Kubatsirwa mubatanidzwa kunoparadza stereotypes
Nei Mwedzi Usiri "Zvemashoko Evakadzi chete", uye nei vachifanira kunetsekana nevakomana kungofanana nevasikana? Kungoti kuenda kumwedzi hakufanirwe kunge kuri kwerudzi rwechikadzi kutukwa, izvo zvinofanirwa kuvanzwa uye zvaunoda kunyara, zvine chokwadi naamai vevana vaviri veTara ens.
MunaSeptember 2019, mukadzi akaudza muboka rakavharwa paFacebook, kuti vanakomana vake - mauto ane makore gumi nemashanu uye ane makore gumi nematanhatu. kamwe kamwe vanoda shamwari dzavo kana vaunodzidza navo.
Kwemaawa akati wandei, iyo post yakarova vanopfuura zviuru makumi matanhatu nezvitatu uye mazwi mazhinji anowanzoitika. Uku ndiko kutaura kweTara kutaura nezve chiitiko chake muColumn yeCafemom.
Chokwadi: Maererano neUNICEF, 26 muzana yevagari vepasi pekuenda kumwedzi. Ichi chikamu chimwe chikamu chedu tese. Uye kunyangwe izvi, vakadzi vazhinji nevasikana vachakuudza kuti kunyangwe kutaura nezve kumwedzi muruzhinji ndeye taboo. Asi seamai vemwanasikana gumi vane makore gumi uye nevanakomana vaviri vachiri kuyaruka, ndinovimba kuzvichinja.
Pakutanga mwedzi uyu ndakatumira mufananidzo wevanakomana vangu muboka rakavharwa paFacebook, vakatarisa posvo yakava veral. Ndakaita iyi mufananidzo muchitoro kwatakaenda kunotenga gore idzva rechikoro. "Vakomana vangu nhasi vakandibatsira pakutenga," ndakanyora. - Ndiani aisanganisira iyo yekutanga brans yehanzvadzi yavo. "
Ndobva ndawedzera:
Ivo vaviri vavanakomana vangu vari mumusha backpack pane tampon uye gasket, kana vachida mumwe munhu kubva kushamwari dzavo. Ini ndangova amai vanoedza kubvisa murume gomo!
Mushure mekuburitswa, posvo yakakurumidza kuve yehutachiona uye yakakonzera kuita nekukurumidza kwevatauri. "Posvo yakagamuchira zvakanyanya mhinduro dzakanaka," anoyeuka Tara. "Uye vakadzi vakafemera pazera ramakore makumi mana, makumi mashanu, makore makumi matanhatu, ekugovana nyaya dzinotyisa kubva pahudiki hwake, apo ivo vaitodiwa hutsanana, asi ivo vakanga vasipo."
Mumwe mukadzi akarangarira nyaya yekuti iye, ave musikana mudiki, "akaita" nembatya, uye shamwari yake akamupa sweta kuti agone kumusunga muchiuno. Achiri kuyeuka mutsa wake.
Nekudaro, pakanga paine zvimwezve nyaya dzine chekuita nekunyadziswa, kunyara uye kusabatsira. Vakadzi vasingaperi vevakadzi vakaudzwa nezvemadzibaba nevarume izvo "hazvina kumboenda kuchitoro che hutsinye." Vamwe vatauri vakatuka kuyedza kwangu kushandura nzira yekare yekunyama kusvika pamwedzi.
Zvakanyatsojeka kwandiri: Kuenda kumwedzi kuchiri kunoramba kuchiramba kukwegura tabooo, kubva kwatakatadza kubvisa - asi ini ndinoita zvese kuti ndive varume vanoiparadza.
Mhembwe dzinoitika, "Ndakatsanangurira vanakomana vangu. - Ivo vanotya kwazvo uye vanogona kuve vanoshungurudza. Batsirai pano kungave mutsa uye kunzwisisa kubva kune chero. Iva murume uyu.
Muchokwadi, miviri yedu inongoita izvo zvavanoitirwa mumuviri. Saka nei tichifanira kunyara?
Ndakatanga ndatanga kutaura navo nezve gore rino rapfuura mushure mekuverenga chinyorwa nezvemurume, uyo panguva yemushandirapamwe munzira yeAppalachian akapa Tampuck mukadzi wake "akatekwa." Zvaisakanyiridzwa ikoko kuti akataura chimwe chinhu senge: "Hapana chinotyisa, ndakakurira naamai vangu nehanzvadzi ..." - uye zvakandishamisa kusvika pakadzika kwemweya.
Pane imwe nguva ini ndakatungamira mota uye ndikatarisa pavanakomana vangu mune yekudzokorora girazi, ndisina hanya nekuvanongedzera kuisa tampon mumamapepa avo mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, Vakaita sekunge vaifunga nezvazvo, uye havana kutaura chero chinhu kunyanya, nekuti ivo vari kuyaruka.
Shanduko yakauya apo "rubatsiro" rwakadaro rwunoda shamwari Eliji, uye "akateera" kuchikoro. Kubva pazuva iro Eriya vakatanga kupfeka tampare tampon negeketi mumusuwo wake, uye mike akaita zvimwe chete. Zvadaro, T-shati yakaudza shamwari dzake dzepedyo izvo, zvingangoitika, muCover yake kune sweatshirt sweatshirt, uye mumusuwo wake - tampare tampon.
"Asi Elija akaudzwa nezvazvo kune vese kushamwari dzake dzose: vese vakomana, uye vasikana," vanoyeuka Tara. Akataura kuti, kunyangwe paine vamwe vakomana vakanakidzwa pamusoro pake, vazhinji vakati "kutonhorera, dude." Akacherekedzawo kuti vasikana vake vakazvitora zvakanyanya, uye vakamupa zano kuti achengete imwe nziyo dzakatonyanya kusimba mumota.
Hupenyu nevakomana vachiri kuyaruka vari muhusimbe kusingaperi kutenderera kwemabasa, kuremedza nzara nzara, kugunun'una, kuseka uye nguva diki dzedzidzo - dzakadai seiyi.
Zvese zvaunogona kuita kuti uvabatsire kunzwisisa izvo zvakakosha chaizvo nguva, uye hongu - kuvheneka) - zvine musoro.
Uye paunonyora zvinhu izvi zvese, uchikurukura nguva dzose, zvinova zvakajairika kune vana vako.
Ndinovimba kuti vamiriri vezvevakadzi vese vechikadzi, kusanganisira vana vevana, vachaziva kuti kuvanakomana vangu zvakachengeteka kutsvaga nzira dzekunyepa kana vakambonwa navo. Asi zvakatonyanya kutarisira kuti zvese zviito zvidiki izvi zvichachinja kuti vadzidzi vechikoro chesekondari vanoona sei nyaya yese.
Tinoyemura nemwoyo wose kutsunga kweTara Arens nevanakomana vake uye tariro munguva pfupi inotevera kuratidzwa kwakadaro kwekunetseka nezvevamwe kuchawanikwa muzvikoro zveRussia.
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