Saka, matongo e20020 akasara kumashure. Nekudaro, kune vanhu vazhinji, zvinoita sekunge, zvishoma zvachinja, kunze kwegore rose mukarenda. Kana iwe uchifarira kuitira kuti vanyatsomugadzirira sei mumwedzi inotevera yeGroundhog - uye, pamwe, kunyange kuwana mufaro - heino mamwe matipi.
Ronga kufara zvishomaKana iwe uchinzwa nezverudzi rwevanhu vakajaira muna Ndira kuti vaite hurongwa hombe regore rinouya, zvishoma zvishoma. "Iye zvino unogona kuronga zvinhu zvidiki zviri kutarisira," anodaro purofesa phisteschology yeyunivhesiti yeVirginia Bethansia Tichman. Sezvo hurongwa hwakajairwa kumhuri yake - sevamwe vanhu vazhinji - vakaenda kushamisika, ivo vakauya nemabatiro avakaita. Mumwe nemumwe wemhuri akauya nebasa rinonakidza. Semuenzaniso, pachikumbiro chemwanasikana wedangwe, mafani ezviratidziro "akanakisa britain", mhuri iyi yakasarudza "kufonera toni yekubheka uye kuita chimwe chinhu chakanyatsoomarara." Ronga "zvese zvinounza iwe simbadza yemufaro," zvakanyanya sezvinobvira mumwedzi inouya, Tichman anopa zano.
Sarudza izvo zvakakoshaPachine mwedzi yezvirambidzo pamberi, uye denda ringaite kunge chirango chisingaperi. Kunyangwe vakagara pamba uye kuramba kufamba - zvakanyatsonaka kujeri chaiyo, pane chinhu chimwe chinogona kudzidziswa kubva kuzvirongo zvakanyatsoenderana nemitsara: kana kuwandisa) izvo mitch abrabram, psychological Hutano hwehutano hwepfungwa psychologist mune itsva jersey majeri.
Chiremba Abrams anowanzoisa varwere vayo mibvunzo yakati wandei, semuenzaniso, chii uye ndiani anokosha kwauri? Ungade sei kuona nhaka yako? Uye iwe wagadzirira kuitei kuti ufadze hupenyu hwako sezvinobvira mumamiriro aripo? Uye chimwezve chinhu: "Isu tiri zvisikwa zveruzhinji. Mamiriro ezvinhu dzimwe nguva anoita kuti zviome kuvaka, kusimbisa uye kukura hukama. Ungaita sei kuti uve nehukama pachako kuti iwe uitewo hukama nevamwe vanhu? "
Dr. Abrams anoti makore makumi maviri nemasere echiitiko mumajeri akamudzidzisa pazvinhu zviviri. Kutanga, vanhu vanogadzikana uye vanokwanisa kujairana, chechipiri, mufaro unobva mukati. "Paunonyanya kuziva zvaunazvo, unonzwa zviri nani," anodaro. - Ini handireve chete zvinhu zvekunyama. Inogona kunge iri yako yechokwadi yekuenzana, inogona kuve hutano hwako. "
Gara munguvaIyo psychology yemitambo yekutsungirira inotiudza kuti muviri unokwanisa zvakanyanya kupfuura uropi hunofunga. (Kana mumwe munhu akakuudza munaKurume, ko denda rekupedzisira, ungangofunga kuti unogona kurarama neizvi?) Saka tarisa pane yazvino nguva, uye kwete mumufananidzo wose.
Kunetseka kunobva pane chokwadi chekuti iwe wakamiswa kune ramangwana, asi "kana iwe ukachengeta simba renguva ino uye usingafungi kuti yakawanda sei mamaira ari mberi, dzimwe nguva zvinova nyore," anodaro munhu wepfungwa kubva kuYunivhesiti yeBata Joe Daniels, Iye munyori wechidzidzo chinokonzera kusagadzikana uye kushungurudzika pasi pemamiriro ekunze.
Maitiro ekugara sei munguva? Kune marudzi ese ekurovedza muviri kuti uzive, imwe yacho ndeyekunyora zvinhu zvishanu zvaunotenda nazvo, kunyangwe zvidiki zvavari - hongu, kapu yekofi inopisa yakakosha. Paunonzwa kushungurudzika, funga chete nezvekufamba kwenguva inotevera kana zuva rinotevera, uye usave nezve vhiki rinotevera kana mwedzi unotevera.
Dr. Danils Kudzidza Kwekudzidza kwakaratidza kuti nzira dzekupona dzakapona dzakadai sekudzokorora nekudzokorora uye nekunyanyisa kushandisa doro - kukanganisa mwero wekufunganya uye kushushikana kwevanhu kupfuura nzira dzakanaka, dzakadai sekutsigira kwatinotsigira. "Edza kuita chimwe chinhu chakanaka, asi zvirokwazvo usingaite zvakaipa," anodaro. Hapana anopa kuti arambe jongwe pakupera kwezuva kana masikati ekesi. Mukufunga kwake, matambudziko anomuka kana iwe uchigara uchishandisa zvinhu izvi kuchinja manzwiro ako, uye wobva wanzwa uine mhosva nazvo.
Tsvaga izvo zvaunogona kudzoraKana iwe uchinzwa humbowo hwedenda, izvi zvinokonzerwa nenyaya yekuti ine chimwe chinhu chakajairika neutapwa chaidzo. Uku ndiko kusaziva kwakakosha, kunofunga kuti aimbova mupurisa mukuru uye psychologist vepfungwa kubva kuSouth Wales Emma Kavana, akadzidzisa psychology yekukurukurirana. Vanhu avo, vachive vanotsvaga psychology vanonzwa zviri nani, kazhinji vanoedza kudzorera kutonga pamusoro pezvakatipoteredza. Vanoti: "Nhasi ndichaita matanho zana pane kamera" kana "ndichaita makumi mashanu puspups."
"Mamwe emhinduro dzako anobatsira kudzoreredza pfungwa yekudzora," KAVA anoona. Kurovedza muviri isarudzo yakanaka, nekuti ivo vanowedzera mwero we endorphins, asi haufanirwe kuurayiwa kusvikira uchitsvaira ziya. Zvinogona kunge zviri zvese zvinoita kuti unzwe kutonga pamusoro pechiitiko chako chezuva nezuva, ingave imwe mhando yenzira kana diki yezuva nezuva tsika.
Nakidzwa nekushanduka uye kushiviriraMunhevedzano yezvidzidzo zvakabudiswa muna Gumiguru mune magazini emberi muPsychology, yainzi yaonekwa kuti kusagadzikana kunoenderana nekubatana. Mune kumwe chete kudzidza, chikamu chevatori vechikamu chakataura kuti vaizotaura nekutaura (izvo zvinofanirwa kutyisa), chikamu chechipiri - icho chavachaongorora zvekutaura, uye chetatu chakakundikana, uye ivo vachadzidza gare gare ivo ndinofanira kuita. Ipapo mapoka ese akagadzirisa anagraphs akaomarara, uye boka racho raiziva kuti ndeipi basa raizoita nhamba diki yekuedza kugadzirisa mapuzzle. (Izvi zvinotevera muhuwandu ndevaya vaifunga kuti vanofanirwa kutaura nekutaura.)
Imwe yedzidziso dzinotsanangura kuti kana paine kusava nechokwadi, "vanhu vanochengeta simba ravo rose kusvika pane izvo zvavasingazive," purofesa wePsychology University yeTekinoroji uye mutungamiri weJessica Alquist's Evha Rondedzero zvinyorwa.
Sekureva kwaTichman, uyo akadzidzawo kusagadzikana, kushoma kufumurwa kune inhibition uye kwakaringana nekusagadzikana kwevanhu vanochinjika vanhu. Kana iwe wakakora, zvibvunze iwe, kunyangwe iwe uchimhura nemhedziso kana sarudza zvakanyanyisa. Pane imwe nzira yekutarisa mamiriro ezvinhu here? Iwe unogona kufunga nezve munhu anoyemura, uye fungidzira kuti munhu uyu anotarisana nekushushikana, kunyangwe aipindura sei mamiriro ezvinhu aya. Vanhu avo mairi girazi risina kunetseka, usanetseka: hazvireve kuti iwe unofanirwa kugara uchifunga kuti zvinhu zvichafamba zvakanaka. "Hapachina nzira chaiyo yekufunga nezvemamiriro ezvinhu, nekuti mamiriro ezvinhu uye zvinodiwa zvinogara zvichichinja," anodaro Tichman.
Kushivirira kusaziva kunogona kuve kwakagadziridzwa - kunyangwe mumamiriro ekusimbisa. Edza chimwe chinhu chitsva, chausati wamboita, zvinodikanwa kuti iwe utye zvishoma. Dr. Tichman akaedza kusvetuka neparachute uye pane tarzanque kuti azvizundire, asi haufanire kuenda kure. Iwe unogona kungo nyora meseji kune munhu wamakasangana naye munguva pfupi yapfuura uye angade kuita shamwari. Chinhu chakakosha kuita chimwe chinhu chausinganzwisisi kuti zvinhu zvese zvapera, nekuti zvinokuita kuti usaite hanya nekusagadzikana.
"Unogona kuzviita," anodaro Tichman. "Hazvina kunaka, asi hazvina njodzi." (Zvakanaka, kana usingasarudze mutambo weparachute.)