Ungamfundisa njani umntwana ukukhusela imida yabo

Abazali bebudala bafundisa abantwana ukuba bahlonele abanye, ngononophelo

Ebantwini, zithathele ingqalelo izinto abanomdla kuzo, mamela uluvo lomnye umntu. Kodwa ukuze umntwana avuke kwaye ayesazi ukuba yenzelwa njani ulwalamano phakathi kweentlanga, kuya kufuneka ufundise abantwana ukukhusela eyakho

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Imida yobuqu yabelana ngeyabo kunye nomnye umntu. Imida yobuqu yinto umntu anokuthi abize eyakhe. Igumbi lakho, ifowuni yakho yeselula, uluvo lwakho, iimvakalelo kunye namava yimida, kwaye wonke umntu unelungelo lokuzikhusela. Abazali bafanele bachaze umntwana ukuba imida yobuqu ingabi kuphela kuye, kodwa nabo bonke ababangqongileyo. Umbono womphambukeli, amagama, iimvakalelo, indawo kufuneka ihlonipha kwaye ixabise.

Okokuqala ngqa ngemida yakhe, umntwana udibana entsatsheni, ngenxa yoko abazali basebuncinaneni bafanele babonakalise isiqu somzimba (ezabo nabanye) sifanelwe yintlonipho. Abantu abadala akufuneki balibele ukuba abantwana bafunda kumzekelo wabo. Ukuba umama uthetha ngendlela ebaluleke ngayo ukuhlonitshwa kweminye imida, kodwa kwangaxeshanye Oko kukuthi, umntu odumileyo ufundisa enye, kwaye kumzekelo ubonakalisa into enokwenziwa ngokwahlukileyo.

Ngobudala, abantwana kufuneka banike inkululeko engakumbi ukuze bakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Ngapha koko, akukho nzima njengoko kunokubonakala kuqala.

Ukususela kwiminyaka yokuqala yabantwana ifumana yonke into abayibonayo, njengesiponji. Njengoko abazali bahlala besondele, abantwana bathanda ukuthatha umzekelo kubo. "Umama noTata ligunya elingagungqiyo, bayenza yonke into kwaye bathethe ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye ndiza kwenza kwa into enye." Ukuba umama wakho uneshishini eliphambili, kwanaxa umntu okufuphi ngokwenene efuna uncedo, kwaye utata rhoqo uyafunga kwaye uvume abanye, kubantwana abanokuziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Ukuziphatha komntwana kuya kuxhomekeka kwindlela abazali abaziphethe ngayo eluntwini.

Ukuba umama okanye utata unengxaki yokwaphula imida yobuqu (abantu abangabaziyo okanye eyakho), okokuqala, kufuneka bajongane noku. Ngaphandle koko, abantwana baya kuqala "kwisipili" zabo. Xa abazali bebonakalisa umzekelo owoneleyo, indlela yokuhlonipha indlela onokuthi aguquke ngayo imida, indlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana iya kutshintsha kwangoko.

Abazali bemihla ngemihla bajamelana nokungathobeli babantwana: Abavumi ukususa iithoyi, abafuni ukuya kwi-kindergarten, abafuni kunxiba okanye bazidla. Ewe kunjalo, kunzima ukuhlala kuzolile xa imfundiso yomntwana ichithake izihlangu ezingcolileyo kwindlu eqeshiweyo okanye iphosa ukutya. Kodwa abazali abalumkileyo bayazama ngako konke konke anokwaphula, yiya kwisikhalo okanye senze i-cattle cattle.

Zama nangayiphi na i-hysterics ukugcina ukuzola, nokuba kwakunzima kangakanani. Kwaye kungekudala iKroch iyakuqonda ukuba iimvakalelo ezingalunganga zinokubonakaliswa kungekuphela ngoncedo lokukhala kunye nezithombe, kodwa zichaze ngamazwi. Kwakhona, khumbula ukuba kumzekelo owufundisayo abantwana, njengoko kufuneka uziphathe nabanye abantu.

Abazali kufuneka baxhase umntwana, ngakumbi xa afumana iimvakalelo ezimbi. Akukho meko ayinakukubonisa abantwana ukuba ububi, uloyiko, uChagen yimeko embi, elihlazo. Ukuba uyabona ukuba umntwana ufumana imvakalelo engalunganga, ukuba abek, azole, athethe malunga nento avakalelwa ngayo umntwana. I-krook idinga ukuva kuMama kwaye inoTada ngolu hlobo: "Ndisondele, ndiyaqonda ukuba unzima kangakanani ngoku. Ndiyakuthanda, ngaphandle kwento yokuba unomsindo omkhulu. Ngoku sizola kancinci kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo siya kufumana indlela yokuphuma kule meko, kulungile? ".

Xa umntwana ohlala kwimeko embi, ezolile emva kwengxoxo yakho, cacisa indlela abantu eluntwini banxibelelana ngayo. Ibali lakho kufuneka libe yinto engendawo, linomdla, ukuze i-kroch inomdla kwaye ifundile into. Ungasebenzisa iikhathuni, iincwadi ezinemifanekiso eqaqambileyo okanye itsale imizobo "ebonisa" iimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi kunye neziphumo ezivela kuzo.

Umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba ungumnini wezinto zakhe kwaye unelungelo lokulahla ngokubona kwakhe. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukukhusela iithoyi zakho kungekuphela ngoncedo lwe-wids okanye iinyembezi. Nawuphi na umntu, nokuba ungaphantsi kweminyaka, kufuneka ukwazi ukuxoxa.

Yintoni imida yobuqu:

1. Isifundo. Abantwana bafanele babe nezinto zakho. Akukho meko ungatsho ukuba akukho nto emntwaneni wakho, kuba zonke iithoyi, iimpahla, iincwadi zizithenga abazali. Ukuba uphatha idoli yomntwana, ndixelele: "Le yinto yakho yokudlala. Ungumnini wayo. " Intombazana evela ngoku inelungelo lokulahla unodoli wakhe njengoko efuna. Ukuba intombi ifuna ukunika idoli entsha kwintombazana, ungayithinteli. Awuthethi nje amaphiko amatsha ngokukhawuleza. Intombi kufuneka ifunde ukuphendula ngezenzo zabo. Akukho sidingo sokunyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba abelane ngeethoyi zakho. "Ubanile ntoni, mandidlale umatshini wokuchwetheza," - abazali akufuneki bathethe loo nto, kuba umatshini ngomnye wento yokwenza nalo. "Mhlawumbi ukutshintsha kunye ne-thoys yenkwenkwe?" -Unganceda olu khetho oluya kulungiselela amacala omabini. Ukuze umntwana afundiswe ukuhlonipha eminye imida, abazali bamele bayiqonde imida yosana lwabo. Akufuneki uthathe umntwana ngaphandle kwemvume, ukubalahla ngokubona kwakho, yiya ngaphandle kwegumbi lakhe.
2. Emzimbeni. Ukuba i-crumb ayifuni ukunxiba i sweatshi, kuba thina ngokwethu, musa ukunyanzela. Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukuba uwenze, ukwanga, akufuneki ukwenze oku. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuhlonipha igama elithi "hayi" elitshoyo.

Njengoko abantu abadala banokwaphula imida yomzimba yabantwana:

• i-caress
• Ukusongelwa ngokunyanzelekileyo
• ukwenza oko akuyonto inomdla emntwaneni;
• Sebenzisa isohlwayo somzimba.

Umntu ngamnye unendawo yayo yokuthuthuzela. Abantu abadala kufuneka baqwalaselwe kwaye bangaphazamisi indawo yomntwana ukuba akayifuni.

Umntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala usenokuba ukhethe, malunga neengubo aza kuya egadini, apho afuna ukuhamba khona, sisiphi isidlo esifuna isidlo sasemini. Masibe nethuba lokwenza ukhetho lwakho. "Ngubani ofuna ukuthatha nawe kwiCrib: Ibhere, idoli, i-bunny?". Musa ukugxeka isigqibo somntwana ukuba senze njalo, indlela afuna ngayo, kungenjalo kwikamva, uNyana okanye intombi ayifundanga ukukhusela umbono wakhe.

Kwakhona, umntwana ngamnye unelungelo lokufumana amava kunye neemvakalelo zakhe. Abazali kufuneka bahlonele kwaye baneemvakalelo zabantwana, kwaye bangabutshitshisi uxanduva lweemvakalelo zabo ezimbi kumagxa amancinci.