Umsunguli weqonga loomama umama Umama we-Chelsea Ellison wabhala inyani yomama, apho wabelana ngamava akhe ngokungaqhelekanga, wancama owakhe amabele kubantwana abakwizibhedlele. Ndiyiguqulele.
Ngexesha lokumila kuka Nyana kwaye ndiwile ukuncancisa, lixesha lokuba ndibuyele emsebenzini. Ndandisoyika ukuba ngenxa yokwahlula-hlula, ubisi luyayeka ukuveliswa, okanye ukuba iyakuphelisa ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo obuvela phakathi kukaMama oMhle nomntwana. Ukuba bendifuna ukuyeka ukuncancisa, emva koko kuphela kwiimeko zam. Ke mna ndiya, ndinamathele kwaye ndinomkhenkce.
Ngale ntsasa, xa ndiqala ukubuyela e-ofisini - iinyanga ezintathu emva kokuzalwa konyana- sasineelitha ezintlanu saba nazo iilitha ezintlanu zobisi lwesitokhwe. Akubon 'ukuba kwenziwe, oko kwanele kwiiveki ezininzi zokundondle. Ngokwesiqhelo ndayondla ekuseni, ndaza ndahamba. Ndibhadule ndijikeleze igumbi labanye oomama e-ofisini, bekhulula ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ke ubisi luye lwangena kangangoko angazange asele.
Ndaziva ndinetyala lonyana wam ngenxa yokuba wayekumgama, ngenxa yokuba engazange azondle, ngenxa yokuba isixa esaneleyo sobisi sasingoyiki.
Ekuqaleni kokuncancisa, ndandingayicingi ukuba ndiza kuba nobisi oluninzi. Yahamba kancinci. Emva kokuba unyana elahlekelwe yipesenti ezilishumi ubunzima bakhe ngokuzalwa, kwaye i-birirubhi yakhe yatsiba, sanikwa izisombululo eziliqela kwingxaki, kodwa ayikhange ibonakale ngathi kukhetho.
Sathunyelwa ekhaya ngeephakheji zomxube wobisi lwabantwana. Nangona kuyinto yomlingo, bendifuna ukondla ibele. Ndandisoyika ukuba xa ndimnika umntwana into, ngaphandle kwendlu okanye ubisi, ke, siza kuphoswa ngamathuba ethu. Ndaqala ke ukuba ndikhangele ezinye iindlela, kubandakanya inkxaso yokunika ubisi kunye nenkxaso.
Kodwa iingxaki zam zokuncancisa zaphela ngaphambi kokuba ndiqonde yona - ngequbuliso kwavela ukuba ndinobisi olupheleleyo olungathethekiyo.
Kude kube sekwesi sikhundla sinelungelo, akuzange kwenzeke kum ukuba ndinganikela ubisi lwam emntwini. Andizange ndive ngolo hlobo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo andimazi umntu ongatshatanga onokuba namava afanayo. Kwaye akumangalisi: bambalwa kakhulu ukuba babe ngabaphengululi bobisi lwebele- oku kungenxa yokungazi kwazi, izindululo kunye nezinye izinto.
Lilonke, mna nonyana wam sinokubingelela ngaphezulu kweelitha ezingama-29 zobisi. Kule nto, ndaqhagamshelana nebhanki yasekhaya engarhweyingi yobisi lwebele kwaye ndigcwalise amaxwebhu malunga nempilo nendlela yakhe. Ndilungiselele ukurekhoda kwam ngonyango ngam nonyana wam, ndenze uvavanyo lwegazi. Bandixelele ukuba ndingawugcina njani ubisi, indlela yokusithumela kwisebe lesibhedlele elikufutshane. Emva koko i-Bhanki ithathe ubisi kwaye iyichithe ngokhuseleko lwabantwana.
Ubisi lwethu lwathunyelwa kwiSebe loNyango oluBanzi - ukuxhasa ezona mntwana zisesichengeni nezinobuthathaka, oomoyiza bawo bafumana iingxaki nge-GW. Yahlulwa zizibhedlele kunye nokuhlaselwa kwabantu ukuze abazali bathathe ukhetho lwendlela yokondla abantwana babo. Olu khetho lutsha lweentsapho ezimbalwa.
Ngandlel 'ithile, ifuthe lobisi lwebele kubantwana abagqithisileyo (i-IQ ephezulu kwaye yonke into). Kodwa ukubaluleka kwayo akunakwenzeka ukuphatha gadalala xa kufikwa kwiintsana ngaphambi kwexesha kunye nokugula kumasebe onyango olunzulu.
Kubo, ukuncancisa kakhulu kunciphisa imeko ye-nenterocolitis, enye yezona zinto zibangela ukufa kwabantu ngaphambi kwexesha. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ichaphazele ukubaluleka kokukhetha ngaphezu kokondla abantwana babo, kwaye ubukho bobisi abanikeleyo luyanceda ekusombululeni le ngxaki.
Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, ukuncancisa ngokufuthi yaba ngumxholo weembambano ezishushu. Iingxaki kunye nokuchasana nokuchasana ne-GW ziboniswe ngokucacileyo kukungalingani kobuhlanga kunye nezoqoqosho, ezixhotyiswe kuluntu lwethu kunye noxinzelelo olunamandla kunoomama abancinci.
Ndinamalungelo, kwaye enye yazo ilukhetho, indlela yokondla umntwana wakho.
Ndaziswa ngobisi lwebele, ndaziva ndinelungelo lokwala umxube wobisi lomntwana, kwaye ndingaqesha umcebisi wam wokuncancisa xa ndadibana neengxaki.
Uninzi lwabazali alunawo amathuba. Imixube yayimiselwe yona kwangoko kwaye ihlala injalo. Iintlungu zabo zasasazeka kwiintsuku zokuncancisa zihlala zingabonwa, kwaye zithetha nesicatshulwa okanye iingcebiso ezithi lixesha lokuba unikezele. Ukubonisana ngokuncancisa kunikezelwa ikakhulu ziingcali ezimhlophe, kwaye iindleko zenkonzo zimalunga needola ezingama-200. Abantu abanolwazi oluncinci ngemithombo yasimahla yolwazi malunga ne-GW kunye nobisi olusebenzayo.
Kuninzi oku kufuneka kwenziwe ukuze kupheliswe izizathu zokunqongophala kubazali. Abalawuli beebhanki zobisi ezingenzi nzuzo zihlala zithi ukuba siyandisa amalungelo kunye nezinto ezinokwenzeka kubo bonke abo bazalayo abantwana, emva koko iibhanki zobisi ziya kuyeka ukubakho. Kude kube lelo xesha, umnikelo wobisi lwebele uhlala ulilungelo elikhulu.
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