Pamwe chete nekunakidzwa: Zvese izvo vabereki vanofanira kuziva nezvehushamwari hwevana

Mwedzi yekutanga yehupenyu, vana vanonyanya kutaurirana chete nevabereki uye dzimwe nhengo dzemhuri.

Kana nguva yacho yasvika yekufamba nenzvimbo yekutamba, enda kune kindergarten kana chikamu, denderedzwa rekukurukurirana riri kuwedzera. Mune dzidziso.

Havasi vese vana vari voga vanotanga kutamba uye vese vanonyanya kushamwaridzana nevamwe vana. Isu tinonzwisisa, kana zvakajairika, kungave kuri madikanwa kupindira uye kubatsira mwana nekutsvaga shamwari, uye nekupindura mimwe mibvunzo zvine chekuita neushamwari hwevana.

Vana vanotanga kutaurirana kupi?

Dzimwe fundo dzinoratidza kuti vana vanotanga kutaurirana kunyange vasati vadzidza kutaura. Vashandi veAustralia University of Charles isina kuitisa vana vadiki uye vakacherekedza zvinhu zvakawanda zvinonakidza.

Vana vane makore matanhatu kusvika matanhatu kusvika gumi nemasere vanoshandisa kutaurirana kusataurirana uye kutsigirana, uye vanokokawo mitambo yavo. Makamera akatoda, semusikana ane gore rimwe chete akaedza kudzikamisa mwana akatya kumukadzi, achizvifukidza nejira rinoonekera kuti akanzwa zvakanyanya.

Uye uve shamwari?

Ne psychologist uye munyori webhuku "Chii Chiri Kufunga Nezvese Zve?" Angarad Radkin anoti kusvika pamakore matatu, vana vanofarira kutamba padyo nevamwe vana, asi kwete navo.

Maitiro aya anonzi mutambo wepakati. Mukufamba kwemitambo iyi, mwana anoisa hwaro hwekuvandudzwa kwehunyanzvi hwemagariro. Panguva ino, iwe unogona kutopa mwana kune kindergarten kana mugs kuti azoshandiswe kupindirana nevamwe vana uye kugadzirisa kusawirirana navo. Mwana achanzwisisa kuti anofarira kuva shamwari nevana vane ruzha kana kuti vana vanonyarara.

Kwemakore matatu mwana, asi haadi kutaurirana zvachose. Izvi zvakaipa?

Mushure memakore matatu, havasi vese vanotsvaga kutamba nevamwe vana. Vamwe vachiri kushuvira kushandisa nguva vari voga, nematoyi avo kanawo nekukurumidza vaneta nekutaurirana, saka usave nenguva yekuita shamwari. Izvi zvakajairika, vana vese vakasiyana. Mwana anogona kuda nguva yakawanda kuti ajaire uye kutanga shamwari navo.

Kana mwana achitaurirana zvakanaka newe uye kutaura pasina kunyarara, asi yakarasika munharaunda yevamwe vana, zvimwe achanyara. Usamanikidza kutaurirana, asi ndiudze nzira yekutsungirira nekunyara. Asingazvininininiri kuti apende uye fungidzira kuti sei achazorodza vana pane saiti kana muIlingergarten, vanofunga nezvekukurukurirana kuri nyore kune mumwe mwana (kukurukurirana kwekatuni kana mhuka dzinovaraidza). Kukurukurirana kwakadaro kunogona kuridzwa mune chidiki chiitiko nematoyi ako emwana waunofarira.

Zvimwe iwe unofanirwa kubata chiremba?

Izvo zvakakosha kusiyanisa kunyara kubva kune zviratidzo zveutiss. Steensifying Vana vanogona kudzivirira kuona vanoona nevatorwa, asi panguva imwe chete vakatarisa vabereki vavo uye kutsvaga rutsigiro rwavo. Nekufamba kwenguva, mwana anonyara achazorora uye kubatana nevamwe vana vanotamba muSandbox.

Ingosamumanikidza uye ipo parutivi rwake, kana dzimwe hama kana vabereki vevana panzvimbo iyi vari kuedza kumuita kuti abatane nevana. Anofanira kunzwa kutsigirwa kwako uye kuswededzwa. Asi panguva imwe chete izvo zvinodikanwa kuti unzwisise kuti unoshandira semunhu mukuru akavimbika, uye usatsiva shamwari dzake.

Vana vane Autism vanogona kunge vasingatsvaki rutsigiro, vachitarisa vabereki, uye havazofariri mitambo zvachose. Pane zvimwe zviratidzo: Mwana haatevedzere vabereki kana vachinge varova mumaoko ake, vanonhuwirira nemanonhuhwirira, kazhinji, vanodzokorora matoyi mumutsara) uye pane imwe nguva zvinomira kutaura Pane imwe nguva.

Kana iwe ukaona izvi zviratidzo uye kunetseka nekuda kwehunhu hwemwana, ipapo iwe unofanirwa kubata nyanzvi.

Uye kana ndikaedza kuita mwana kuita shamwari nemumwe munhu?

Iwe uri kure nemubereki wekutanga anetsekana nenyaya yekuti mwana wake haawani shamwari. Nekufamba kwenguva, vabereki vanonzwisisa zviri nani kumirira. Ehe, gore rega rega kushushikana nemwana achakura. Vamwe vanhu vanowana shamwari dzekutanga chete mukuyaruka, vamwe vatove kuyunivhesiti kana kusatombobata shamwari dzepedyo.

Vabereki vari veboka rekupedzisira vanowanzo projekita zviitiko zvavo nekuda kwekusurukirwa kumwana. Asi kana mwana akagadzikana, usarurarire uye usingamisi kutaurirana. Uyezve, chikamu cheshumba chinogona kuitika pamhepo zvino: Vana vanonyara vanogona kutaura zviri nani mukunyora nevavanodzidza navo uye vanoziva muyadhi.

Mwana anoda kuwana shamwari, asi usada vamwe vana. Maitiro Ekumubatsire?

Vana havasi kugara zvakanaka kazhinji kwemwana ane hushamwari. Vanogona kungofuratira avo vanoda kutaurirana navo.

Govera mwana haayedze kushamwaridzana nevana vese pane iyo saiti kana mune kingergarten nekukurumidza, asi kutarisa vana mumwe kana vaviri vana vanofanana naye, votaura navo. Zvichida kubudikidza navo achakwanisa kuita zvishoma nezvishoma kushamwari nevamwe vana vese. Asi kuve neshamwari imwe chete kana mbiri dzakajairika.

Kana iwe usingakwanise kusangana nemumwe munhu, mwana akakodzera kutsvaga shamwari pane imwe nzvimbo yekutamba, mune denderedzwa kana chikamu chemitambo.

Kunyangwe zvisingafadzi kubvuma, dzimwe nguva zvinozova mumwana pachako. Chengetedza maitiro ake. Anogona kuva neuchenjeri dzinodzivisa vamwe vana. Semuenzaniso, anotora matoyi kubva kwavari. Isu tatoudza maitiro ekuita mumamiriro akadaro.

Uye kana zvasvika kune kupopotedzana?

CSYPOLOGIST Holly Spiffrin anotenda kuti vabereki vanofanira kukanganisa apo kukakavara pane iyo nzvimbo yekutamba ichisvika kuFrank kubhuroka kana kurwa. Kugadzirisa kukakavara, kunopa vabereki kukumbira vana pamusoro pezviri kuitika uye kuteerera kune vhezheni yeumwe neumwe wavo. Ipapo iwe unofanirwa kubatsira vana kuwana mhinduro yekukakavara.

Bvunza kuti vanobvuma kuita kuti munhu wese aguta, asi usape sarudzo yakagadzirirwa. Kana vana vasingazvinzwisisi pachavo, ipa zvaunosarudza. Usabatana neyechemo nemwana, taurirana naye kuburikidza nemubereki wake. Kana mubereki asina kugadzirira kupinda muhurukuro yekuvaka, tora mwana uye usaite simba zvachose, asi ratidza kuti kune vanhu vasina kugadzirira kutaurirana, hazvina kukodzera kushandisa nguva uye simba.

Paunowana iwe pamba kana mune imwe nzvimbo yakachengeteka, unogona kukurukura mamiriro acho nemwana, uitsigire uye itsanangure maitiro ako.

Mwana haadi kutaura nevezera, asi anotambanudza vana vakura. Vabvumire kuti vave shamwari?

Hama dzine vakuru uye shamwari uye vana veshamwari dzemhuri vanowanzoita sevana vadiki vane kutonhorera, nekuti vane rusununguko rwakawanda, ruzivo uye ruzivo uye ruzivo uye ruzivo uye ruzivo uye ruzivo uye hunyanzvi. Iwe uchakurumidza kuona kana kutaurirana kwavo kwaunza zvakanakira (mwana anozowedzera zvakanyanya, zvakanyanya zvakakomba uye zvichingodaro) kana kukuvadza (mwana anotanga kukupika), uye sarudza kuti akurudzire hushamwari uhwu.

Mwana akawana shamwari, asi ini handizvifarire. Kuvarambidza kuti vataure?

Kunyangwe kana mwana ari nyore kuita shamwari, hazviwanzo kufadza vabereki. Shamwari dzemwana dzinogona kunge dzisingade. Takanyora nezve dambudziko iri zvakanyanya nezve dambudziko iri uye nzira dzekugadzirisa pano.

Dzimwe nguva vabereki vanogadzirirwa kumberi kushamwaridzana neshamwari yemwana wavo. Iwe ungaita kunge ungaita kuti haakwanise mwana wako: ane ruzha kana akanyarara, akanyarara, akanyanya kuzvimirira kana kuti anovimba nevabereki. Zvichida chokwadi ndechekuti mwana uyu ndiye chaiye akatarisana neako.

Vana vepfungwa dzepfungwa dzevana Haim Ginott vakafunga nezve hushamwari hwekupikisa hwakawanda hwakabudirira sarudzo. Kusiyana nevana vane hunhu hwakanaka pane mumwe nemumwe. Semuenzaniso, vana vakadzikisira vanobatsira zvehasha kuti vadzore kutsamwa, varidzi vanogadzira mbozha panties.

Ungaita sei kuti shamwari yemwana ine muchetura?

Shamwari yemwana, wakatanga kukuda, haigaro kungova yakanaka kwazvo. Kana vana vakataurwa nemufaro, uye mwana wako akarega kutaura nezveshamwari dzake uye akatanga kushandisa nguva ari oga, aigona kutarisana nekunyomba, kuseka uye kumwe kuratidzwa kwekukurukurirana zvisina hutano.

Vana vepfu vanoerekana vanongoerekana vabvunza mumwe munhu mumitambo yezana kana pasina zvikonzero hazvina kukokwa kushanyira pamwe chete nemunhu wese, kupomera shamwari nezviito zvavasina kuita, uye kumisikidza shamwari kunopesana. Bvunza mwana kana asina kucherechedza shamwari dzake dzehunhu hwakadaro.

Vana vanonetsa kuziva manipulations, nekuti shamwari dzepfuti dzinoita kuti zviite sekufunga kuti chinhu chose chiri mavari. Kumbira mwana kuti nei ari iye anonzwa aine mhosva kune shamwari yake. Wobva wabvunza, angadai akambozvibvuma zvakadaro (fungai shamwari, achivasiya muzvinhu zvavasina). Izvi zvichamubatsira kuongorora maitiro eshamwari uye kusarudza kuti vanofanira kuramba vachitaurirana.

Ini ndinoda mwana, uye vabereki vake havana. Ive nechokwadi chekutaurirana navo?

Taifunga kuti hazvina kunaka kuita kuti mwana ave shamwari nemunhu kana asingade. Haufanirwe kuzvimanikidzawo. Ushamwari hwemwana wako hunosvika kumberi. Uye hauna chaunotaurirana nevabereki vake kana vabereki vavo vasingakudi iwe.

Panguva imwecheteyo, iva ane hunyoro, usateerere vanhu ava zvakanyanya uye usaveveuye. Kupfuura zvese, iwe uchafanirwa kupindirana navo uye pambiriro yekutamba. Kana vakarwadza kuvengana, vanogona kurambidza mwana wavo kuti vataure neyako.

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