Ngaphandle kwento yokuba i-hysterics yenzeka kubo bonke abantwana kwaye linqanaba eliqhelekileyo eliqhelekileyo lokuphuhliswa kwenkqubo ye-nevarius yomntwana, zisaqwalaselwa njengeziphumo "zokuziphatha" kokuziphatha kakubi "kunye nobuthathaka be-pegogogical ye abazali.
Ngeendlela ezininzi, ngenxa yoko, abazali abaye baqubisa ngesikhubekiso esilandelayo sokuqhuma ngenxa yokuba akunakwenzeka ukupakisha inyama evuthiweyo kwisebe lenyama okanye ngenxa yokuba, ixesha lifikile ngequbuliso Siya kulala, bazabalazela ukumisa le seshoni kunye neencasa ngokukhawuleza.
Nangona kunjalo, kumlo wokulwa i-hysteries zabantwana (kwaye, nokuba kupholile kangakanani na ukuba le yinkqubo eqhelekileyo kwaye iluncedo, ayiyonto ilungileyo, ayiyonto ilungileyo) I-Aggrausate Hysteria okanye uyiguqule kumkhwa ombi.
Ugqirha we-Amy Mauureen udweliswe iimpazamo ezintlanu ezivumela abazali bomntwana otyhobozayo. Yiloo nto eyenzekileyo.
Uhlawula ingqalelo ye-hystericalNayiphi na ingqwalaselo (nokuba nento engeyiyo!), Uhlawula indlela oziphatha ngayo umntwana, ixhasa le ndlela yokuziphatha. Xa uthetha into enje: "Khawuleza umele ukulila!" Okanye "uziphathe njengomntwana!" Uphefumlela umntwana wakho ukuba aqhubeke ne-hysteria yakho.
Ukuba uzama ukuvumelana ngento kunye nomntwana phakathi kwe-hysterics ("uxolo ngokuba wawucaphukisile kuba awukwepheki."), Uya kuba njengokuvunywa yokuziphatha kwakhe kwaye uqhubeke neflethi phantsi kunye ne-Ihuman Cry.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokumisa i-hysteria ayinikeli ingqalelo ekhethekileyo kuyo.
Musa ukujoyina uthethathethwano kude kube umntwana uyazola, ungazami ukukholosa okanye usoyikisile - awukhokelela kwinto yokuba isibetho siyakulibazisa. Ukuba umntwana uyimfuneko - yibekufuphi, kodwa ungangeni ekusebenziseni ukusebenza de umntwana aqalise ukuthoba.
Uzama ukuthoba umntwana ekuphakameni kwe-hysteriaUkuba umntwana wakho uyalila ngenxa yokuba ecaphukile, woyika, okanye uyamkhathaza, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzole. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyabona ukuba iinyembezi (kunye nokukhwaza kunye nokukhwaza iithoyi) zinxulunyaniswa nenye into (umzekelo, ngokugqobhoza amagama ethu kunye neengalo zethu.
Kungcono ukulungiselela kwangaphambili.
Phuhlisa imvakalelo yovakalelo yomntwana kwaye ufundise ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezomeleleyo nezingathandekiyo-umnike iindlela zokubonisa umsindo, ukuphazamiseka kunye nokubhabha, kwaye kubhenele kule ndlela.
Nangona kunjalo, ungalibali-hayi nabantu abadala abanokujamelana ngokulula neemvakalelo zabo ezomeleleyo, ngoko ke akufuneki balinde inkqubela phambili evela kubantwana.
Uyavuma iimfuno zomntwanaNgamanye amaxesha imeko iba nzima kangangokuba abazali banyanzelwa ukuba bavumelane neemfuno zomntwana, njengokumenza athobele aze atshintshe. Ewe, kukufutshane, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi ayikho enye indlela yokumisa yonke le nto yokumisa yonke le kukhala kunye nokubandezeleka, okanye ngokucokisekileyo intende yabantwana.
Akufanelekanga ukwenjenjalo, kunjalo, kuba ngalo lonke ixesha unikezela kwaye unike umntwana othandekayo, ngenxa yokuba uza kufihlakala, umntwana aqiniseke ukuba i-hysterical yindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana (kwaye Ukuba akasebenzi kwixesha elizayo, esi sisizathu nje sokuncwina ngakumbi, ixesha elide kunye nokubhoboza - uloyiso).
Uyasongela kwaye wenze nantoni naIzisongelo (ngakumbi ezo ezingakhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into) yeka i-hysterics engazukusebenza. Umntwana ukude kakhulu ukuba angakwazi ukuzibaza iimvakalelo zakho ukuvavanya isoyikiso sakho, yenza isigqibo sokungasikhathazi, thabatha ngesandla kwaye uzolile.
IFomu yoNxibelelwano lwe-Hysteria.
Ngokuphathelele i-hysterics yabantwana hayi njengento embi "kodwa njengendlela, umntwana eze kuwe iimfuno zakho. Ayisiyiyo "ixhoba" okanye "ukwenzakala" yindlela yonxibelelwano nje.
Uzama ukunyoba umntwanaOlunye uphawu lokuphelelwa lithemba lomzali kukuzama ukunyoba umntwana ukuze ayeke ukunqunyulwa ("Nceda uve phantsi, ndiza kukunika ipipi"). Njengakwimeko apho xa uvumelana neemfuno zomntwana, uqalisa ukuqonda ukuba i-hysterics yindlela elula yokufumana ukuba ayifunwanga, ke into emnandi nje.
Sebenzisa ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo.
Kwaye ukuba isinyobo kunye nesinyobo sineqhinga elibi kakhulu kumlo wokulwa i-hsyters, ke umvuzo wokuziphatha kakuhle unokunceda: umzekelo, ukungena kwivenkile yakho iphela kuya kubambisa ngokuthe cwaka kwaye ngokuzolileyo , ekugqibeleni uya kuba nakho ukukhetha ipipi okanye itosi encinci ekuphumeni.
Ke uya kumbonisa umntwana oza kwivenkile ngaphandle kwe-hysterics ithandeka ngakumbi kwaye ingenelo ngakumbi kune-ench shrintal yesebe.
Ukuba uqaphele ukuba sivumela impazamo enye okanye ezingaphezulu kolu luhlu, ke kunokwenzeka ukuba ixesha lokuhlaziya imbono yakho yabantwana.Into yokuqala ebaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka yenziwe kukwamkela inyani yokuba i-hysterics iqhelekile (ingakumbi yabantwana abakwiminyaka engaphambi kwexesha neyaseTychool) kwaye ayisiyonto yokuphucula i-hysteries-umzekelo , indlala, uxinzelelo kunye nokusebenza ngaphezulu).
Okwesibini, funda indlela yokuhlala uzolile ngexesha lokuphumelela kwabantwana - kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Umntu omdala, otyhoboza ekuphenduleni kwi-histerical yomntwana, ngelo xesha akazange ahluka kulo mntwana nangokungamncedi ukuba afunde ukuzilawula iimvakalelo zakhe aze azive ekhuselekile.
Okwesithathu, hlalutya kunye nenkqubo yokucwangcisa iimeko apho umntwana uhlala ehleli khona. Cinga ngendlela onokuyinciphisa ngayo inani lezi meko, uziphepha okanye uzilungiselele kwangaphambili (njengakwimeko enephulo lokuloba kunye nesambulula emva kwayo).
Thatha amathuba ezi ngcebiso ezilula ukwenzela ukuba ube nobubele kwaye ungaguquki rhoqo umntu olawula iimvakalelo zabo kwaye uyeke i-hysteria ngaphambi kokuba ifakwe ngokupheleleyo.
Zigcine ezandleni zakho kwaye ukhumbule ukuba i-boddler hysterics (ngaphezulu) iya kubanjwa, kodwa amandla okuphila kwiimeko zentlekele kwaye alawule iimvakalelo zabo uya kuhlala naye ngonaphakade.
Isafundwa ngesihloko