektri, umhlaba we-Work wahlukaniswa ngamaHond, amadoda aqala ukuya emsebenzini, nabesifazane abanezingane bahlala, kube sengathi batshelwa, ngokuzihlukanisa ekhaya. Yebo, emafektri, abesifazane abasebasha noma abafelokazi kwesinye isikhathi basebenza, kodwa kwavunyelwa umphakathi ukuthi ngemuva komshado, kwadingeka bahambe.
Yinkathi yezimboni esikweleta ukuhlukaniswa komthwalo wemfanelo phakathi kwabazali: kuYise - imali etholwayo, kunina - konke okunye. Ngenxa yalokho, izingane zilungiselele iqiniso lokuthi zingadalulekudale lezi zindima ebudaleni - emantombazaneni zithuthukise izimfanelo zomuntu kanye nomama, futhi abafana bebelungiselela umsebenzi webhizinisi.
UHeather Guttormson encwadini ebudlelwaneni babazali bezingane ubhala ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi kwalasha phakathi kwezinga lemfundo kwabonakala kakhulu, okwakuhlinzekwa amantombazane nabafana bobabili ezikoleni nasekhaya.
Amantombazane azanywa kangako ukusiza ukuthuthuka kwezibalo naselimini, ngoba kwakukholelwa ukuthi lonke lolu lwazi ngeke lube wusizo kubo.Ekupheleni kwekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalolunye, okubizwa ngokuthi "ubuchwepheshe noma umshado" imithetho ", kunciphisa umsebenzi wabesifazane abashadile ngokusho kwezinto ezithile, wangeniswa emazweni amaningi angenamthetho IMelika eMelika, ingasindwa ngumndeni eMelika. Kusetshenziswe umthetho ofanayo eRussia: Ekupheleni kwekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalolunye, othisha abashadile baxoshwa ezifundazweni eziningi, yize bengekho yonke indawo. Futhi abasebenzi baseBrithani Geological Service kwakufanele bachithe uma kwenzeka umshado kuze kube ngu-1975!
Kepha kungukuthi umehluko emithethweni - uma sikhuluma ngokujwayelekile, umsebenzi wabesifazane usuyekile ukuba yinto ekhethekile ngemuva kwempi. Futhi ngaphambi kwalokho, ngamaphesenti angama-20 kuphela abesifazane abaqashiwe - njengomthetho, unesizungu.
Uma namuhla umehluko emholweni wamadoda nabesifazane ngokwesilinganiso, amaphesenti angama-20 (abesifazane bakhokha kancane), ekuqaleni kwekhulu lamashumi amabili, abesifazane abasebenzayo abakhokhelanga futhi banengxenye yama-pranks wesilisa.Futhi njengoba abesifazane ngemuva kweMpi Yezwe Yesibili sebebandakanyeke ngokwengeziwe emakethe yezabasebenzi (ozimele edingekayo yonke indawo futhi abakwazanga ukuqhubeka nokuqhubeka nenqubomgomo "ubuchwepheshe noma umshado" balinganise. Ngenxa yalokho, amantombazane aqala ukuthola imfundo ephakeme kaningi, kwathi ngo-1990 emazweni aseNtshonalanga, amaphesenti abafundi babesilisa nabesifazane acishe alingana.
Kuyamangaza ukuthi yize eRussia namhlanje ukuqashwa kwabesifazane kwamukelwa (futhi eminye imindeni bekungeke kube khona ngaphandle komholo wesibili), ezikhungweni zemibono ezikoleni zendabuko ziyaqhubeka. Okungenani okungenani isifundo se-Tatyana Nikonova esisanda kucaphuna ezifundweni zenhlalo, lapho izimfanelo 'zesikhumbuzo sangempela sezwi "ziyaguqulwa.
Kuyiqiniso, ukuze uqeqeshelwe ukuba yi-lyral ngokwengeziwe - ukungathathi hlangothi, bekungeke kukhiphe kuphela ukususa konke lokhu kwe-anachronism kusuka ezincwadini zemfundo, kodwa futhi ukuzama ukuhlanganisa impumelelo yososayensi besifazane ezinhlelweni zesikole ukuze amantombazane abe nezibonelo eziningi zamamodeli wokudlala indima ngaphambi kwamehlo abo. Futhi ngokwayo ukuqedwa kokuqeqeshwa okuhlukile kwabafana namantombazane (abekwenziwa ngentshiseko ngaphambi kokuqala kwekhulu lamashumi amabili futhi kwazama ukuvuselela isikhathi sokuba khona kwe-USSR) namanje akunakuqinisekisa ukuqeqeshwa kwezikole.
Ingabe kunobudlelwano phakathi kwezingane kanye nemibono emibi kubazali?Isazi sezomnotho Ebony Ebony Washtoton sahlaziya ngokuziphatha kwabamele iCongress yaseMelika futhi bathola ukuthi amadoda anamadodakazi anenkululeko enkulu futhi avotele ukubonwa kwezinqumo zenkululeko.
Isazi sezomnotho saseJalimane Matthias Adpe sikholwa ukuthi ngekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalolunye, obaba badlala indima yokugcina ekwabeni ukulingana kwabesifazane - futhi bafuna ukusiza amadodakazi abo ukuba athole isimo sezomthetho. Kuzoncika Amadoda ahlanya kakhulu.
Ngokusho kweminye imibono, ukuba khona kwamadodakazi emndenini kunomphumela ophambene, ikakhulukazi uma kuthinta isihloko se-sepperse, futhi kuphoqa abazali ukuba banamathele emibukeni egcizelele kakhulu futhi babambe izingxoxo ezingxoxweni zabo Ukukhulelwa kusenesikhathi.
Ukukhetha izisu zokukhetha kanye nesikhathi esihlukile sokuncelisa ibeleNgenxa yobuchwepheshe besimanje be-ultrasound, abazali banethuba lokubona ubulili bengane ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe. Emazweni anokungalingani okuqinile ngokobulili (ngokwesibonelo, eNdiya naseChina), lokhu kwaholela ekushoneni isisu okubizwa ngokuthi ukukhethwa yisisu - uma lo mbhangqwana ulinde ukuthi intombazane ilindile, kuvame ukuba yisinqumo ekuphazamisweni kokukhulelwa. Kepha ukukhishwa kwezisu okunjalo akugcini ngokukhipha isisu. Ngakho-ke, ngokwesibonelo, abacwaningi bathola ukuthi isikhathi sokuncelisa ibele eNdiya sincike phansi kwengane (abafana bondliwe isikhathi eside, futhi ukondla kwamantombazane kumisa ngaphambili ukuze azame ukukhulelwa umfana).
Ososayensi baphakamisa ukuthi ukuqhekeka okunjalo kwezibalo kunomthelela ezindaweni zokushona kwezingane: amantombazane kulezi zindawo afa kaningi. Ngokuthuthukiswa kobuchwepheshe bokuzala, izindaba ezintsha zokuziphatha ezihlobene nethuba lokukhetha phansi kwengane yesikhathi esizayo ephakanyisiwe (imitholampilo ethile yokuzala isivele ikhangisiwe le sevisi). Kunzima ukuqonda ukuthi ngabe insizakalo enjalo izolawulwa ezingeni lomthetho futhi ingaholela kanjani.
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