Uncedo oluNgcono lutshabalalisa i-stereotypes
Kutheni le nyanga ayingeyo "yimicimbi yabasetyhini kuphela, yaye kutheni kufuneka ukuba amakhwenkwe akhathaze nje amantombazana nje? Ngenxa yokuba ukuya esikhathini akufuneki kube luhlobo oluthile lwesiqalekiso sesini, ekufuneka sifihlwe kwaye ekufuneka sizifihlile, siqinisekile ukuba ulutsha lwabantwana ababini baseTara.
NgoSeptemba ngo-2019, ibhinqa laxelela iqela elivaliweyo kuFacebook, ukuba oonyana bakhe baneminyaka eli-15 ubudala kunye ne-15 ubudala kunye ne-Eliji-i-Eliji-kusoloko kukho i-tampon kunye ne-gamket kunye ne-gamket kwizixhobo ze-back ngequbuliso kufuneka abahlobo babo okanye abo ufunda nabo.
Kwiiyure ezininzi, iposti iphinde ifumane amanqaku angaphezu kwamawaka angama-65 kwaye uninzi lwamagqabantshintshi lukhuni kakhulu. Le yindlela i-Tara yathetha ngayo ngamava akhe kwikholamu yeCafemom.
Inyaniso: Ngokwe-Unicef, iipesenti ezingama-26 kubemi bomhlaba ziyakhawuleza. Le yikota yethu sonke. Kwaye ngaphandle kwale nto, uninzi lwabasetyhini kunye namantombazana baya kukuxelela ukuba nokuthetha ngamehlo esiya esiyakhanyayo yi-Taboo. Kodwa ke, njengamani oneminyaka elishumi ubudala kunye noonyana abakwishumi elivisayo, ndiyathemba ukuba ndiza kuyitshintsha.
Kwangoko kule nyanga ndithumele ifoto yoonyana bam kwiqela elivaliweyo kwi-facebook, kwaye ndakhangela i-vill. Ndenze le foto kwivenkile apho sahamba khona siyothenga unyaka omtsha wesikolo. Ndabhala: "Amakhwenkwe am namhlanje andinceda ngokuthenga," ndabhala. -Ubandakanya iBras yokuqala yodade wabo omncinci. "
Ndaze ndongeze:
Bobabini abantwana bam abasemva kwengxowa ilele kwi-tampon kunye ne-gasket, ukuba bafuna umntu kubahlobo babo. Ndingumama nje ozama ukukhupha i-taboo yesini!
Emva kopapasho, iposi yakhawuleza yaba yintsholongwane kwaye yabangela impendulo ekhawulezileyo yabahlalutyi. UTara uthi: "Iposi ifumene ingxelo entle kakhulu. "Kwaye waphefumlela abantu basetyhini beneminyaka engamashumi amane, amashumi amahlanu, iminyaka engamashumi amathandathu, ukuba babelane ngamabali okoyikekayo kwasebuncinaneni bakhe, xa babekufuna ngokucocekileyo, kodwa babengekho."
Elinye ibhinqa likhumbula indlela ahlala ngayo, ukuba yintombazana esencinci, "yaziswa ezingubeni, kwaye umhlobo wakhe wamnika isweather yakhe ukuze ambone esinqeni. Usakukhumbula ububele bakhe.
Nangona kunjalo, kwakukhona amabali angakumbi ahambelana nokuthotywa, ihlazo kunye nokungancedi. Inombolo engenasiphelo yabafazi yaxelelwa ngooyihlo nabayeni 'abangazange baye kwivenkile yendlela ecocekileyo. " Abanye abahlalutyi bathukele inzame yam yokutshintsha indlela yakudala yokufumana inyanga nenyanga.
Icacile kum: Ukuya esikhathini kuhlala kuhlala kuyinto enkulu yesini, esingakwaziyo ukususa - kodwa ndenza yonke into yokukhulisa amadoda atshabalalisayo.
Ndabachazela okuvuza, "ndabachazela oonyana bam. - boyika kakhulu kwaye banokuba yinto ekhathazayo. Nceda apha kunokuba yinceba kunye nokuqonda kwasekho. Yiba yile ndoda.
Ngapha koko, imizimba yethu yenza nje ukuba zenzelwe izinto ngokwasemzimbeni. Ke kutheni kufuneka sibe neentloni?
Ndiqale ndaqala ukuthetha nabo malunga nalo nyaka uphelileyo emva kokuba ndifunde inqaku malunga nendoda, ophathelele kwiphulo kwi-Appalachian Traini ovela ngasemva kwibhinqa lakhe "lakulandelwa." Kwabhalwa apho ukuba uthethile wathi: "Akukho nto iyoyikisayo, ndakhulela noomama noodadewethu ..." - kwaye yandothusa emanqweni omphefumlo.
Ndakuba ndikhokele emotweni kwaye, ndijonga abantwana bam kwisibuko sasemva, babongoze ukuba banxibe i-tamppon kwiipasile zabo ezindlwini zabo, ukuba abanye babahlobo babo bafuna uncedo olungxamisekileyo. Babonakala ngathi bacinga ngayo, kwaye abazange bathethe nto ngakumbi, kuba bakwishumi elivisayo.
Inqaku lokugqibela lifikile xa loo "ngxaki lengxamiseko" ifuna umhlobo uEliji, kwaye "walandelwa" esikolweni. Ukusukela ngala mhla uEliya waqalisa ukunxiba i-team ye-spare kunye negasket kwingxowa yakhe, kwaye uMike wenza okufanayo. Emva koko, i-T-hirt yaxelela abahlobo bakhe abasenyongweni ukuba, ukuba, kwimeko nje, kwi-Locker yakhe kukho i-sweaty sweatshirt, kunye nepakethi yakhe yasemva kwe-spare.
UTara wamkhumbula ke uTara. Ukhumbula uTara. Watsho ukuba, ngaphandle kwento yokuba amanye amakhwenkwe ayonwabisa phezu kwakhe, uninzi lwathi "upholile, dude." Uye waphawula ukuba iintombi zakhe zayisusa ekuhleni, zaza zamcebisa ukuba agcine ezinye impilo engacingi emotweni.
Ubomi kunye namakhwenkwe abakwishumi elivisayo bakumjikelo ongenasiphelo seStyrics, ukuthambisa indlala, ukuhleka, ukuhleka kunye nemizuzwana emincinci enokubakho.
Into onokuyenza ukuze ubancede baqonde eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu (umzekelo, indlela yokunceda abahlobo bakho bahlale bekhuselekile ngexesha lepati, balandele indawo kunye nokhuseleko lwabantu abangqongileyo) kunye nokuba yintoni na (umzekelo, Amaxesha, kwaye ewe-ukuvuza)-kuyavakala.
Kwaye njengokuba uzibonakalisa ezi zizinto zonke ezi zinto, uzixoxa rhoqo, ziqhelekile kubantwana bakho.
Ndiyathemba ukuba aba bameli bazo zonke izini, kubandakanya abantwana baseTransgeler, baya kwazi ukuba oonyana bam kukhuselekile ukufuna indlela ecocekileyo ukuba ahlala eyifuna. Kodwa ngakumbi ndiyathemba ukuba zonke ezi zenzo zincinci ziya kutshintsha indlela abafundi besikolo samabanga aphakamileyo ababona ngayo isihloko samabanga aphakamileyo.
Sithanda ngokunyaniseka ukumiselwa kwe-Tara kunye noonyana bakhe kwaye sinethemba layo kungekudala okanye kamva, emva koko, kamva, okanye kamva ezo zinto ziphilayo zibalulekileyo malunga nabanye ziya kufumaneka kwizikolo zaseRashiya.
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