"Ngaba ngumntwana wam ophinda into kwakhona?" Unokwenza ngathi andimazi? Ungathanda ukujika ibe yimbovane kwaye uyeke ngokukhawuleza! -Umama ucinga, ubukele ngokungxama kwibhokisi yesanti.
"Unyana wakho namhlanje waphula omnye umfana ngenxa yokudlala," utsho utitshala eKisergarten.
Utitshala weklasi.
Umama ujonge umntwana wakhe wengelosi.
Uyakothusa kwaye neentloni. Ngaba lo mntwana unomtsalane ngokwenene, kuyayothusa ukucinga! -Umntu ovuthuzayo? Kodwa umhle kakhulu kwaye unobubele, ngamanye amaxesha uyasebenza kakhulu. Ngapha koko, ukreqo lwabantwana kunokuba nezizathu ezininzi. Kwaye oomama bakho kufuneka bakhumbule: ngamanye amaxesha unomsindo- yinto eqhelekileyo!
Ukuvalwa kwiimvakalelo zokuba abantu abadala batshintshelwe kubantwana
Rhoqo ingxaki yobutyazeli ayikho konke njengoko umama omncinci uyayiqonda. Umntwana ubonakalisa nje iimvakalelo zakhe. Kodwa akuseyiyo eyabo imvakalelo yabo. Inyani yile yokuba eRussia yonke izukulwana yabantwana inyuka ngabo iimvakalelo ezingalunganga azivumelekanga.
"Amantombazana amahle angakhukhumali" kwaye kuba amakhwenkwe angabili "iimvakalelo ezinamandla zabantwana babo ngamava aqinileyo. Kuyavela ukuba unako, ke kwaye kunokwenzeka? Ngaba abazali babo baxokile?
Abantwana ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka ethile banxulumene kakhulu noomama babo. Ke ngoko, kwimeko xa babonisa ubundlongondlongo, kufuneka sizijonge ngokwayo kwaye sihlaziye iimvakalelo zabo. Ngaba umntwana uziphatha kakuhle okanye yi-hypertrophyrophyy ibona i-tentmu yesiqhelo ekhutshwe yinkqubo yokungafuneki yonyana wakhe?
Emva kokuba esebenze neemvakalelo zakho, umfazi usenokuqiniseka ukuba abantwana bakhe bazolile. Nakanye okanye nangakumbi okanye abanye baphambukele kwiimvakalelo zabo.
Ukwahlula njani iimvakalelo kwizenzo
Ukuqonda nawe, unokunceda kwaye umntwana.
Umgaqo wokuqala: Umsindo, ukucaphuka, ukuthuka, ingqumbo inelungelo lokuba. Umgaqo wesibini: Imvakalelo ayilingani nesenzo.
Inomdla: Amava okuxhaphaza: Umama wazama njani ukunceda intombi yakhe ihlale
Ukuba umntwana unomsindo kangangokuba wathabatha into yokudlala, unenyani. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuvakalisa imvakalelo yakhe kwisenzo (umzekelo, ubethe umntu owonileyo), uMama kufuneka aqhagamshele kwaye amncede aveze ngakumbi ukuba aveze ntoni.
Ngokufanelekileyo, onke amalungu osapho afanele abe lixesha elifanayo kulo mbandela. Akukho lwabiwo lweemvakalelo, ukuba umama uthi:
-Akunakwenzeka ukubetha nabani na!
Notata:
- Ndinike! Yibalekela eyakho!
Abantwana baphawula ngokuchasene nokungaboni ngasonye. Ke ngoko, ubuncinci apha kufuneka unxibelelane kwangaphambili.
Ukukhwaza, ukulila, ukubiza yonke into eyonileyo-unako.
Ukubetha, ukuluma, pinch, ukukrala-akunakwenzeka.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela "amantombazana kwaye amancinci akathi babetha," kodwa jikelele nabani na. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ewe, unokuchazwa kule meko umntu anokuphendula ngayo kwiflesi. Kodwa ngelixa isengumntwana kwaye uthetha ngokuphila, kwaye ungasinda kuluntu lwanamhlanje.
Abazali kufuneka baqonde iimvakalelo zomntwana wabo, kodwa nokuqinisekisa ukuba akazinzikisi nabanye, banomsebenzi wabo.
Indlela yokwazisa umntwana ngomsindo
-Ngakwi-Kindergarten, enye inkwenkwe ithathe itosi oyifunayo? Unomsindo? Ndiyaqonda, ndilapha kwaye bendiya kuba nomsindo. Xa ubona, ufuna ukubetha umntu.
-Intombazana kwi-sandbox ukhwehlile? Wabuhlungu. Nam, kuyenzeka. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yimpazamo.
-Ndiqondile ukuba umakhulu akakunikanga pipi, awayithembisayo? Uye wakhwaza kakhulu? Ivela kumsindo. Kwenzeka xa ulindile, kodwa awufumani.
Umama wamkela yonke imeko kunye nomntwana wakhe kwaye ubiza ngamnye kwiimvakalelo zakhe. Icacisa ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ihlolwe nayo. Kwenzekani. Ke kunokwenzeka. Kodwa oko koko bongeza:
-Ndiyawaqonda amava akho, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukwenza enye. Asibetha mntu. Lo mbizi wawubuhlungu kakhulu xa ubembeka.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ukuphakanyiswa kwayo akusohlwaywa, kodwa ukuqonda kwemiphumo yomntwana. Ke ngoko, akufuneki ukhwaze, ufunge, kwaye ngakumbi ubetha indoda encinci enamava anemvakalelo engalunganga kakhulu. Kuyimfuneko ukuchaza oko kulandelayo.-Ukuba uyakhutyekiswa ngabantwana kule ndawo, kuya kufuneka sigoduke. Ukuba ukhetha into yokudlala, sishiya iindwendwe. Ukuba uqhubeka uzigcine, kuya kufuneka ndizise kwelinye igumbi, apho ungayi kudlala khona.
Oku akufuneki kwenziwe into eyenzakeleyo, kodwa usana lumele luqonde - uhluthwa into emnandi kakhulu kuye. Ayizukuyeka-ithethwayo kufuneka yenziwe.
Usebenza njani ngeemvakalelo zabantwana
Ungazifunda iimvakalelo zakho ukwenzela indalo imvakalelo yakho ukusuka kwiminyaka emi-1-2. Ukwenza oku, ungamjonga kwaye (hayi kwimizuzwana okanye ukugcoba) chaza:
"Xa unomsindo, unokuhamba ngemilenze."
"Xa unomsindo, ungabandezeleka."
- Xa unomsindo, ungaphula iphepha.
- Xa unomsindo, ungabetha umqamelo.
Bona kwakhona: Ungaziphulukani njani kwikhefu lokuya kubeleka
Phinda amaxesha amaninzi. Ngakumbi ngaphambi kweziganeko ezihlala ziqhankqalaza: Ngaphambi kokuba uphume ngaphandle, ukuba sele kukho umntu ongcwele, ngaphambi kokuvalwa nantoni na.
Imvakalelo kufuneka inikwe igama-inomsindo, unomsindo, ukhathazekile. Ngendlela, unokuqeqesha ubuchule bokuphefumla kunye nokuphefumla. Umzekelo, uphefumla ngokunzulu ngempumlo kwaye uchithe umlomo. Umntwana akayi kuyiqonda le nto yesenzo, kodwa ukulandelelana kuyakukhumbula. Kwaye isiphumo sokuphefumla silungile kakhulu.
Xa uxande okanye umlo sele kwenzekile
Ukuba kwenzeka imbambano, indlela yokuziphatha koomama ibalulekile. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ube licala lotshaba, nokuba uchaphazeleke ngokunyaniseka ecaleni kwecala, nokuba uxolile kakhulu. Umsebenzi kukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba akwazi ukujamelana noko kwenzeka kwaye ayikhusele.
Umama kufuneka azithathe iimvakalelo zakhe.
-Ndiyaqonda, uthatha ibhola. Unomsindo.
Emva koko khumbuza malunga neziphumo zezenzo zayo:
-Ukhumbula into esivumelane ngayo? Ukuba uphethe, sigoduka.
Cebisa ngeendlela ezinobuhlobo ukuze ziphile umsindo:
-Ufuna, siya kususa kunye kwaye uhlunguze, sifunde njani ekhaya? Okanye nantsi i-napkin - ungamqhekeza!
Funda kwakhona: Into yokudlala yomntwana ayithandayo, eyingozi ukulahleka: ibali lomma omnye
Ukuba imeko kunye nomlo iya kuphinda, ke umntwana kufuneka eyanele ukothuka kwaye uhambe. Xa uzolile, chaza ukuba kutheni kufuneka ndenze njalo. Izimvo ezingenasiphelo zithathwa njengengxolo emhlophe. Nezenzo ezaye zachazwa kwangaphambili, abantwana bayaqonda.
Imidlalo yentetho yeemvakalelo
Iimbono zeekhathuni kunye neencwadi zokufunda zingahlala zisetyenziswa ngenjongo yokuqonda. Cela umntwana, zithini iimvakalelo ezingoonobumba. Okanye uzibize nje.
-Jonga, ibhola i-charlds matroskin. Matroskin esenza ububi!
Ukongeza, unokuqhagamshela imidlalo esebenzayo esebenzayo ekwanceda ukuphosa i-negative:
- ukufumana okudlule;
- abagqogli;
- ukulwa umqamelo;
- Ukudubula kwiipistoli ze-aquatic;
- Yakha iinqaba ezivela kwimiqamelo kwaye uziqhekeze.
Qhoba nje omnye komnye kwaye kwangaxeshanye into yokukhwaza, iya kumnceda umntwana aphile iimvakalelo zakhe.
Kubalulekile kubazali
Ke ngoko, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha naye. Chaza into eyenzekayo nomntwana, kunye nabanye abathathi-nxaxheba kwingxabano. Abantwana kufuneka bakhuselwe ngabazali babo. Ngelishwa, ihlala yenzeka ukuba umama ungcatshayo-endaweni yokujongana nokuthetha, uqalisa ukuchasa. Kodwa emva koko, unokuchaza kwaye uxelele ukuba kwakuthathiwe.
-Umama uyintombazana elungileyo. Kunzima kuye, njengawe, mntwana, uziphathe. Kwaye, kubonakala ngathi, incinci kakhulu ... umona.