Mazhinji stereotypes pamusoro pevarume nevakadzi havatibatsire muhupenyu uye vanonyanya kukuvadza, iyo blogger uye tsika uye tsika dzechinyakare eLossman rossman ane chokwadi. Asi gore rinobva gore rimwe nerimwe, kubva kuzvizvarwa nezvizvarwa, vabereki nezvikoro zvinodzidzisa vasikana ava. In for mel.fm, iye munyori akarondedzera hunyanzvi shanu, pasina izvo, mumaonero ake, vakadzi vaisazongorarama, asiwo kuraramawo zviri nani uye nekuwedzera kufara.
Vazhinji stereotypes pamusoro pevarume nevakadzi havatibatsire muhupenyu uye vanonyanya kukuvadza, blogger inogutsikana. Asi gore rinobva gore rimwe nerimwe, kubva kuzvizvarwa nezvizvarwa, vabereki nezvikoro zvinodzidzisa vasikana ava. Muchikamu cheMel.fm, munyori akarondedzera hunyanzvi shanu, pasina izvo, mukufunga kwake, mukurarama kwake, asiwo ave nani uye anowedzera kufara, anonyora naRenok.by '
Iva akachena uye anoshingairira
"Nei matoyi apwanywa, uri musikana!", "Nei ndakasviba muBabia, uri musikana!", "Nei mabhuku asiri munzvimbo, iwe uri musikana!" - Ndiani asina kuzvinzwa kamwechete muhupenyu? Nezvinotarisa pane "Iwe uri musikana", hongu. Vasikana vanodzidziswa kuti vanyatsonaka, vakachena uye vanoteerera kune zvakadzama, dzimwe nguva kusvika padanho rakanyanya rekuda kukwana.
Ngatitaure pachena: kururamisa, kugona kurasa "maererano nababa" uye kutarisisa kune izvo hazvina chekuita nekadzi. Pamwe vanokubatsira iwe muupenyu hwehunyanzvi, asi nei kudzidzisa hunyanzvi uhu hwese uye nekushamisika kubva kumakore madiki?
Nekudaro, hazvisi zvekunyepedzera kuti vakadzidziswa. Kubva kuvakadzi, ivo vachiri kutarisira kuti ivo vachashanda, uye imba ine vana vanofanira kuchengeta, uye pamwe zvakare murume mune zviitiko zvake. Ndokunge, munguva pfupi inotevera ivo vachazove vekumba nevasungwa vakasununguka uye vanyori musanganiswa.
Mune zvemagariro, mamiriro ezvinhu ezvinhu, apo vakadzi vanoshanda kwemaawa masere, uye vanozouya kumba vakagamuchira kupopotera zvese, zvinonzi "chinjana" Zvinotendeseka here kana vamwe vachishanda mukuchinja kumwe, uye vamwe vaviri, uye kunyange mahara mune yechipiri? Kwete, kusavimbika, uye kuchiri kuomesa uye kunonetsa. Ngatiregei kugadzirira vasikana kuti vabike yeupenyu hwese.
Iyo yekuona yembitual yemurume uyu iwayo isina nzira isina kwayakarerekera nezve padhuze - marejista echikoro. Kazhinji, ichiri tsvarakadenga nesu ichiri kudzidzisa vana vese, zvisinei nekuti bonde, uye, mumaonero angu, kubhadhara kutarisisa kwakawanda muzvikoro. Kubva kuvasikana kazhinji, maererano neyakafanana neyakafanana ivanhu tsika, vanoda kurongeka kwakasiyana muzvimedu uye nekucherechedzwa. Nekuda kweizvozvo, vasikana nevakadzi vanowanzo nyora zvine musoro, vamwe vacho kunyange calligraphic, asi hapana chikonzero mazviri, kunze kwekunge iwe uri, chaizvo, calligraph.
Teerera
Kwandiri, iko kurumbidza kwekuteerera kwekuteerera ndicho chitendero chevaranda. Isu takakomberedzwa nenyika inokwikwidza uye yakaoma kwazvo, uko vanhu vazhinji uye vashoma zviwanikwa. Izvo zvinodikanwa kuti utange nekutanga kwekutanga, kurwira zano rako uye ndewangu, nekuda kwemufaro wako uye kune rangu bhizinesi. Uye munyika, kwete vese vakaronga nokutendeka. Saka nei isu tichidzidzisa vana kutevera mitemo yake pane kuchinja chaiko?
Kana musingabatsire kuwana nzvimbo yake pasi pezuva uye kuti vazadzikise zvake, zvakakosha, zvakanaka, zvinonakidza, zvimwe. Asi zvichaita kuti musikana asgadzikane kumunhu wese kumativi ese: vabereki, vadzidzisi, murume naamai vake. Izvi "nyore" zvinounza musikana kusvika kumufaro uye kuenderana here? Ndine kusava nechokwadi kwakakura pamusoro peizvi. Vasikana vanoteerera vanouya mune zvese mufananidzo wekare ngano, senge cinderella uye mambokadzi echando (isu tese chatinoverenga muhudiki, nenzira). Muhupenyu chaihwo, nyaya iyi nekuteerera inokwanisa kunakidzwa uye kubvumira vamwe kugutsa zvishuwo zvavo. Hapana munhu anovimbisa kuti uchabhadhara dutu rechimiro chakadai chekunaka.
Mune baba vamwe chete nezvekuteerera, zvese zvekuti "kugona" kusiya "," hunyanzvi hwekuteerera "uye kunyangwe" kugona kusanzwisisika "(ndakanzwa nezve hunyanzvi hwakasimba kubva kune mumwe musikana wekare). Kana ndirini, zviri nani kudzidzisa mwana (chero bonde) kuti titeerere pachako, kupokana, kupokana, kuchengeta mazano ako, kuzadzisa zvinangwa uye kuratidza matarenda. Uye, chokwadika, funga nezvemusoro wako pane kubvumirana nemunhu wese pasina njodzi.
Kwete kumhanya
Pfungwa pamusoro pekushaya simba kwemuviri wehurumende dzevakadzi dzinowedzerwa nenzira imwecheteyo pfungwa pamusoro pekushaya simba kwepfungwa kana hunhu hwehutungamiriri. Icho chinzvimbo icho munyori webhuku "ngano yekushaya simba" yakachengetedzwa - iyo American Psychologist yakatemwa kupokana. Inobatanidza iyo data yehurumende, yebenzi uye inodzidzisa zvidzidzo uye zvinoratidza kuti vasikana nevakadzi vemugadziri vemuviri havana kugona kupa vakomana nevarume.Chekutanga kubva pamakore echikoro isu tiri kudzidza kushandisa muviri wako: zvishoma kazhinji enda kumitambo, mitambo inoshanda inokurudzirwa. Zvishoma nezvishoma, vakadzi vanorasikirwa fomu yavo yemuviri, nekuti kana iwe usiri kudzidzisa kubva achiri mudiki (uye nguva dzose), hazvigoneke kuchengetedza zvese mikana yemuviri. Kazhinji, kana tikabvisa zvinhu zvemagariro, musiyano uripo pakati pesimba revarume nevakadzi zvisina basa, anonyora kudaro Dawling, uye isu pachedu tinoita kuti zvioneke.
Iri bhuku rakaburitswa muna 2001, haana kuendeswa kuRussia zvakadaro. Kunyangwe izvo zvakakodzera zvinoita sekunge zvedu! Pfungwa huru yemaawa akapfava uye akawanda evashanduri uye oditors haidi: chero iwe usingapi musikana wacho zvakare kuti umhanye kana kukwira pamuti, unoita kuti isimbe zvakanyanya. Ingo rangarira izvi.
Usarwa
Hazvina kunaka kutaura izvozvo, asi ichi ichokwadi: Mhirizhonga uye yemhirizhonga - pamhenderekedzo yeSosaiti yedu. Vazhinji vavengi vanonzwa kusashamiswa zvachose uye kuita nemhuri yavo zvese zvinofadzwa.
Hapana munhu anodzivirirwa kubva pachisimba, kunyangwe mukadzi akangwara kwazvo pasi. Mhirizhonga Yomumba - Imwe chete yechitarisiko chake. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, kukwanisa kuzvidzivirira - hunyanzvi hunonzwisisika hunogona kuponesa hupenyu nehutano. Pese paunoda kutaura mwanasikana wangu kana kuti hanzvadzi mudiki "usabate, iwe uri musikana," rangarira, mune zvakatiparadzaniswa nazvo, uye usataure chero chinhu. Asi zviri nani kuudza vasikana kuti mafungiro echokwadi ari mune imwe nzira uye mune chero hukama, uye kuyaruka - maitiro ekuita kana vachiri kusangana nechisimba kumba, uye nezvekuzvidzivirira , Eheka.
Kuva akanaka
Varume vari muvakadzi vachiri kuona runako kunyanya, uyezve zvimwe zvese, - zvakanyatsoitika maneja mapoka akadai. Kubva pamakore ekutanga, runako rwakakosha kwazvo, runogona kutoita zvakanyanya kune zvese hupenyu hwedu hwese, uye humwe hunhu hwese uye chimiro chatototeverwa.
Panguva imwecheteyo, izvo zvinodiwa pakuonekwa kwevakadzi zvinowanzoitika kuti zvive zviviri: Vanofanira kuratidza mabhuru emuviri, asi kwete pachena kwete kufungidzirwa. Penda, asi kwete kupenya zvakanyanya, nekuti ipapo ichataridzika kusekwa. Izvo hazvigone kuve zvizere pasina zino, saka chete bhuruu masokisi kuenda. Rondedzero yacho inogona kuenderera mberi ichisvika. Dzimwe nguva mutsetse pakati pevakatendeka uye zvisiri izvo zvakanyanyisa kuita zvekuti hazvigoneke kuwira mune imwe yekunyanyisa.