Isu tinowanzo taura nezve mafambiro evaya (uye kunyanya vanaamai) zvakakosha kuti tisakanganwa kuzvitarisira. Uye kunyangwe iyo pfungwa chaiyo yekuzvitarisira iyo inomirira yakakura uye zvine musoro, pfungwa yemazuva ano yainoita senge yakawandisa uye isingagamuchiriki.
Iye Munyori webhuku raJustal Nanhasi Erin Pepler akanyora ikoramu yakashatirwa, uye kunyanya vatengesi kwazvo) vanodhonza kwazvo kunaamai, vachimanikidza kuti vatore hanya - uye chaizvo zvinotaridzika zvakanyanya kutengeserana. Hezvinoi iyo Pelleche Inonyora:
Ini handizive kuti ndiani achave anonakidza, asi kuzvitarisira hazvina musoro.
Zvakanaka, kwete zvese zvakabatana nazvo - zvisina musoro, asi zvakawanda. Kunyanya kana iwe uri mukadzi, uye zvakatonyanya - amai.
Pfungwa yekuzvitarisira iwe, inonzwisisika, yakanaka kwazvo. Pfungwa, dzemuviri, dzemanzwiro, dzakasarudzika, dzeMweya - mumwe nemumwe wedu ane zvavanoda, uye zvakakosha kuti isu titarisire nzvimbo idzi dzehupenyu hwako.
Vanhu pavanoti "kubva mukapu isina chinhu harizowire" kana "kupfeka mask kutanga", tinonzwisisa kuti ichi ichokwadi. Hatigone kutarisira vana vedu kana tikazvinyudza pachedu. Asi kazhinji zvinoratidzika zvisiri izvo zvisiri zvechokwadi.
Pfungwa yekuti "kuzvitarisira" (kuzviriritira) yakaonekwa maererano nedambudziko rekodzero dzehurumende uye kodzero dzevakadzi mumakore makumi matanhatu.
Pane quotation yakakurumbira yemunyori weAmerica uye Activist Audrey Lord:
"Kukuitira hanya iwe pachako hakusi chiratidzo, kuzvidzivirira uye kuita zvezvematongerwo enyika."
Asi zvino pfungwa iyi yave ishoko rekushambadzira, rinoshandiswa seyakagashira kuti tisimbe vakaroora vakaroora serinaro seni kuti kushushikana kwedu kuchanyangarika kana tikawana chikafu chakakodzera kana chichidya chiso chechiso.
Akafamba achienda kune iyo hashtegov pasi pezvizvi uye zvekushambadzira.Akave izwi rekodhi rinoreva manicure uye kupera kwevhiki mune spa. Green Smoothie mushure mega. Girazi rewaini mushure mezuva refu.
Kuti uve akatendeseka, zvakawanda zvezvinhu izvi zvakanaka. Ini ndinoda manicure uye kwandiri kumba kwakaringana ganda rekuvhura chitoro chako. Ini ndinoda waini uye ndinoshandisa yoga nguva nenguva. Ini handitauri kuti hatifanire kuita chero chinhu kubva pane zvakanyorwa - Damn, ndinoda kuzviita kazhinji.
Asi ichi chirevo chitsva chekuzvitarisira pachako - Sucks.Zvinotipa chimwe chinhu chenguva pfupi uye chinonyepa, nepo yedu yakagadziriswa kushanda isiri kuenda chero kupi.
Iko hakuna kudzidziswa kwakadaro kana kuti kwaizoponesa kubva pakurara kusingaperi kwekurara, kwakawedzera mari kubhengi account yako kana kuti vaviri vekuwedzera vanoongorora zuva rako rakawandisa.
Pane imwe nzvimbo apo (hongu, kazhinji, kwese kwese) kuna amai, vasina kunyorwa vari voga kwemwedzi yakawanda chete.
Kanganwa nezve zororo reruzivo - iye anoda kurara kwenguva yakareba kupfuura namaawa matatu panguva uye akagadzirira kuuraya iye achizvidhonza mumoyo, kana kuti mangwanani akanyarara mukombe kicheni nekapu yekofi uye isina zvikumbiro zvinogara zvichiitika kubva kuvana.
Ini ndinofunga kuti hapana chinhu chinotyisa mukubvuma kuti zvikumbiro zvedu zvekutarisira zvakaderera kwazvo. Amai vemwana vachangozvarwa vachabatsira kana mumwe munhu akatora mwana wake kwemaminitsi gumi (gumi!) Kuti aidye kudya kwake kwemanheru paakapora.
Zvimwe kutendeseka kusvika kumagumo, isu tinongoda nguva shoma yekuenda kucheneswa kwemeno, pakutambira kwacho kuna chiremba, kune iyo yemitambo kana kutaura neshamwari, pasina kukanganisa.
Ini handidi kutarisirwa kuti titarise senge basa - ngatichichinja.Ndiri kuda kuzvitarisira zvakanaka pachangu: zvinosanganisira, zvinogoneka uye neruzhinji. Uku ndiko kuraira kwekureurura pamusoro penyaya yekuti kukura mwana, unoda musha wese unobatanidza vakadzi uye unobatsira mhuri.
Govera kutora mwana womuvakidzani kushanyira uye kuitora kubva ipapo, uye gamuchira iyo yekupa kukubatsira iwe neiyo svondo rinouya.
Batsira uye ubvumire iwe kubatsira.
Tsigira musha wako ne chero nzira dziripo, asi usakanganwa kuti iwe unogona kugara uchiti kwete, kana usingakwanise kuzviita. Isu tinozvarwa hardy, asi izvi hazvireve kuti tinofanira kutakura mutoro wedu kusvikira iwe uchifa. Tinogona kudzora tempo uye kumbomira.
Pasinei nenyaya yekuti peplechae yakatsanangurwa zvakadzama zvakadzama kuti zvaive zvisina kudaro pfungwa yemazuva ano yekuzviriritira, iye aingopa mhinduro imwe yekugadzirisa dambudziko racho - kufadza nharaunda yayo uye iyo yepedyo yakakomberedza rubatsiro.
Uye kunyangwe mumashoko zvinonzwika zvine musoro uye kunyange zvishoma kudanana, muchokwadi (kunyanya muRussia chaicho), iyi sarudzo haina kuwanikwa kune wese munhu.Takaedza kutsvaga dzimwe pfungwa dzekuzvitarisira isu pachedu hadzina kufanira kubhuka zuva rekubva mune spa kana kusaina Yoga nePilates, uye takasimudza chinzvimbo chikuru paMama anozviziva zvese blog. Iye munyori weBrandy Jieter akanyora yese nzira makumi maviri nemaviri ekuratidza kuzvida pakati pezviitiko zvezuva nezuva, uye takasarudza sarudzo dzataifarira.
Ndozvakaitika:Saina chiremba wako (uye enda kunogamuchirwa).
Isa nguva yakasimba yedheni yevana kuti uve nenguva yekuzorora uye kuzorora.
Enda kunorara panguva yakajairika.Bvunza mumwe munhu kuti akugadzirire iwe kanokwana kaviri pasvondo. Iwe haufanirwe kudhonza zvese pauri (nenzira, panguva yePanemic iripo inokwanisika kumba kwekutakura zvinhu zvekutumira).
Tora zvaunofarira kuita. Zvinogona kuva chimwe chinhu chaungaita kumba - semuenzaniso, kupwanya kana kudhirowa.
Ita bonde zvakanaka. Kana zvino asati azvakafanana, paradzira, chii chiri dambudziko, uye kuzvisarudzira.
Pfeka mangwanani oga oga, kunyangwe iwe usingade kuenda chero kupi. Iwe unogona kutora nguo dzakanaka mauri iwe uchave wakasununguka.
Kana imwe mhando yemba inoita kuti iwe uwane inopfuura hafu yeawa, kumbira rubatsiro.
Inwa mvura.Idya zvinotapira chete muchimiro chevakaremara, zvinonaka zveshuwa.
Tsigira kubatana neshamwari dzako.
Kanda yako yekare underwear. Chengetedza zvauri chaizvo muhukuru, inotaridzika zvakanaka uye inogara nemazvo.
Taura "Kwete" nguva zhinji sezvaunoda.Kana vanhu vabvunza kuti uri kuita sei, vaudze zvese zvakadzama, kunyanya kana iwe uri kuita zvakanaka.
Ndiregerere pane zvawakaita kare.
Mhanya maitiro kune vanhu padhuze naunonzwa kunge wakashata.
Usamirire kuti vanhu vafunge izvo zvaunoda. Vaudze.Zvichida pfungwa huru pano ndeyekuti kunetseka kwako hakufanirwe kuve chinhu chimwe chete, sporadic, kamwe kamwe - mune mamwe manheru, hazvigone kuzorora pamusoro pegore rose remutemo.
Kuchengeta iwe unofanirwa kuve maitiro, zviito zvidiki zvezuva nezuva zvekuzvida ivo vanokubatsira kuti unzwe zvirinani zuva nezuva - uye izvi zvisingaite kuti vashandise mamirioni pane inodhura cosmetics kana maitiro. Uye zvechokwadi, kune mumwe nemumwe munhu ane hanya pachavo ndega ndewemunhu, chinhu chikuru pano ndechekutsvaga nzira dzekusazadzisa zviwanikwa zvako uye zvakavaisa muhupenyu hwatinogara pane zvachose.